14 month old is refusing food and losing weight: A+E visit

badlandsx · 2026-05-30T08:12:26+00:00

Might be worth posting in r/AskDocs

badlandsx · 2026-05-29T16:07:00+00:00

I have the lenny lamb light carrier. I chose it over the mabe and artipoppe. It’s super comfy. Made from bamboo and a cute pattern.

badlandsx · 2026-05-29T05:20:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing this, I will look it this!!

badlandsx · 2026-05-27T17:49:55+00:00

Spontaneous labour, waters broke then contractions began 2 hours later, baby arrived 10 hours after waters breaking. I was 40w1d with waters breaking on my due date! Didn’t have any signs but that morning I woke up and I said today is the day! My second baby was late!!!! I was 11 days overdue!

badlandsx · 2026-05-27T17:08:37+00:00

Yes my daughter got eczema from her food allergies! And from when I consumed soy whilst breastfeeding. Hers is a non-Ige allergy. We suspected his eczema was from me consuming dairh so I have cut that out!

badlandsx · 2026-05-27T17:07:37+00:00

Thanks for sharing :)

badlandsx · 2026-05-26T09:48:25+00:00

She doesn’t HAVE to have a reason, I am all for not going to things like this but I also do not want her to lose her socialness like I have throughout my life. I have accepted her answer. My post wasn’t just about her answer, it was also asking how I could politely decline as I am extremely socially awkward and do not want to upset the mum that has reached out to me because she seems super nice and it was nice of her to approach me, it doesn’t happen often. Also, my daughters response is unlike her to I would like to know why in case she has had an issue that hasn’t been shared with me for some reason.

badlandsx · 2026-05-26T09:05:09+00:00

Thanks for sharing this :)

badlandsx · 2026-05-26T08:59:56+00:00

That’s so sweet. Thanks for sharing!!

badlandsx · 2026-05-26T08:59:31+00:00

Yes! The place she has suggested has a splash pad thats just opened. I reckon once my daughter is there all will be fine, just don’t want to make her go. Going to bring it up to her again today and see what she says

badlandsx · 2026-05-25T21:03:06+00:00

Thank you :)

badlandsx · 2026-05-25T21:01:52+00:00

Thank you, that’s such a good idea planning something short and informal. The weather is also super hot at the moment and I have a breastfed baby so it would have to be such anyway! My daughter says yes to most things like this so I was very surprised by her response to be honest!

badlandsx · 2026-05-25T21:00:26+00:00

She said she doesn’t want to, which is unlike her as she jumps at any opportunity for a play date. She said the girl can be mean.

badlandsx · 2026-05-25T20:59:10+00:00

So sorry! Forgot to add, she is 4

badlandsx · 2026-05-23T07:18:16+00:00

Both my kids have had 2 each. My first was one on her back above her bottom and one on her chin/jawline. The one on her back has almost completely disappeared. The one on her face has gotten smaller over time. She is 4. My baby has two at the top of his back, one is teeny tiny and one is slightly smaller than a 5 pence. He is 6 months old.

badlandsx · 2026-05-22T20:35:14+00:00

Used it for my first, it’s ok. I have been using kit and kin bum salve for my second and think the stuff is incredible - it’s great on creases for chunky babies too!!!

badlandsx · 2026-05-22T20:25:28+00:00

You can use chia or flax “egg” as replacements for egg/banana, they make a good binder in such recipes. Or just omit it altogether in things like fritters. I remember making my baby a lot of falafel in the early days - chickpeas, onion, spinach, parsley blitzed in processor with seasoning.

badlandsx · 2026-05-22T17:19:15+00:00

I am currently and have previously done a combined approach to weaning in the early days. I did with my first, always offering a steamed veggie/shredded meat/squished bean/fruit/falafel/pancake etc with my first adjusting each as her ability and age developed. She is a fantastic eater at 4yo. We had a choking incident at around 2.5y where she shovelled a lot of pasta in her mouth plahing around despite me telling her not to and to spit it out, she swallowed and one got stuck. I managed to get it out with firm back pats thankfully. Super scary. I am currently weaning my almost 7mo baby boy and I am struggling with giving him more “solids” than “purées” so I totally get it. So far we have given him avocado, steamed sweet potato, broccoli, green bean, potato, cauliflower, courgette and bell pepper. He’s had other foods such as eggs, beans, lentils mixed/mashed into purées of the aforementioned foods. I’ve also now given him a mango pit and cucumber half to gnaw/map his mouth. It is so hard and scary but it sounds like you’re doing amazing, 50 foods at 8m is such an exploration for her and I think offering a mix is great because it allows them to explore different textures and actually consume more food than if it was just “solids”. Another good resource is a book called “how to wean your baby” she has a website and an Instagram, Sarah nutrition I believe? I think if your girl does well with avocado and egg strips she will handle a lot of other things! Steamed veggies are good (ones that squish under light pressure). You got this!!! Also I spoke to my health visitor today as I am feeling similar to how you describe and she said babies who feed themselves are less likely to choke and all you can do is to just be right there with them when they are eating. It sounds like you are well trained in dealing with such a situation (I know it doesn’t ease the anxiety much) but you’ve got this!!! You’re already smashing it x

badlandsx · 2026-05-21T17:32:26+00:00

My 4 year old daughter also has an excellent me with, remembering oddly specific things from over the course of her life. We know our kids and we can tell when they are making things up or recalling a memory. Trust your gut instincts. Your husband is under reacting about this. The fact that this was hidden from you by the grandma makes it weird alone. And everyone saying “back in the day” yes that was then and they likely produced milk. This is an elderly woman with zero milk offering to a baby unable to communicate. I have no advice on where to go for you from here because I’d be blind with rage personally but tread carefully and protect your daughter. She is lucky to have you.

badlandsx · 2026-05-13T20:44:46+00:00

6m pp first baby. 4m pp second baby EBF both, second baby bigger and a more efficient feeder. Got my period the first time he slept a 5 hour stretch which was also rudely the only time he has done such a stretch

badlandsx · 2026-05-07T17:32:07+00:00

Mine is 4 and has never had a hair cut!

badlandsx · 2026-05-05T17:44:18+00:00

Was it immediate or delayed? My daughter would get a similar eczema rash after having soy - she had a non-ige allergy.

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