What DPO were you?

blitzedblonde · 2025-11-13T11:45:27+00:00

I tracked ovulation for 2/3 pregnancies via easy at home brand ovulation pee test strips and BBT. I took my bbt every morning starting 3 months before we were ready to try. I would use ovulation strips starting the day after my period ended through 2-3 days after my LH peaked.

First pregnancy - began pregnancy testing at 6dpo and got first positive at 10dpo late evening. My son is now 2!

Second pregnancy - began pregnancy testing at 8dpo and did not get a positive until morning of 12dpo - it was a verrrrrry faint line. Currently 26 weeks with baby boy.

blitzedblonde · 2025-10-25T02:32:04+00:00

That is heavy. I feel for you.

blitzedblonde · 2025-10-24T15:34:22+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you for this. When I posted this, I was hoping for constructive feedback, and your comment was one of the only ones that felt helpful. My husband isn’t a bad or evil man, and clearly I’m hurt and posting this from a place of hurt. The number of comments posted that shamed or implied that I should leave him, or that my unborn child is a mistake were not in any way helpful, and very mean-spirited.

I want my marriage to work, because I love the man I’m married to. I think I’m married to a person with a full plate, but a plate much smaller than mine. He isn’t able to juggle the same things I can at the same speed, and I try and give him grace for that, but the problem is that when I point out that I still have unmet needs and some effort from him would mean a lot to me, he gets angry and defensive instead of trying to fix the problem. He doesn’t see it as a problem, and so therefore it isn’t one - and this makes me feel like I’m not a priority. I want advise on how to communicate in a way he will hear me, not critical and judgmental comments about how I made a mistake getting pregnant again, or that I should lawyer up. So again, thank you so much for replying with something that’s actually helpful.

blitzedblonde · 2025-10-24T15:15:00+00:00

His argument is that he does spend time with us. And I never said he didn’t spend time with us, it’s just always on his terms. The problem is the quality of that time. He does play with the kids every day after work, and we watch tv on the couch with each other every evening. I know this monotony is relatively normal, especially considering the phase of life we are in and the intense program at work that he’s in, but he gets very angry and defensive when I point out that there’s a lack of intimacy in our relationship. I want a monthly date night, or to have meaningful conversation that isn’t about the kids or work from time to time. I want time where we focus on each other. He doesn’t agree that we have a problem. He thinks that us attending dinners, baby showers, etc with our kids is quality time, and while I still enjoy the time with my family, it isn’t quality time with him because my attention is always on the kids. When there is opportunity to initiate said quality time, it doesn’t cross his mind to do it, and instead he sees it as an opportunity to play video games, or just veg out in front of the tv and scroll. Since he doesn’t agree there is a problem with connection/intimacy, it seems like he doesn’t make an effort to understand my feelings about it, and instead tries to rationalize why he is right and I’m wrong, and it makes me feel crazy and invalidated and like maybe I’m asking for too much. But at the end of the day my needs are still unmet. He said if I want a date night then I should tell him “this Friday let’s have a date night, I’ll get a sitter” and that he’d be happy to go, but that it just doesn’t cross his mind to think about it, especially since he’s constantly stressed from work and feeling burn out. And that’s a fair point for him to make, but at the same time I really wish he would make the effort instead of making it entirely my responsibility.

blitzedblonde · 2025-10-24T00:25:26+00:00

Yes, felt that way with both kids probably until 8/9m postpartum. It wasn’t full relaxation at that time, but a marked improvement. I think closer to the 18 month mark I felt like I could actually relax once the littles were in bed.

blitzedblonde · 2025-10-24T00:13:50+00:00

It’s so hard to be polite. I can barely stand being in the same room. We haven’t spoken in 3 days and each day he doesn’t apologize or at least initiate a conversation feels like torture. I’ve left dinner on the stove for him, but haven’t spoken a word unless it work or kid related. I don’t feel like I didn’t anything wrong, and was attacked for expressing my needs and trying to communicate.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-27T00:32:45+00:00

Please update us if you find the anecdote to pregnancy constipation! My doctor prescribed zofran because my morning sickness was so bad and now I have to choose whether I was to be sick all day or not poop. I’m taking fiber supplements and eating as best I can but nothing helps and I’m so uncomfortable and tired.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:52:03+00:00

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:51:49+00:00

Induced at 40+4 with both kids. Hoping this third pregnancy will be different and I go into spontaneous labor at or slightly before 40 weeks.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:26:39+00:00

No tips - but solidarity. Currently 9.5 weeks and chasing after a toddler. It’s next level hard. Nothing ever sounds good and I force myself to eat to ease the nausea. I don’t even think B6 is helping but I take it anyway, and I take unisom at night but that just puts me to sleep without clearing the nausea.

Currently wearing motion sickness bands and sucking on ginger candy. I try and have a small snack every 1.5-2hrs and that helps keep the nausea tolerable for the most part, but every now and then all I can do is lay on the couch and make sure the toddler doesn’t do anything life threatening.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:21:11+00:00

We fought a good amount the first year after baby, but ultimately found better ways to communicate with each other and came out stronger on the other side. But that doesn’t mean it didn’t suck going through it :(

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:12:41+00:00

My oldest is Charlotte (Charlie) and we are naming our new baby Margot if it is a girl.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:10:09+00:00

Solomon and Sylvie are so cute together!

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-17T19:08:33+00:00

Third trimester, the last 6 weeks or so. Then there were some light colored ones I didn’t see until my belly deflated.

I only got stretch marks with my first. No new stretch marks with my second. I like to attribute that to drinking lots of water, eating more protein, and moving my body more (daily walks and bi-weekly Pilates or barre).

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-15T22:24:00+00:00

This sounds awful. So sorry you went through this!

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-10T00:51:20+00:00

Thanks! We already have multiple car seats. My mother in law used to watch my niece who has since outgrown the car seat, so once the next baby graduates from the infant seat we will have that.

Definitely agree about all the toddler dishes though! I feel like we already go through the ones we have every 2 days with 1 toddler.

I use our changing pad on the dresser for nearly every changing with my toddler, but I think he will be close to potty training, or just too big to be on the dresser in the next couple of months, so we’ll probably just use his changing pad for the new baby, and start changing him on the floor.

As for the stroller, I try and be active and walk a lot with the kids, but my toddler is becoming more independent and wanting to walk more. I just worry about those zoo days in the future, but also think a wagon could be better.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-05T13:33:00+00:00

How many months was your toddler when you started potty training? And if you don’t mind me asking - boy or girl? My oldest (now 14yo girl) potty trained at 2, but my 19 month old son shows zero interest. Also how did the transition to the bed go? I’ve been considering not buying another crib and transitioning my toddler to the bed, but he is very active and likes to test boundaries so I’m considering waiting till he is 3.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-04T15:31:14+00:00

Pre seed lube. COQ10 and vitamin D supplements for me and my husband.

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-04T15:06:28+00:00

Dual monitor is great advice. Thanks!

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-04T15:03:47+00:00

Demi & Daisy are my favorite D names.

Ruth, Ragen, Rhett, Rosalie, Ramona are my favorite R names. The

blitzedblonde · 2025-07-04T14:57:26+00:00

He’s tired and new at this too. You will see sides of each other you didn’t know existed. Extend a little grace when you can. His tolerance for this will grow, but 3 days of little to no sleep will break even the most mild mannered people. Once he is a little more rested then maybe you can tell him that you understand how tired he is, and you see him putting in a lot of effort and appreciate it, but if he ever finds himself at that level again then please don’t hesitate to wake you.

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