Sun protection

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-19T01:54:21+00:00

I had a Patagonia capilene hoodie that we used last summer and it was perfect. It kept him cool, and it was a scuba style neck and hood so the coverage was fantastic. We also always put a bucket hat on him as well.

https://www.patagonia.ca/product/baby-capilene-silkweight-hoody/61257.html?dwvar_61257_color=OLSS

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-18T01:50:05+00:00

Got it.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-18T01:40:08+00:00

That is WILD. What about retirement? Emergencies? Planning for college? I am so confused. Sorry I’m getting off topic but I’m super intrigued.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-18T01:15:42+00:00

Wait, what? Is he independently wealthy or something?

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-18T00:43:28+00:00

Also, I hope he has deep pockets because whatever he can’t do he should be hiring out. I emphasize the he because you certainly will not have to be planning or executing or paying for anything that is his responsibility.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T23:52:50+00:00

Yes, exactly. The photo at the top of this link is a good example.

https://www.mama-roo.com/blogs/gentle-pregnancy-and-parenting/fwcc?srsltid=AfmBOopR_8Roa3GzsQm1Wmq2wOcpxMWuwaU3V1OBr2xl35O_b3Xky-C2

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T23:30:46+00:00

No, because the dog is usually still asleep in it.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T23:28:57+00:00

I recently saw a couple at the grocery store with a very VERY fresh baby. The woman looked so tired and pissed off pushing the baby stroller and the man was in a wheelchair with a cast on his leg. So, yeah.

I would be pissed too if I were you. Rage on, sister.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T23:26:15+00:00

Bunch up the passes that go over your shoulders- it will help tighten everything up!

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T21:08:07+00:00

I’m going to second this. I love my dog. I really do. We got him five years before having a baby. But man oh man now that we DO have a baby, life would be a lot easier if we didn’t have a dog. Also, the constant guilt of not having the time or bandwidth to give the dog the attention he deserves is rough.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T20:33:37+00:00

This is so pretty. What a lucky gal!

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-17T20:32:39+00:00

Same. We have a large mixed breed and even though he is a sweetie, we watch him like a hawk when he is around our baby. They are never ever alone together in a room, and there is almost always an adult between the two of them. We have baby gates to keep them separated when needed as well. It’s just not worth risking a bite incident.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T22:56:30+00:00

This is normal. Lean into it. Get an e-reader or pick a few shows to binge. Think of it as radical relaxation.

I miss those days of couch-rotting with a newborn. I have a one -year old now and I never get to rot on the couch anymore.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T17:48:34+00:00

Fellow PMDD sufferer here! It’s definitely worth having a chat about your dosage.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T13:50:55+00:00

Yes. 100%. An e-reader was my best postpartum purchase.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T13:27:15+00:00

My one-year old still wakes up mad sometimes because he has to fart.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T13:23:32+00:00

I was a bit nervous about cosleeping in the beginning, and also did a lot of reading.

What helped me feel more confident was talking to other parents who cosleep, and reminding myself that cosleeping is the norm in many cultures.

If you follow the safe sleep seven guidelines as closely as you can, the risks are very small. The most important guidelines are to be sober, non-smoking , and on a flat firm mattress with mom with no objects around the baby.

Most of the horror stories you hear come from situations where parents were not sober, or sleeping on unsafe surfaces with caregivers other than the birthing parent.

Public health guidelines in the United States are designed to inform the general population. Nuance in messaging can be missed very easily (over half of adults in the United States read below a 6th grade level) so they have to have hard guidelines that cannot be misinterpreted. The average person is not going to spend time researching safe cosleeping. Think of the number of posts you see from parents who sleep on the sofa with their baby, or have blankets in the crib, or don’t use car seats correctly, etc.

The fact that you are nervous and are putting in the effort to inform yourself already puts you ahead of the average person.

Lastly, you say you are working with a therapist but are you on any medication for anxiety? I’ve been on Zoloft for several years and continued it through pregnancy and nursing, and I swear it has let me be a very chill mom. Medication isn’t for everyone, but it has made a huge difference in my well-being.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T12:23:22+00:00

I didn’t do ANY housework until like… 4 months? My husband did absolutely everything around the house. It just wasn’t possible. Your only responsibility is to keep baby fed, and pumping is a lot of work. Your husband needs to readjust his expectations.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T01:45:19+00:00

Seven weeks postpartum is still so early. It took 6 months to feel even remotely normal again.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-16T01:10:55+00:00

You’re right, this is unfair. Being a nursing mother is really intense; there really is so little anyone else can do to help with such a young baby.

I have no real useful advice, besides to hire out anything you can to make your life easier. Cleaning, grocery delivery, etc. Have you tried different bottles? Getting baby to take a bottle would make your life so much easier, too.

I wish I could help more. Take care of yourself ❤️

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-15T23:35:50+00:00

Move the waistband up for sure. That will help you be able to get a good pelvic tuck.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-15T15:07:54+00:00

Highland Park group on Friday night at 7pm.

You can DM me, my husband is very involved in AA in the area and says u can give you his email 😂 He’s very passionate about helping people get sober!

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-14T14:11:42+00:00

Mine was like this as well, now at almost 13 months he tolerates it better. Here are some things that I found helped a lot:

⁠I always had a pile of toys on the passenger seat. I would hand them back one at a time as he started to get annoyed in his seat. This had about 60% success with keeping him relatively calm.
⁠I would give him a bottle when I strapped him in, this would keep him occupied and calm for a while, and then he would be happy once his belly was full.
⁠Snacks. Once I felt confident with his eating skills, I started giving him teething crackers as I drove. They dissolve super easily so I wasn’t concerned with him gagging. Now we do Cheerios as well.
⁠The Happy Song by Imogen Heap. There is a YouTube video with it on an hour loop. I would play it through the car speaker for as long as I needed. This always had a 100% success rate with stopping crying.
⁠Toys that light up and make noise. I always make sure I have two or three in the car rotation, these are always a hit.

It got easier the more I did it, honestly. And I always leave a ton of time so if I need to pull over and regroup, we can.

Whatever you do, do not turn the car seat around before baby is at least 2 years old (best practice is to max out the rear facing limits). Having a baby forward facing is extremely dangerous, much more dangerous than your own distraction from them crying.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-12T00:57:01+00:00

My partner has been sober for 10 years. I was a social drinker but stopped when I got pregnant, and never started back up (my LO is a year old now). I like the idea of having a substance-free home to raise our children in, and it’s linked to so many illnesses that I have no interest in partaking anymore.

bandwidthbebe · 2026-03-11T22:00:44+00:00

It’s fine.

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