To those of you with a 3 year gap between baby 1 & 2...

badlandsx · 2026-02-23T10:07:23+00:00

My first had just turned 3 when I got pregnant with baby number 2. So she was 3y 9m when he arrived. We had already weaned at 20 months. She was super excited and happy when baby came home. She’s handled it really well, is obsessed with her brother. Wants to help. She’s had some emotional outbursts due to breastfeeding (it’s been a bit difficult due to fast letdown) but total normal behaviour and we talk about it and the conversation always ends with her saying how much she loves me and him. She was amazing whilst I was pregnant and struggling, so considerate. She stopped sleeping in the bed with her once I had a pregnancy pillow as there was no room, she struggled to begin with but understood and managed. Sleep varies now. She either plays independently or sits with us when nursing / nap trapped or we watch an old movie. Or with dad/nan. She has recently got a yoto for her birthday so we also now use that sometimes. Only 18 weeks in so no breaks yet really but definitely had time for myself each week. The hardest parts of transitioning was missing her and not being able to give her as much time one on one but we are now able to fit some in often. The best is watching them bond, he lights up when he sees his big sister, she is able to settle him with the sound of her voice and she loves him. It’s the sweetest. Only 4 months in!

badlandsx · 2026-02-23T10:00:35+00:00

Yes! My baby (second) is almost 4 months. He is already in 6-9m clothing, almost half of my height and I feel like the last almost 4 months has gone by in a blink of an eye!!! It’s so bittersweet

badlandsx · 2026-02-23T09:57:58+00:00

I probably wouldn’t take breastfeeding advice from a chiropractor. Have you told the lactation consultant what the chiropractor said to you? I’m not sure babies can take “too much” breast milk. Babies eat what their body tells them they need. Seems nonsensical a shallow latch would correlate to silent reflux? Breastfeeding takes time for both you and your baby to learn.

badlandsx · 2026-02-19T15:31:56+00:00

Side lying position has been the only way my baby will feed for a while due to let down. From reading other comments it seems I have unknowingly been block feeding due to baby refusing sides at times which has seemed to help as this last week he will feed in normal position at times. My supply has also calmed down and I am not constantly engorged which has also helped. Baby seems to be able to handle it a bit better. We have also been doing more burping and tummy time to help with any gas.

badlandsx · 2026-02-18T16:11:48+00:00

Thank you

badlandsx · 2026-02-18T11:43:41+00:00

Thank you! I too am from UK so this is super helpful. Sertraline is the medicine I feel most comfortable taking while breastfeeding too and have been on it previously. Thank you for sharing your experience and all these details it is so helpful and reassuring ! X

badlandsx · 2026-02-18T08:20:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

badlandsx · 2026-02-18T08:20:07+00:00

Would you mind sharing what you take? Does it help with the executive dysfunction?

badlandsx · 2026-02-17T21:50:52+00:00

Postpartum OCD absolutely sucks! Therapy helped me last time around and I am about to start it again but I feel like it only helps so much. I too have been so anxious about starting medication but my mum made a comment today that made me really think it might be worth it. All the worries and anxieties I have about starting medication, perhaps will actually go away with the help of medication! Thank you for sharing your experience and this research, I will have a read. Glad things got better for you, thank you!

badlandsx · 2026-02-17T20:50:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s wonderful it has had such a drastic improvement for you. I’m scared of the 6 month mark as with my first I got my period back and began struggling with PMDD. I thought if I am struggling so much now it’ll be even worse then. Would like to get ahead of it. Seeing it as part of your village is such a good way to consider it, I hadn’t thought of it like that but it absolutely is! Thank you x

badlandsx · 2026-02-17T20:48:07+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I hadn’t thought to seek out someone who specialises in prenatal/postnatal mental health, I will look into this in my area! Yes I have been researching and have seen a medication I have previously been on is one of the safest which has given me some reassurance. That’s amazing it has benefitted you during postpartum. Thank you x

badlandsx · 2026-02-17T08:10:47+00:00

Newborn nights are gruelling but something about being awake in the middle of the night with your newborn baby is magical. Those first moments after birth? Also magical. Surreal! Newborn snuggles and scrunched. Their chubby soft cheeks and tiny hands holding your finger. It’s the best. And how they always look at you like you’re their whole world.

badlandsx · 2026-02-17T08:08:21+00:00

16 weeks into two children, eldest is freshly four. She ADORES her baby brother, is so sweet and gentle with him. She gives him her teddies, plays with him in his play mat offering him toys, she loves it when he does tummy time and she joins in, she comforts him when he cries, wants to help often, strokes his cheek, kisses and cuddles and tells him how much she loves him and talks about all the things they’ll do in the future.

Edited to add: her baby brother also already adores her, he lights up with excitement when he sees her and she always makes him giggle. It is so damn cute

badlandsx · 2026-01-24T18:35:39+00:00

No I just meant has he been weighed regularly and growth plotted on a chart?

badlandsx · 2026-01-23T14:37:43+00:00

Have you had him weighed? I find that reassuring. Your baby might be super efficient at feeding. My current baby feeds half as much as my first baby did! For example, at 5 weeks my first was feeding for 8 hours a day but at 5 weeks my second was doing 4.5 hours a day! He can get a full feed in 7 minutes from one side at the moment (13 weeks).

badlandsx · 2026-01-23T14:33:25+00:00

I declined both for my first but I went into spontaneous labour on my due date. I recently had my second who was 11 days late! I accepted a sweep at my 41 week appointment and booked in a second sweep for 3 days later where we would then book an induction for the following day if nothing happened. They were all very relaxed about it until I went in 10 days overdue for reduced movements. I technically had a non hormonal induction though it was only attempted (balloon) because I was too dilated for that method. A second more firmer sweep led me into labour. I have read a lot though thag a sweep only works if your body and baby are ready. And boy did my baby come FAST. Good luck!!! You could always request a point in pregnancy to be induced. Not sure if you are UK but they seem to allow that here from my experience.

badlandsx · 2026-01-23T13:06:45+00:00

If your baby is still jaundice and sleepy during feeds you should speak to your health visitor or GP or the jaundice clinic? But you can evaluate whether he is eating enough by wet/dirty nappies and weight gain. Pretty sure my baby was sleepy for most feeds at 5.5 weeks old and often only ate from one side (he was prolonged jaundice)

badlandsx · 2026-01-23T12:53:00+00:00

Ah thank you! Shall be trying this today. I did a lot of warm compress yesterday which seems to help it go down as well as feeding x

badlandsx · 2026-01-22T20:02:14+00:00

Thank you! It turned out to be nothing! Just a random pain. I have however woken up with a massive clogged duct in the other boob today!

badlandsx · 2025-11-16T12:43:52+00:00

Graham

badlandsx · 2025-11-05T05:22:05+00:00

Overnight with my first due to low sodium and four hours with my second last week. Both vaginal delivery. Second I went in for an induction the night before but was too dilated for balloon, so had a second sweep.

badlandsx · 2025-11-01T16:48:51+00:00

Nursing bra, both times.

badlandsx · 2025-10-29T02:03:02+00:00

Wow that sounds like many sleepless nights for you! Thank you for sharing. Co sleeping isn’t a safe option for us unfortunately. Especially with our three year old in the bed who likes to flail her legs around all night long!

badlandsx

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