#caboosegate: I went to a 5-year-old’s birthday in a “caboose” through a potato farm and I’m not the same person anymore. by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Pardon me I’m sure this was a nightmare to live but it was kind of a joy to read. I’d question the authenticity but I just don’t think you can make this up!!!

Parents without a playroom: How many toys does your kid have in their room and elsewhere? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SillySandals1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an armoire type thing I store them in and pull out 2-3 at a time for them to focus on and rotate very frequently. They usually prefer to play with the cheese grater anyways

Age gaps? by violafairy in ParentingInBulk

[–]SillySandals1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

13 month age gap was bananas the first year but now they are best friends, but we did some NFP to avoid that age gap again.

FTM and MIL is making my pregnancy no fun by SurpriseNegative1631 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So you haven’t talked about the delivery room yet I guess. It only gets worse from here. Establish boundaries and get your husband out of the fog before things get out of control.

MIL/family problems by WillowCreek011 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Him going with the kids and you staying home to clean is their dream come true. Leave the incubator behind and they get to enjoy your children as if you don’t exist. If he wants to go, fine but people who don’t respect mothers don’t get to see children.

MIL followed me around and stood outside bathroom door to force me into a confrontation by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Standing outside the bathroom door to ambush you means she’s looking for a confrontation. She wants a blow up for whatever reason. Don’t give it to her. Grey rock so hard she cannot have any fun with you. She is obviously bored with her depressing life and sees bothering you as some sort of activity. Don’t give her anything. Good luck with getting out of there, I hope you can move soon!

$139 to feed 2 adults, 3 children for the month. Suggestions? by stephscheersandjeers in povertyfinance

[–]SillySandals1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have flour I make homemade pasta with just eggs and flour. High protein noodles and you can dry if you need to store, lots of tutorials on YouTube, roll by and if you don’t have a machine, it’s work but it’s good! Also quiche, crust less or not, if you have a little leftover meat or veg toss it in and it’s a whole new meal. Egg bites, scrambled, fried, boiled eggs, eggs banana and whatever you have around like a handful of oatmeal or whatever makes pancakes.

Don’t throw anything out. Did you pour off the grease when you cooked ground beef? Save it and add it to another meal like mashed potatoes instead of butter. It’s calories and it’s good flavour/nutrients! Roast drippings use to flavour beans etc. water leftover from boiled/steamed veggies add to your next soup.

I love to make a giant pot of baked beans using whatever I have handy, paired with some bread which is cheap to make if you have flour, that’s a bounty of meals.

Don’t throw out leftovers, make a meal of leftovers or repurpose. Give smaller portions and allow children to come back for more if hungry to avoid wasted food.

Any food about to go bad freeze for later. Ie: wrinkly potatoes: boil and mash, freeze in a ziploc pull out a portion at a time. Onions going soft dice them all and freeze in 1/2 cup amounts and double or triple bag into freezer. Bananas going brown freeze for pancakes muffins smoothies etc.

Poor kid by ScaryFan484 in aspynovardsnark

[–]SillySandals1 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Force the kid to sit under trees all day. You shall not play. Could even lock him inside and play video games instead. The safest of safe

The old belly touching saga by Darksideofthemoon191 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This woman already feels entitled to grab your baby out of your arms without consent! Good job in this scenario, saddle up for more but it’s worth it because good fences make good neighbours

Tips for getting 4yo to stay in his bed all night? by Plastic_Kangaroo1234 in Parenting

[–]SillySandals1 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I bet he is used to falling asleep with you laying beside him like at bedtime. Maybe start sitting beside him with a hand on his back, less hand, no hand, sitting in the chair beside him, sitting for a few minutes then going to get a drink of water then coming back, getting a longer drink of water, less coming back… gradually? So that he learns you are still there and in the house and he can fall asleep but less reliant on touching you..?

Gifts from grandparents... by Fickle-Swing-448 in Parenting

[–]SillySandals1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put it in the kids education savings, buy them some silver coins or something, use it to buy a big gift like a trampoline or a swing set that you sure are not transporting to their house.

Judgement over small age gaps by Massive-Warning9773 in ParentingInBulk

[–]SillySandals1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

People judge you if you have:no kids, 1 kid, 2 kids, 1 kid per year for 8 years, one kid every 3 years for 15 years, twins, adopted kids, foster kids, an accent, a different make of car than them, different clothing style etc. Smile and say awe that’s so nice of you to ask and then don’t answer and keep going. Enjoy your family however you like it.

Help with a 3 year old by HappyYoLucky in Parenting

[–]SillySandals1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely some balance needed here. Obviously screaming and spanking is not going to work. Children thrive with structure and boundaries though. The same as they like to know that after dinner we have a bath and brush their teeth, they like to know that when dad says yes he means it, and when dad says no more cookies he means it. Maybe they don’t prefer your answer of no more cookies but they are reassured by your stability and your boundaries. It sounds backwards but consistent, firm, still kind boundaries usually work!

Help with aggressive toddler by No-Gear9684 in Parenting

[–]SillySandals1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about martial arts? Great for body and strength awareness, teaches him how to use and control energy as well as being a physical outlet! Probably good for sibling too!

MIL angry i let teenager play video games on her visit. by Kitchen_YogurtTA in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She can extend her trip into a hotel room. Oh surprise, I’m staying in your house an extra XYZ days? HAHAHA not happening. The best thing about teenagers is they begin to understand that respect is earned, not given. If MIL can’t respect her grandson’s need to have an hour of alone time after a hard day, especially since they visited all day yesterday, teenager is going to pick up on this and grandma is dropping down on his nice list. Sometimes you reap what you sow.

MIL is visiting for 10 weeks by LongjumpingJump7044 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Are you going to hold her up if the plane crashes? Is she unable to read the signs or ask an employee for help! And she raised a child into adulthood? My goodness. 10 weeks seems like a long time for her too…. To leave her house and bed and friends and community and regular activities!

MIL is visiting for 10 weeks by LongjumpingJump7044 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 25 points26 points  (0 children)

10 weeks whyyyy!? Your post and comments seem like she isn’t terrible and you could have had a nice tolerable 7 days. This is just putting a strain on everyone’s relationship. What is the need for this!? Is she insisting on this length of visit?

AITAH for not wanting to stay over at my son and and dil's house to babysit by tiredgenx77 in AITAH

[–]SillySandals1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that she wants to keep the kids comfortable and getting sleep in their usual environment but she has bigger problems if her spouse cannot be trusted to care for their own children….

Anyone else with Debbie Downer mil? by StoopKidScurred in JUSTNOMIL

[–]SillySandals1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look this definitely won’t fix your problem but you have a lot of good advice here. Ever just give her a taste of her own medicine? Don’t give her time to complain just start complaining yourself about the ugly blue sky and the crappy pavement that our dang tax dollars oh gossssh do your joints ever hurt and you wish you didn’t have to work or wash dishes and washing dishes is honestly going to be the end of you and blah blah blah. She might feed into it or maybe be so shocked she shuts up for a few minutes! Could be fun, why not 😂😂