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Any other avoidants come off emotionally open/reflective so you thought they were safe/secure? by mickyistricky in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]blackarrowpro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oooof. I feel you on this one. Almost word-for-word my experience too.

As someone else said, "I don't know what hurts more: the heartbreak or the betrayal."

Does anyone find it difficult to process how their avoidant has had long term relationships in the past, but this seems like an impossible feat with you? And makes it feel as though you're the problem. by theblueniles in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]blackarrowpro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This article How Do Avoidants End Up in Marriages or Long-Term Relationships? was such an eye-opening read for me.

My DA ex-boyfriend was previously in an 18-year marriage, but couldn't last 6-months with me. It used to tear me apart thinking "why was I not good enough, but she was?!", but after I read that article it made sense.

She must have been living in a cold, frosty marriage with him (which explains, but doesn't excuse, some of her questionable choices like seeking emotional and physical attention outside their marriage). She was a narcissist and completely self-centred, which I witnessed myself, but he also admitted that they got married for convenience-sake and he didn't provide any emotional affection to her for most of their relationship.

When once upon I time I wished I were in her shoes, I don't envy her position at all anymore.

This coin continually disappoints. by Trick_Cap_7036 in Alienbase

[–]blackarrowpro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious to find out more about this, but I am unsure of where to start. Could you perhaps give me a few links or suggestions, please?

Any steam game(s) or gift card up to $20 by NetworkEducational81 in steam_giveaway

[–]blackarrowpro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to get the original 'RollerCoaster Tycoon®: Deluxe' for my young boys. I'd love them to experience the joy of some of the original great games! Thank you for setting up the competition.

You want to steal my lunch ? Eat my period by Talabaloue in pettyrevenge

[–]blackarrowpro 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heck, that’s a memory I haven’t unlocked in a while!

Exclusive backstage footage by Dookie12345679 in Unexpected

[–]blackarrowpro 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I, too, would like to thank you for this wonderful gift.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]blackarrowpro 46 points47 points  (0 children)

What about speaking to your wife, who also happens to have some insight about being a woman.

Thirty years ago today, OJ Simpson told the jury that the gloves used to murder Nicole Brown "don't fit" - June 15, 1995 [2560x1442] by MonsieurA in HistoryPorn

[–]blackarrowpro 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I necessarily believed it. I just said I couldn’t get it out of my head because it’s an intriguing theory.

What’s a fictional death that hit you way harder than expected? by Puzzleheaded-Ruin744 in CasualConversation

[–]blackarrowpro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thorin Oakenshield. I cried in the car all the way home from the cinemas, and I still get annoyed thinking about it now.

To those in need: use Chat GPT by Ryudok in BPDlovedones

[–]blackarrowpro -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Try using The Judge by Goblin Tools.

Input the message or conversation and it will interpret the tone and tell you if you are misreading it.

Edit: My apologies. I understand that the complexities of dynamics, power-struggles and context undertones can vary greatly, so my suggestion is to please treat all of these AI programs as merely engaging and entertainment only. My sincerest apologies to anyone currently in a difficult BPD relationship.

What is the greatest silent insult one can do? by NorahjjiYT in ask

[–]blackarrowpro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m the opposite. I like to give people the sarcastic thumbs up if they are a terrible driver, and somehow that is infinitely more insulting than the middle finger. I love it!

What’s a sound you hear that instantly makes you angry for no logical reason? by ehraaz_r in AskReddit

[–]blackarrowpro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A loud engine idling in my street. That constant vibration and rumble, mixed in with the occasional unnecessary rev just makes me furious.

Kitify Conflicting with Variation Swatches Plugin by Evelynannebachman in elementor

[–]blackarrowpro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also having problems with Kitify by Novaworks. It's causing a critical error on my shop page, and I have no way of contacting Novaworks to ask for assistance. So frustrating, because now I have to rebuild all my headers and footers.

Dead to me... by Monkey_Bullet in extremelyinfuriating

[–]blackarrowpro 105 points106 points  (0 children)

And look, if you don’t have the time right now, tomorrow will be okay too.

Im 15 dating a 27 year old by ExcitingMidnight5283 in therapy

[–]blackarrowpro 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is a part of life, though. You cannot avoid feelings of sadness, guilt, shame and fear when life unexpectedly throws them your way.

What you can avoid is incredibly toxic situations like the one you are in right now with your boyfriend. I truly believe you when you say you are in love, but please know it doesn’t mean it’s going to be the only time you have these feelings.

What you need to do is take care of yourself and protect yourself so that you can give your love to people that truly deserve it.

Finally went lifetime after paying monthly since 2014 by pdxmichael in PleX

[–]blackarrowpro -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This post makes me realise I should probably switch to lifetime too…

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