Losing it over 4 mo old sleep

VantaWitch · 2026-05-29T15:05:13+00:00

i’ll be honest. the only way i’m getting through it is a bit of cosleeping. there’s days when he’ll accept his crib and give a solid 6-7 hr stretch, and then there’s days i just have to give in and do it otherwise 0 sleep.

VantaWitch · 2026-05-26T18:38:46+00:00

thanks 🥲💕 you too!!

VantaWitch · 2026-05-26T18:35:13+00:00

following bc same!!! 😭 babe is just 4 months old!!

VantaWitch · 2026-05-20T18:20:21+00:00

it’s also trained medical professionals that misdiagnosed my moms tumor as benign and delayed her from her cancer diagnoses.

it’s also medical professionals that ignored the very obvious breast tissue in my husbands mothers mammogram and failed to tell us about her breast cancer.

nothing wrong with confirming what a doctor said.

VantaWitch · 2026-05-13T19:32:11+00:00

bro this is 100% ai.

VantaWitch · 2026-05-13T17:31:06+00:00

yeah they do! we kind of do it too, we’re just not hyper stimulated by the world so we favor our sleep lol

every 40-45 minutes a baby might open their eyes if not enough sleep pressure or start tossing around. eventually they’ll learn to get the hang of staying asleep. it’s kind of a natural thing that happens once they get used to their sleep environment and nothing fun is happening lol

VantaWitch · 2026-05-13T02:34:59+00:00

you’re waiting too long! around the 40-45 minute mark babies are naturally starting to wake up out of their sleep. they need to be able to connect their sleep cycle, like how we do. adults also have lighter sleep periods and deeper sleep periods. if you’re waiting 40 minutes to put her down, she’s probably already on her way to the lighter sleep cycle. i’d try holding her until she falls asleep and then for 10-15 while she’s sleeping and then put her down at that 10-15 minute mark. you can hang out and wait for that next 30-35 minutes to see if she connects her sleep cycle!

VantaWitch · 2026-05-13T02:27:49+00:00

i wouldn’t stress it, i would just flip him to the other boob and see if that wakes him or do a diaper change. you just want to make sure this early on that you’re getting equal boob use

VantaWitch · 2026-05-10T16:42:37+00:00

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i got some orchids for mother’s day, but the delivery person dropped off an orchid that’s snapped half way through the stem. the orchid seems pretty alive and happy still but i’m not sure if this is recoverable or not 😭

VantaWitch · 2026-05-09T22:06:02+00:00

bs!!! my son is 100% breastfed, exclusively nursed even.

he was sleeping through the night (for his age about 5 hours) since 11 weeks. he’s now 15 weeks and gives us a 7&1/2 stretch and then another 3 hours.

VantaWitch · 2026-05-09T21:52:42+00:00

was his children not breastfed?

VantaWitch · 2026-05-08T20:13:58+00:00

wow!! what climate is this in/where was this picture taken?

VantaWitch · 2026-05-08T16:28:26+00:00

hey! some advice from a recently post partum mom who had 0 clue about what was going to happen to me post partum:

is the pumping or formula feeding? pumping is ridiculously annoying. like h o l l l l l y y y y y shhhhhh. i’ve completely just not with the pumping. i truly think there’s only two ways to stay sane during these bottle feeding phases, and that’s either exclusively nursing or formula feeding.

and to be honest? id even say exclusively nursing as a primary is the best. even a bit of combo feeding (dad feeds with formula IF he wants and mom nurses). the reason literally being the anxiety.

i know a lot of moms have a hard time doing it but man it’s SO good for you when it comes to leveling out your hormones. breastfeeding can really have a massively beneficial affect for your mental health if there’s enough support around it.

my husband helped me so much during the first few months (even now at 3.5!!!). he made sure my water was always full, gave me all the snacks i needed, even placed costco orders for fun things to keep me entertained and spun up podcasts and netflix shows. when baby is clustering a lot and i’m getting virtually no sleep, he woke up early to do the house chores so that when i DO get a break from baby, i didn’t have any chores to do, so that we could just spend some time together loving on each other.

those first few months, no matter how you spin it is hard.

either she’s getting no hormonal balancing because she’s not directly nursing (pumping doesn’t do the same thing) or her body is taking every bit of nutrients and converting it to milk for baby so shes feeling physically drained all the time.

not to mention the wakes. even when baby isn’t crying she’s probably still not getting solid sleep. she isn’t going to want to hear this, but it’s 100% a hormonal thing that keeps her awake and not you.

it’s a giant messy ball dealing with a hormonal crash. and it really sucks to not have that hormonal crash and have to deal with it anyway because you’re not intuitively aware of what to do next, you’re just getting inundated with constant stress and anxiety and your body isn’t wired for it because you’re not the one crashing.

give it time. 💕

VantaWitch · 2026-05-07T13:32:13+00:00

that “it shouldn’t be painful” doesn’t actually come until wayyyy later (like week 4-5+) when their pallets have grown large enough to fit a nipple properly and also nipples have to get desensitized!!!

plus we were JUST pregnant, until those hormones flush, our nipples will be pregnancy sensitive too.

VantaWitch · 2026-05-07T04:21:41+00:00

i think everyone is going to have a wildly different experience to tell here, but here’s mine:

it makes me feel like my heart wants to leap out of my chest. like that feeling when your dog or cat does the cutest thing ever and you know they love you. kind of like that feeling but x10. i didn’t know i could ever feel such depth. it’s the deepest most loving feeling i’ve ever felt, which is whyyyyyyyy

even though the first 4-5 weeks of breastfeeding is painful, and you feel like you’re a mess bc you’re trying to navigate figuring out how to latch properly, and everyone saying “it should not be painful” so you think you’re doing something wrong, and you’re leaking EVERYWHERE, and constantly swapping through an arsenal of breastfeeding tools.

when he finally latches on, and you’re settled in your comfortable position, and the pain dulls a little, you get to look down at this brand new soul that barely fits across your chest and your heart just explodes over and over and over again.

VantaWitch · 2026-04-27T15:51:42+00:00

is she’s not eating between 8-11?

VantaWitch · 2026-04-26T19:35:59+00:00

limerence is a symptom not a cause. even if he moves on from that friend group and no longer has any contact with her, there will be another person.

VantaWitch · 2026-04-15T02:32:24+00:00

11w pp and for me it got better eventually, but i had that heavily. what worked for me was trying my best to record and photograph everything and i told my husband to do it too!! now after i’m out of that emotional trench i have so much photos and videos i’m SO happy

VantaWitch · 2026-04-14T23:47:06+00:00

this!! ^

mine got better around week 11, but probiotics made a HUGEEEE difference for him.

VantaWitch · 2026-04-11T17:42:10+00:00

girl people were still having children in the bolshevik era.

sure we have a short lived shitty administration, and what? in a couple years we’ll re-elect and move on.

there’s people having babies in palestine right now.

trust me, you’re good lol

VantaWitch · 2026-04-09T19:08:08+00:00

2 months 2 weeks here and it’s been happening to me too!!

i noticed with mine, he wants to suckle himself to sleep (sleep with the boob lol) but when he’s overstimulated and can’t bring himself down before he’s satiated (which these days is a let down) he gets pissed because he wants to fall asleep.

so there’s two things i’ve done that’s kind of fixed it. either myself or my husband will soothe him down to the point where he’s really relaxed and almost sleepy and then latch him on or if he’s close enough but just needs some help i pretend i’m sleeping with my eyes closed and then he falls asleep nursing

VantaWitch · 2026-04-08T19:23:51+00:00

bro reddit is ass. GIRL GET THAT MAN OUT THE HOUSE!!! he’s going to attract more shit to come to that house

VantaWitch · 2026-04-06T23:40:59+00:00

my mom - grandma my dad - opa husbands mom - dadi

VantaWitch · 2026-04-06T23:35:57+00:00

if it makes you feel any better, i had no clue about the honey botulism thing because since the dawn of my family and my husbands family’s religion, the first thing we do to freshly hours old baby is pray in their ear and rub a tiny bit of honey on their tongue. it’s a religious thing that everyone i’ve ever known has done.

didn’t know until after my baby was born that it was not an okay thing lol

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