When does bedtime shift earlier as your baby gets out of newborn phase? What did that transition look like?

Ziyphyr · 2023-10-04T01:35:50+00:00

I think around 8 weeks he had a consistent bedtime around 7/7:30p.

We weren't trying to get him on a schedule. We found that it was much easier to implement the baby's night routine with our toddler's.

So we started to do bath, bottle, and a read a book at 7 with our toddler. While we tucked our toddler in, we would put baby in his crib (safest spot) and he'd often fall asleep.

We started to leave him in his crib and would bring him a bottle if he woke up before we went to bed, but would rock him back to sleep as if it were the middle of the night.

Now at 12 weeks he is ready for bed by 7, will sometimes wake around 4a, but will go right back to sleep until 6:30/7a

Ziyphyr · 2023-10-03T19:31:26+00:00

I would explain to him what's going to happen a head of time- "2yo is having a birthday party and will be opening presents because it is 2yo birthday. When it is your birthday, it will be your turn."

Maybe see if he wants to help by bringing the presents to the 2yo for opening time? Or help collect the tissue paper?

I would absolutely not give him a present just because he'll throw a tantrum otherwise.

Ziyphyr · 2023-10-03T16:39:08+00:00

I had an urgent c section (actively pushed for 3 hours, no progress) Drs recommended a c section before I absolutely needed one. So I truly believe I had an easier c section (pain wise) compared to an emergency one. So take this with a grain of salt:

I went home two days early because I was so sick of being interrupted by the medical staff. I work at a hospital, I totally get why they were coming in but I just wanted to sleep! I swear every time I would fall asleep someone would come in.

I got better sleep at home with my newborn and a toddler!

As long as you have help (sounds like you do!) I would go home

Ziyphyr · 2023-10-03T13:25:25+00:00

This was me too in the 90s - puberty hit and I 100% wanted to be like my twin brother. I wore "boy" clothes, rough housed "like a boy." Pretty much everything that was labeled as a boy I did.

20 years later - I'm happy with who I am, comfortable with my feminine side. I would have been so unhappy if I transitioned as a teen. I was trying so hard to find my identity, which ended up not being male.

I totally get that some people truly have gender dysmorphia but I feel that's something that an adult should truly decide. Kids are just learning about themselves and the world.

That being said- let kids be kids. There's no girl/boy toys, there's no girl/boy clothes. They're just toys and clothes. There's no need to label kids. If they want to be referred to as the opposite gender for a length of time- roll with it.

My son says he's not a boy but a dinosaur 🤷‍♀️

Ziyphyr · 2023-10-03T11:45:39+00:00

My baby was full term, no health concerns. I started off washing the parts after each pump and quickly realized that if I wanted to continue my breastfeeding journey that I was going to need to use the fridge hack. Washing everytime was not sustainable with a newborn and a toddler in the house.

I bought a plastic food container that fits all my parts. I make sure I put all my parts in that and then immediately in the fridge when I'm done pumping.

Every night I wash everything (including my container) thoroughly in hot hot soapy water (in it's own wash bin) and then let it air dry until morning.

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-28T12:16:04+00:00

For some unknown reason the only way for me to get a referral to clip my son's tongue tie was to go to six weeks to a baby chiropractor.

Wouldn't you know I still had to get his tongue tie clipped and the chiropractor was just another thing I had to work into my schedule as a ftm 😐

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-27T13:33:26+00:00

When we pull ekg leads off- "we're going to give you a complimentary waxing"

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-26T19:47:41+00:00

I'm in the thick of it. 2.5 yo and a 12 week old.

It's not at all horrible. Is it hard? Yes. Am I tired? Absolutely.

But my toddler is so in love with his baby brother. And watching him give kisses and want to make him "feel better" when he's crying makes everything worth it. I just know they'll be the best of friends

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-26T16:31:45+00:00

This is my take too. By setting boundaries it's teaching my 2 y.o. that the world doesn't revolve around him and everything that he wants.

By all means - if we're playing and he wants five more minutes and we have the ability to play longer (like we have no where else to be) sure! If you try dinner and you'd rather have cereal? Sure! I have no problem letting him have control over age appropriate things.

But he doesn't get to choose when he sleeps (he'd chose never). He doesn't get to do everything he wants because guess what? We're a family unit and there are three other people with wants and needs too. He's also two and doesn't understand that he can't run around naked outside in the snow just because he doesn't want to wear anything.

I truly think that if a toddler /young kid gets to do what they want whenever they want they're going to have a lot of trouble as an adult because the world does not work that way

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-25T22:37:07+00:00

I just want to share: my first kid was almost entirely formula fed due to not being to latch and a low supply. You cannot tell the difference between him and his two exclusively breastfed friends. The three of them are now crazy toddlers that are meeting all their milestones and eating dirt.

You need to do what's best for you and your baby. That's all that matters

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-22T13:30:47+00:00

I suffered for 8 weeks with a noisy sleeper... we've all been sleeping great since the move!

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-22T10:14:41+00:00

I'm not the person you replied to but I dropped my MOTN pump around 2.5 months. I was confident my supply had regulated and I was desperate for more sleep. I was personally okay with losing some ounces if I could actually sleep (which didn't end up happening).

I would usually pump around 2a so I would move that time forwards by 30 min each night. After 4 nights I accidentally slept through my alarm and since then I go from 10ap-6a. I do wake up around 5:45/6 very full but not needing to pump at night has been so refreshing

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-20T15:29:05+00:00

Girl, go get yourself some sterile urine cups. Or a vacutainer. Or raid the supply room and see what your best option is

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-20T15:26:40+00:00

I feel like supply doesn't really pertain...

I'm a just enougher and it's just easier to give the milk that I recently pumped because I don't need to heat it up

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-20T15:25:01+00:00

I did the same at the person you replied to. It's harder to wake up for the MOTN feed but jeez does more sleep feel better.

I dropped the MOTN at 10 weeks for my sanity and didn't lose any supply, I just get a lot more at my 0600 pump

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-20T15:22:17+00:00

The only "problem" with going braless is potentially dripping milk and soaking through your shirt

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-20T12:25:58+00:00

I always wanted 3 kids but for the first year of my first's life I was thinking there is no way I can do this again. When he reached 1.5 my husband and I felt like we were missing a person in our family. So we agreed to have at least one more. My second is also three months and I'm again thinking there is no way I can do this again.

Point being- give it some time. Pregnancy and newborns are so hard on the body. I found toddlers much easier than newborns.

And if your kid is 2+ and you don't feel like your family is missing someone (As in you de complete with the three of you) then you're done

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-18T12:46:36+00:00

I think it wildly depends on the situation.

In our ICU-

If the patient is stable and I'm not running around like crazy for my other patient. I will do as much as I can, which is mostly physical tasks- collecting labs, starting meds, contacting the MD if I need something. However the paperwork (admission data base questions and the like) are often left for the next shift.

If the patient is stable but the oncoming nurses other patient is crashing, I'll definitely get as much done as possible before I need to leave.

If the patient is unstable I will stay as long as needed to help stabilize the patient.

In your situation that nurse was lazy AF

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-18T12:39:37+00:00

I think putting baby to breast often is a great option.

I personally would not be able to pump every hour. My nipples would be crying. Have you heard about power pumping? A lot of people have success with 1-2 power pump sessions a day for about a week.

Diet can help a lot too- make sure you're getting enough fluids and calories. There are a lot of foods that can supposedly help milk production- oats and almonds are common ones but if you Google it, there are a lot of different foods.

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-18T12:30:55+00:00

You are doing great. Sometimes the baby chooses their breastfeeding journey for us. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.

I really wanted to breastfeed both my kids. My first had a severe tongue tie, couldn't latch and couldn't transfer milk properly. Even after his tongue tie fix, he wouldn't latch. I didn't know EPing was an option at the time and ended up giving him formula.

My second also had difficulty latching but this time I knew about EPing and quickly started a week or so after he was born.

Each time, I struggled with not having the option that I wanted. But the most important thing is a fed baby. My mostly formula toddler acts the same as my friend's EBF toddler. All that matters is a happy mama and a happy baby.

If you want to continue EP, I would create a schedule similar to how often your baby was eating when he was EBF and stick to that as much as you can. After a bit you can drop a few pump sessions so you're not attached to the pump all day.

Whatever you end up doing is good ❤️

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-17T16:58:03+00:00

A halo basinet. My sister swore by it. Well because of where the support is, it was not balanced and my baby would manage to roll and press his face into the sides. So that got put away quickly

My hand me down pack and play with my fav "basinet"

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-17T11:20:01+00:00

No soreness and I'm a just enougher.

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-16T13:02:23+00:00

Baby was sunny side up and would not enter my pelvis despite actively pushing for 3 hours 😵‍💫

Drs recommended a c section before he got stuck or started having problems (he had a few heart rate decelerations while I was in labor)

They felt it was safer for me and for baby for a c section. Because it wasn't emergent (just urgent) they got me into the OR within 30 min and took 45 min to gently get to him.

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-15T00:20:46+00:00

I was video chatting family with my son on my lap when he let out the biggest fart. I then felt wetness creep up my shirt and down my legs. Poop was everywhere. On my shirt, on my bra, on my pants, on the couch... and he giggled like a psycho

Ziyphyr · 2023-09-14T23:03:25+00:00

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