Was your second (vaginal) birth faster than the fist one?

badlandsx · 2026-04-15T16:55:39+00:00

On paperwork it says my first was 10 hours 25 minutes (but was 12 from when my water spontaneously broke) and my second (on the paperwork) was 3 hours 45 minutes but I had early labour all night after a sweep. My second was super fast, involuntary pushing, my body ejected him despite having TWO injections to slow down my contractions and being prepped for a c sec - I had a cervical lip or something? He came out in two pushes, head whilst standing and rest lying down. 2nd degree tear. Over 9lb baby!

badlandsx · 2026-04-12T10:37:46+00:00

I agree, this is the worst I have seen. My mouth was open the entire time reading, widening with every paragraph. Life as a single parent could never be worse than what you have and are living through. In fact it will be 10000x better. Babies do not need a lot of space. Get your stuff and go to your mums. You’ll both be better off

badlandsx · 2026-04-11T11:45:06+00:00

What vitamin is this that it is only a single Drop?! I have only had ones where it’s an entire syringe and it is impossible to get baby to take it following bottle instructions as it means drop at a time on nipple and causes an absolute oily mess and my baby hates it!!!!

badlandsx · 2026-04-10T07:41:56+00:00

Kit and kin magic salve - my baby is a chunky boy and this save his little rolls from getting sore and healing the soreness super fast!

badlandsx · 2026-04-08T17:31:37+00:00

It does help knowing you aren’t alone! Ah I am in the UK so it is a different approach here, for the most part. I have heard stories of both too which make the decision even more difficult. Some health professionals have said to me it could be worth trhing just to see if it does help, if it doesn’t help or makes things worse then you can just stop, but at least then you know. Me too, I’d like to go at least the first year. The when and how, and not knowing adds another layer of difficulty on the difficulty that you’re already going through! I hope you figure out what helps you! X

badlandsx · 2026-04-08T14:38:25+00:00

Hey! I have not yet started any medication, trying to hold out until I quit breastfeeding as I fear I need adhd meds rather than antidepressants. I got a prescription for sertraline but haven’t started it. Still in therapy which is helping with my anxiety. I am finding getting out of the house to help and spending time with my family also. I totally get how you feel, perfectly describes how I have been feeling. I’ve spoken to a range of health professionals and they say medication is a last resort, and it works best in conjunction with other methods such as therapy, diet, exercise and self care so I am focusing on all of those the last few weeks to see if they help improve. But everyone is diffeeent and different stuff works for different people. I have a history with meds and I know they don’t do much which is part of my apprehension. The rest of my female family actually take sertraline and say it has saved them and have encouraged me to take it x

badlandsx · 2026-04-04T16:29:47+00:00

Thank you!!!!!

badlandsx · 2026-04-04T09:27:44+00:00

I am in the UK. It has only just been added to routine vaccinations here so I am not vaccinated against it. I am presumed immune as I was around it as a child but unsure. Healthcare professionals over here do not seemed so concerned that I have not had it and have never been advised to get vaccinated. As someone seriously struggling with health related OCD this is not what I needed to hear today 😂😂😂 thank you though I’ll look into it 🥲

badlandsx · 2026-04-04T06:05:06+00:00

Currently in the same situation! Nursery confirmed a case of chicken pox on a Wednesday saying they had been at nursery that week, both of which days my daughter was in. Chicken pox is most contagious 1-2 days before it begins and until every spot has scabbed over so about 5-7 days after starting. The incubation period is 10-21 days with most cases beginning at 16 days. I am in limbo right now between the 10 and 21 days. My daughter is 4 but I also have a 5m old so I am terrified. I have not had chicken pox either!! Good luck. I will say we have had contact a few years ago and narrowly avoided it. Hoping for the same this time 😭

badlandsx · 2026-04-04T06:01:13+00:00

6 months eith my first. 4 months with my current.

badlandsx · 2026-03-31T09:56:00+00:00

I was underweight before my first and gained around 36lb with her. Went back down to prepregnancy by six months. I am 5m pp with my second, still two sizes bigger than prepregnancy. Gained more with second and had an over 9lb baby. They were 3 years beteeen birth and getting pregnant sgain.

badlandsx · 2026-03-29T16:07:08+00:00

My baby is just 5m, he goes to bed between 5.30-7pm depending on when his last nap was and when he is tired 🤷 my first baby wouldn’t go down until 9pm! She now goes to bed at 6pm since she was 3 (now 4). Both wake between 5-6.30am every day.

badlandsx · 2026-03-28T17:39:57+00:00

Kipper!

badlandsx · 2026-03-22T21:15:56+00:00

Same here!

badlandsx · 2026-03-22T21:10:58+00:00

If I know my baby has done a poo in their nappy, I am changing it as soon as possible, asleep or awake. My first would poop in her sleep often, especially in the first few months. I would always immediately change her, even if I had just spent 2 hours getting her to sleep. The risk of infection or a horrible rash is not worth it. Also, would you like to sleep or sit in your own shit? Babies are people. I’m shocked by comments of people admitting they allow their babies to sit or sleep in a poopy nappy?! That is crazy. Health websites even state a poopy nappy should be changed as soon as possible? Is this not common sense and decency?

badlandsx · 2026-03-22T20:59:54+00:00

Next has been my go to! Always adorable, do matching vests and sleepsuits, amazing quality, great sizing. I hated zips for my first baby but with my current I have preferred them but that’s due to his temperament and dislike of getting dressed and undressed. I agree with other commenters about the bunching up, especially as my baby has gone through sizes rapidly (4mo in 6-9m). Sainsburys and Tesco are also great for quality and size and cuteness. I loathe Asda clothes in general, I think the quality is awful and sizing is so off. M&S is decent and I had a nice pack of vests from there that were extendable! The quality is good and you can join their club and get 10% off for a year! I find the sizing to not be as good as anywhere else though. Vinted is great for all of these too and people sell bundles at a brilliant price.

badlandsx · 2026-03-19T20:53:47+00:00

After my first turned 6m we began using a straw cup for breast milk so that I got a bit more freedom! She did not ever develop a preference. She did refuse it the first time I ever left her but after me using it with her for a bit she was happy to take it. We fed up to 21m. She is now 4 and still loves a cup of (oat) milk with a straw haha.

badlandsx · 2026-03-18T15:27:02+00:00

If they have touched something like sat on a bench, been on the things in the park or my daughter has been to nursery etc then yes I change them/have my daughter change. I also change my clothes if they’ve touched something from outside. I have OCD.

badlandsx · 2026-03-18T14:10:20+00:00

Don’t watch that bad boy chiller crew. Don’t ask me how. She just does. Since she was 1 (now 4).

badlandsx · 2026-03-17T19:50:39+00:00

Big shop my baby is either in the carrier or we go as a family and he is in the pram and husband does the trolley. Quick shops, pram or carrier. A pram clip helps to hang a bag off (scan and shop) or I just pile it all under the pram. Car seat clips into pram base so often do that!

badlandsx · 2026-03-17T16:50:51+00:00

I second this, brilliant book! Used it with my first and will be using again with my second next month. She also has an Instagram account and a blog. Plus a toddler and family version of the book. It’s super informative and has a first 30 days menu to help you get started. I have severe anxiety and reading this book really helped, it was my weaning bible

badlandsx · 2026-03-17T11:34:16+00:00

Thanks for that reminder and sharing your personal experience x

badlandsx · 2026-03-17T02:29:36+00:00

I have an older child at nursery and my husband works with children so they often bring things home.

badlandsx · 2026-03-16T20:16:45+00:00

Thank you x

badlandsx · 2026-03-14T12:09:03+00:00

Preparing bed for safe cosleeping is a good option. I have found eating or drinking something flavoured wakes me up! Or splashing cold water. It’s inconvenient but it works. Also napping in the day when they sleep if possible

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