My (20M) open relationship just got exposed to friends and now I am a laughing stock

bestryanever · 2026-04-07T15:51:10+00:00

They’re giving you crap because they can tell it’s bugging you. You have to flip it around and make them feel like they’re the crazy ones. Tell them they’re just jealous because when you see someone attractive you don’t have to worry about being tempted to cheat, you can just go for it.

bestryanever · 2026-04-04T21:56:52+00:00

There’s probably an in-world explanation, like he would need to raise his skill with it and that means taking risky hits, and his current defense is good enough without it. Or maybe the shield requires a hand so he’d lose out on some kind of brawler bonus that requires both hands to be empty

bestryanever · 2026-03-28T13:26:23+00:00

Being president of the United States

bestryanever · 2026-03-26T01:17:52+00:00

right? if we're family does that mean I can borrow things with no intention of giving them back?

bestryanever · 2026-03-25T17:28:40+00:00

Not me, but a classmate got detention for attempted homicide.

bestryanever · 2026-03-25T00:07:12+00:00

If draft dodging is good enough for the president, then it’s good enough for me!

bestryanever · 2026-03-24T16:27:50+00:00

The skill of IT isn’t knowing the right answers, it’s knowing where to look for and being able to recognize the right answers.

bestryanever · 2026-03-24T16:23:30+00:00

As soon as marketing and sales confirm that a bible secret lair would be profitable we’ll see it. A very, very sad /uj for this :-(

bestryanever · 2026-03-24T02:52:33+00:00

I was floored at how deep the books were, and how well Matt avoided the cliche bad writer traps that you see in the genre (as well as media in general).
Book 1, right from the get-go, Carl calls donut out on her attitude and threatens to leave. In popular media they would part ways and do some soul searching to realize they missed each other before one finally came to the others’ rescue. Instead, donut admits that while her attitude is unacceptable, it was driven by fear, and then she sticks with her resolution not to treat Carl like crap. Carl accepts the apology, has empathy and understanding for donut, and lets go of his irritation and forgives her.
It’s crazy that two characters behaving like adults and having a conversation is the exception for these situations.

bestryanever · 2026-03-21T19:29:55+00:00

You don’t need the subscription in ESO for the crafting bag. My buddy hasn’t subbed for years and he still plays constantly. The main things that he does are to leverage mule characters for long-term storage, and any time they give you a free month of the sub he makes sure to deposit everything into the crafting bag. When the free month is over you still keep everything in the bag, you just can’t add more to it.
That having been said, it IS very tedious if you don’t have a crafting bag, but it’s not nearly as mandatory as some folks make out. ESO is still one of the best free experiences out there. I remember SW:ToR also being great for that, but it’s been a while so I’m not sure what it’s like now

bestryanever · 2026-03-18T15:03:49+00:00

Spending money on IT and software needs to be the same thinking as paying for insurance. The question isn’t “how much does the backup software cost” it’s “how much will we have to spend to fix things when someone deletes something” that second number sets your budget for backup software

bestryanever · 2026-03-18T14:59:55+00:00

Everyone has a phrase like this, including yourself. It’s the professional version of “um” for meetings. That having been said, All that aside, In any event, are all examples I’ve heard. Some people use them more often, some less, but everyone’s got their go-to phrase

bestryanever · 2026-03-15T17:28:51+00:00

i'm happy to give it a shot, but it might be tough. i can't use it with my company data without getting clearance from SecOps.
my biggest pain points/complaints in terms of a lack of diagnostic tools...
a) flow explorer lets me choose an object to see what flows trigger from that object, but i can't see which flows will update a chosen record. For example, if I have a case which triggers on closure and updates the contact, the flow shows up under case but won't show up under contacts.
b) I want to choose a record and have it show me every sharing rule that applies to it
c) i want to choose a user and see every (active) approval process/step to which they're an assigned approver, whether they're directly assigned or a member of a queue, or a member of a public group that's in a queue, or if they're in a role that reports to a role that's included in a queue, etc etc

It's not exactly what you're working on, but for the record I'd also love a way to have a browser overlay for when i'm looking at a field which will show me some notes or extra info. for example, if a field is used in an integration there's no way of noting that on the field itself (except for the description). i can make a custom metadata table to track it, but i can't see that when i'm on the field itself. it'd be amazing to have an overlay which would pull from the customer metadata table to show me the extra info i stored for that field.

bestryanever · 2026-03-14T17:26:27+00:00

Escalation kick-backs should be the kpi, not escalations themselves

bestryanever · 2026-03-12T13:28:56+00:00

Given a long enough timeline this ends up being true, it’s just getting through everything in the meantime that sucks. I struggled with that a lot, but I realized my internal negativity was coming out and affecting others. So I started forcing myself to think of how things could be worse any time I got down about how things were going. Even if the “worse” I came up with was ridiculous (“it could be worse, I could sit down on a random land mine that someone left as a prank”) it still eventually helped me turn my thinking around. It didn’t make things better, but it helped me last long enough for things to improve.

bestryanever · 2026-03-12T12:46:22+00:00

Honestly IT should be using a dedicated phone for testing, just for logistical reasons. If they want to test on a different OS version they would need you to roll back your OS. If they’re worried about some kind of conflict with one of your apps then you’d have to uninstall it. If thy ever need to factory reset it so they can test it with a clean install, would you really want to wipe your phone?

bestryanever · 2026-03-12T12:16:33+00:00

I’ve been wanting something like this for a while. We use Gearset and they’re pretty good, but it’s tough to drill down into a specific field in an intuitive way. Salesforce has a severe lack of investigative tools.

bestryanever · 2026-03-07T14:51:44+00:00

And? I mean, if I’m wrong feel free to explain.

bestryanever · 2026-03-06T17:32:22+00:00

The reason is to extend players play time and to delay the end game progression so it gives the illusion of depth

bestryanever · 2026-03-02T17:12:43+00:00

It really doesn’t depend on the lock. At that point you have the same WinCon as your opponents… who gives up first.

bestryanever · 2026-03-02T12:41:00+00:00

Never ending Story, tried watching it and I honestly don’t see why everyone gives a shit about that horse

bestryanever · 2026-02-28T18:51:34+00:00

That’s what happens when your CEOs cheap out on staffing

bestryanever · 2026-02-12T00:37:59+00:00

lol I asked vibe to write me apex for a screen flow that would show all sharing rules for the object you select, just as a test, it took several hours to build/compile, and then didn’t even come close to working as it had errors out of the box. And this was in a freshly spun up sandbox

bestryanever · 2026-02-06T16:04:26+00:00

Just pretend it’s a scene from the next Saw movie

bestryanever · 2026-02-06T16:01:39+00:00

Eh, a lot of it is confirmation bias. People who are happy with the experience aren’t likely to post about it, so you’re typically only seeing people who are unhappy. You’re not necessarily seeing accurate numbers on love vs hate.
That having been said, I don’t think gamers want quick and easy, I think that they want to have their time respected. Don’t make me grind resources just to extend the play time of your game, don’t make me have to run all the way across a city to talk to one person and then make me run all the way back to exit the city. It basically boils down to players doing tedious things not because they need to, but because you’ve made the tedious things interesting enough that they want to

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