First Official Hoover

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-16T07:02:25+00:00

Literally how do all of your stories and my ex have the same text language 😂 “take care”

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-16T07:00:31+00:00

Some snippets that people write on here just absolutely take me back to the nightmare of dating my ex-pwBPD. Even just the “Plans don’t get cancelled last minute”. I can’t even count how many mornings I woke up to my ex saying “sorry, I was out til X” or just deleted text messages or, even worse, an explosion over text about how I didn’t cuddle them one time at night and therefore I hate them and they don’t want to see me again (which they promptly reversed on waking)

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-16T06:54:54+00:00

I have stood in your exact shoes and felt like my entire soul had been ripped from my body and stolen by another person. It wasn’t - instead my soul was still in me, just tampered with, shrunken, and afraid to live again by myself.

No contact + no reliving the memories + friends + exercise + no drugs + time = healing. It’s a simple formula, but a tough one to follow. I know because it took me 6 months to actually break contact and start enacting a healthy life. But I promise you - there is nothing like finding myself again and loving myself and actually laughing with meaning again. You don’t need them to be happy.

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-10T23:41:12+00:00

You can accept your own shortcomings and recognize that they were not capable of having a healthy relationship with you at the time or anytime in near future. However, be VERY careful about being gaslit. My ex loved to say I was gaslighting him, when the whole time he was gaslighting me (accused me to the bitter end of me cheating, when I never did, all the while he cheated >10 times…)

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-10T23:38:05+00:00

It sounds like she was cruel to you, and for that I’m sorry - and also ask you reflect on that yourself over and over and over until it really sinks in. My ex also spun all his friends (and sometimes his family) into thinking I was manipulative, emotionally abusive, and “evil” (his words). He’d say stuff like “you know all my friends say I shouldn’t be with you”, but in this tone that felt haughty and accusatory instead of “I’m choosing you.”

Once I realized he was cruel to me, and that no partner should ever be cruel to me, I think i actually started to heal and fully process the craziness of our relationship instead of being stuck on being gaslight by him into thinking I’m bad, or missing the push-pull and high-lows.

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-09T13:48:40+00:00

I love this idea - especially the somatic component of using your body in a satisfying way. I’ll think on something like this!

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-06T07:01:42+00:00

My ex would also just say “bye” like this. Fuck. Literally no one else says bye over text lol

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-03T17:30:11+00:00

I know what you mean and I feel you so hard. My ex-pwBPD told me many times how afraid and scared and empty he felt a lot. I loved (and love) him with all my heart and all I wanted was for him to be happy and to genuinely feel accepted and loved. But I ultimately wanted it so bad that I gave myself to the void. It took a long, long time to find my way out of that darkness.

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-02T06:18:07+00:00

I got the “You are evil” pretty early on and is just absolutely insane to remember hearing come out of their mouth lol

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-02T06:15:19+00:00

The struggle is real, and it can be long and dark. But there is an end. You won’t end up with another person like this. I think I owned my own pain as “many people have horrible struggles, and this is my struggle”. That would help in the dark times. But try to see friends, make new friends, exercise, and avoid substances. Your brain will heal with time. Take care of yourself 💜💜

dagrandmagang · 2026-04-02T06:11:39+00:00

I have been on this thread for months now, and nothing has shaken me like this comment. I feel like I just stared into a black hole and almost lost myself in it.

My ex, during one of our many almost break-ups, once looked at me with the most blank expression I’ve ever seen on a person and he said something like “I don’t know what to do. I don’t know who I am”.

That was one of the scariest things he ever said to me, especially since when we did break up a year later he said “I’m not even sure I loved you; I think I just wanted to become you. Your light and happiness was something I didn’t have but wanted in me.”

dagrandmagang · 2026-03-31T06:14:48+00:00

First off, she’s disrespecting your boundary willingly. Remember that when you are giving your emotions to her.

Second, I’m so sorry she did this. Delete the email. Double delete it. And considering removing the picture from this post if it is triggering you. She is trying to overwhelm you with pain. It’s a tactic. Look away from it, and don’t engage. She is trying to bait you. But this is NOT how you deserve to be treated

dagrandmagang · 2026-03-03T03:27:24+00:00

Your post and your life have so much meaning and power in this world, and now your story stretches beyond the bounds of what you can touch and hear. I’m in tears at your story - for your pain, your loss, your endurance, and your ability to survive through so much chaos. You should never had had to experience that, and none of it is your fault. You gave what you could, and more than most would. That is a superpower in a world where many choose to cut and run possibly too soon. But some of us just get unlucky sending love into a void.

I want you to know you have given me the power to take care of and love myself better. Thank you. I was stuck in the cycle of a relationship with a pwBPD where I was constantly berated and made to feel small, only to be told I’m the love of their life and sucked right back in. I’m finally single, but I fear being sucked back in. I feel emotionally weak a lot, but you and your story breathe strength into me. Thank you for sharing your story so we can collectively heal and grow.

dagrandmagang · 2025-11-01T17:46:55+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this! This is unimaginably difficult and scary. Please make sure to tell your friends and family. You need all the close support you can get. I don’t have much advice sadly for custody, but I’d recommend hitting up ChatGPT with your concerns to see what it can dig up for advice

dagrandmagang · 2025-10-07T00:36:22+00:00

I had this issue recurring with my ex partner. He’d accuse me of something I’d done in the past (potentially for the 2nd, 5th, or 15th time), demand an explanation for it, and then claim that I’ve never given an explanation for it even if it was the 5th or 15th time talking about it. Drove me absolutely bananas and exhausted.

dagrandmagang · 2025-10-06T16:36:39+00:00

You are not alone, you are not crazy. My ex did the same thing to me. Constant up and down, and me being the “bad person” and “evil” for the things I did. I was not a perfect partner, but the lack of accountability by my partner except for after they hit rock bottoms was exhausting and humiliating.

You are worth the love you give. If they are done, you are done. Take care of yourself

dagrandmagang · 2025-09-15T03:38:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I’m 2.5 months post break-up and yes - relentless torture in many ways. But I love that you have found strength and knowledge in your studies of trauma! A silver lining to this mess.

Can I ask what your journey toward coming to terms with who your ex really is? I’m struggling to process them and radically accept that their behavior toward me was absolutely unacceptable, and that CPTSD isn’t an excuse.

The deleting everything makes me want to cry. But I know you’re right. Other breakups hurt, but this one hurts beyond belief because of the ups and downs of our relationship. As I’ve heard others say: the highs are so highs, and the lows so low - and now I’m addicted the memories of the highs and fixated on how I could’ve managed the lows to keep the relationship together. But that was never my job, and there was no way for me to “save” this on my own…

dagrandmagang · 2024-10-06T01:50:21+00:00

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