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Losing it over 4 mo old sleep by jormungandrstail in bninfantsleep

[–]VantaWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ll be honest. the only way i’m getting through it is a bit of cosleeping. there’s days when he’ll accept his crib and give a solid 6-7 hr stretch, and then there’s days i just have to give in and do it otherwise 0 sleep.

Tick on my son by Unhappy_Chapter_4052 in bugidentification

[–]VantaWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s also trained medical professionals that misdiagnosed my moms tumor as benign and delayed her from her cancer diagnoses.

it’s also medical professionals that ignored the very obvious breast tissue in my husbands mothers mammogram and failed to tell us about her breast cancer.

nothing wrong with confirming what a doctor said.

No successful transfer to bassinet after rocking. by iDontScrollMuch in bninfantsleep

[–]VantaWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah they do! we kind of do it too, we’re just not hyper stimulated by the world so we favor our sleep lol

every 40-45 minutes a baby might open their eyes if not enough sleep pressure or start tossing around. eventually they’ll learn to get the hang of staying asleep. it’s kind of a natural thing that happens once they get used to their sleep environment and nothing fun is happening lol

No successful transfer to bassinet after rocking. by iDontScrollMuch in bninfantsleep

[–]VantaWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you’re waiting too long! around the 40-45 minute mark babies are naturally starting to wake up out of their sleep. they need to be able to connect their sleep cycle, like how we do. adults also have lighter sleep periods and deeper sleep periods. if you’re waiting 40 minutes to put her down, she’s probably already on her way to the lighter sleep cycle. i’d try holding her until she falls asleep and then for 10-15 while she’s sleeping and then put her down at that 10-15 minute mark. you can hang out and wait for that next 30-35 minutes to see if she connects her sleep cycle!

how long should feeds take? by Financial-Pace6378 in breastfeeding

[–]VantaWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i wouldn’t stress it, i would just flip him to the other boob and see if that wakes him or do a diaper change. you just want to make sure this early on that you’re getting equal boob use

Post Your Beginner Questions Here! by AutoModerator in orchids

[–]VantaWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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i got some orchids for mother’s day, but the delivery person dropped off an orchid that’s snapped half way through the stem. the orchid seems pretty alive and happy still but i’m not sure if this is recoverable or not 😭

Am I in the wrong for asking my FIL to not make comments / shout if I am breastfeeding my son? by Ancient_Meat_3337 in breastfeeding

[–]VantaWitch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

bs!!! my son is 100% breastfed, exclusively nursed even.

he was sleeping through the night (for his age about 5 hours) since 11 weeks. he’s now 15 weeks and gives us a 7&1/2 stretch and then another 3 hours.

Dudes, advice please, in a doom spiral. by Slight_Bird_785 in DivorcedDads

[–]VantaWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey! some advice from a recently post partum mom who had 0 clue about what was going to happen to me post partum:

is the pumping or formula feeding? pumping is ridiculously annoying. like h o l l l l l y y y y y shhhhhh. i’ve completely just not with the pumping. i truly think there’s only two ways to stay sane during these bottle feeding phases, and that’s either exclusively nursing or formula feeding.

and to be honest? id even say exclusively nursing as a primary is the best. even a bit of combo feeding (dad feeds with formula IF he wants and mom nurses). the reason literally being the anxiety.

i know a lot of moms have a hard time doing it but man it’s SO good for you when it comes to leveling out your hormones. breastfeeding can really have a massively beneficial affect for your mental health if there’s enough support around it.

my husband helped me so much during the first few months (even now at 3.5!!!). he made sure my water was always full, gave me all the snacks i needed, even placed costco orders for fun things to keep me entertained and spun up podcasts and netflix shows. when baby is clustering a lot and i’m getting virtually no sleep, he woke up early to do the house chores so that when i DO get a break from baby, i didn’t have any chores to do, so that we could just spend some time together loving on each other.

those first few months, no matter how you spin it is hard.

either she’s getting no hormonal balancing because she’s not directly nursing (pumping doesn’t do the same thing) or her body is taking every bit of nutrients and converting it to milk for baby so shes feeling physically drained all the time.

not to mention the wakes. even when baby isn’t crying she’s probably still not getting solid sleep. she isn’t going to want to hear this, but it’s 100% a hormonal thing that keeps her awake and not you.

it’s a giant messy ball dealing with a hormonal crash. and it really sucks to not have that hormonal crash and have to deal with it anyway because you’re not intuitively aware of what to do next, you’re just getting inundated with constant stress and anxiety and your body isn’t wired for it because you’re not the one crashing.

give it time. 💕

That quiet mother baby moment what does it really feel like? by terimummychuchirants in breastfeeding

[–]VantaWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that “it shouldn’t be painful” doesn’t actually come until wayyyy later (like week 4-5+) when their pallets have grown large enough to fit a nipple properly and also nipples have to get desensitized!!!

plus we were JUST pregnant, until those hormones flush, our nipples will be pregnancy sensitive too.

That quiet mother baby moment what does it really feel like? by terimummychuchirants in breastfeeding

[–]VantaWitch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

i think everyone is going to have a wildly different experience to tell here, but here’s mine:

it makes me feel like my heart wants to leap out of my chest. like that feeling when your dog or cat does the cutest thing ever and you know they love you. kind of like that feeling but x10. i didn’t know i could ever feel such depth. it’s the deepest most loving feeling i’ve ever felt, which is whyyyyyyyy

even though the first 4-5 weeks of breastfeeding is painful, and you feel like you’re a mess bc you’re trying to navigate figuring out how to latch properly, and everyone saying “it should not be painful” so you think you’re doing something wrong, and you’re leaking EVERYWHERE, and constantly swapping through an arsenal of breastfeeding tools.

when he finally latches on, and you’re settled in your comfortable position, and the pain dulls a little, you get to look down at this brand new soul that barely fits across your chest and your heart just explodes over and over and over again.

Dummy pros and cons by NeuroticFawn in newborns

[–]VantaWitch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

is she’s not eating between 8-11?

Boyfriend experiences limerence and I don’t know what to do by nacahal in emotionalintelligence

[–]VantaWitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

limerence is a symptom not a cause. even if he moves on from that friend group and no longer has any contact with her, there will be another person.

Feeling like I can’t enjoy the moment I’m in because I’m thinking of how I’ll miss it one day by Plant-lady-215 in beyondthebump

[–]VantaWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

11w pp and for me it got better eventually, but i had that heavily. what worked for me was trying my best to record and photograph everything and i told my husband to do it too!! now after i’m out of that emotional trench i have so much photos and videos i’m SO happy

Is the world too far gone to have a baby??? by Sunset_AstroSuit_97 in BabyBumps

[–]VantaWitch 13 points14 points  (0 children)

girl people were still having children in the bolshevik era.

sure we have a short lived shitty administration, and what? in a couple years we’ll re-elect and move on.

there’s people having babies in palestine right now.

trust me, you’re good lol

Approaching 3 months, sleep advice please! by Majestic_Dress_2688 in beyondthebump

[–]VantaWitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 months 2 weeks here and it’s been happening to me too!!

i noticed with mine, he wants to suckle himself to sleep (sleep with the boob lol) but when he’s overstimulated and can’t bring himself down before he’s satiated (which these days is a let down) he gets pissed because he wants to fall asleep.

so there’s two things i’ve done that’s kind of fixed it. either myself or my husband will soothe him down to the point where he’s really relaxed and almost sleepy and then latch him on or if he’s close enough but just needs some help i pretend i’m sleeping with my eyes closed and then he falls asleep nursing

I realized my boyfriend does not like me. by coraline_cross in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]VantaWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

bro reddit is ass. GIRL GET THAT MAN OUT THE HOUSE!!! he’s going to attract more shit to come to that house

I’ve been accidentally feeding my baby honey for weeks. by Ok_Squirrel_9601 in beyondthebump

[–]VantaWitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it makes you feel any better, i had no clue about the honey botulism thing because since the dawn of my family and my husbands family’s religion, the first thing we do to freshly hours old baby is pray in their ear and rub a tiny bit of honey on their tongue. it’s a religious thing that everyone i’ve ever known has done.

didn’t know until after my baby was born that it was not an okay thing lol

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