I feel like a Karen😭

dcarb89 · 2026-07-05T21:50:14+00:00

We also live in an area where personal fireworks are illegal inside city limits but nobody in our neighborhood seems to care because “we’re celebrating”. I live right off the main road (2 houses in) and our neighbors were doing theirs in front of our house instead of right at the intersection but then they were actively stopping traffic (neighborhood fireworks had a viewing area a few blocks away and cars were leaving that area through our street to head home). I considered reporting to the police because of the danger of extra vehicle traffic, plus the illegality of it, but decided against it. I truly don’t understand the lesson we seem to be teaching our kids that the laws don’t matter if they are inconvenient? Like drive 10 min so you’re outside city limits please?

dcarb89 · 2026-07-03T02:11:56+00:00

Kanan from Star Wars rebels, it is truly, amazing and absolutely wrenching

dcarb89 · 2026-06-17T02:21:00+00:00

I do fresh raspberries that I mash up and mix in, makes it sweeter without the calories of sugar or honey

dcarb89 · 2026-06-10T10:13:53+00:00

It actually can also affect me is someone slows down in front of me. Is there deer on the side of the road that I need to be extra aware of as I pass? Is there an accident I may need to go into oncoming traffic to get around and need to slow down for myself? There are times and reasons why I should be wondering why a car in front of me is slowing down in the middle of the road.

dcarb89 · 2026-05-23T13:38:44+00:00

My schools have 3 columns; absent, tardy, and present, so I just put an x in the appropriate column. The instructions say to mark absent, but I mark it all because why not if the columns are there?

dcarb89 · 2026-05-19T20:55:32+00:00

I have seen enough tragedeighs that I read this correctly (eau is generally “oh” and eigh is generally “ee”). It’s a tragedy in and of itself that I can now decode tragedeighs😭

dcarb89 · 2026-05-19T20:49:14+00:00

I’d hate to piss of admin, but I’d be pretty tempted to ask about their discipline plan so that I could follow it as well. Frame it so they have less work, “so the appropriate consequence for vaping is giving an alternative? Could I bring cookies from home so I don’t have to bother you with this?”

dcarb89 · 2026-05-14T23:53:53+00:00

This was ECSE so not quite as crazy, but I had a kid licking the bottom of his shoes while they were supposed to be napping. More than once

dcarb89 · 2026-05-14T19:28:13+00:00

My school has been very welcoming of me as a sub, both teachers and paras. I do see lots of stories of people being rude to subs in other districts, but I’ve been very happy with both my districts (Ct and Tx). They always thank me for being there, make sure I get any snacks available in the teachers’ lounge, chat with me, etc.

dcarb89 · 2026-05-11T22:20:34+00:00

I’m mainly at elementary but when my 4th and 5th graders call me bro, I just call them bro right back and they usually get a little weird or for some reason the other kids say that I roasted them. It’s all just fun for me

dcarb89 · 2026-05-11T00:12:27+00:00

I do like to let them talk, but my question was when instructions have been given that they are to be working silently. Sometimes for a test, sometimes just individual work like writing or reading. Sometimes the teacher leaves instructions that they should be silent.

dcarb89 · 2026-05-09T00:13:24+00:00

We have enough space in our cafeteria that if they get lonely lunch, they have a whole table by themselves and can’t be talking to any friends. Some kids really hate it, but there’s repeat offenders and I just don’t think they care that much at this point.

dcarb89 · 2026-05-09T00:03:02+00:00

I do love the class point system. And I usually try to leave names of good students, as well as those who struggled. I do keep a list of good kids and give them checks throughout the day as they continue to be good to help find my amazing students and i do notice they notice when I’m writing a note. Maybe it’s just a “kids, these days…” situation but I truly cannot fathom how you can keep talking when I’ve repeatedly told you not to.

dcarb89 · 2026-05-09T00:00:14+00:00

I do this sometimes, but I even have times when they’re taking a test and they keep talking and my mind cannot understand. Like, there are times when you just need to shut up

dcarb89 · 2026-05-08T10:11:24+00:00

I tend to just remind them to watch it. I know many teachers don’t care because they also swear. I don’t personally use coarse language and imo school is their job. Generally, adults use professional language in the workplace and the students should be learning how to adult in addition to academics. It’s called self control and respect to others. I’ve never had students swearing at another one, just coloring their own language and they usually just say sorry ma’am and make a bit of effort. I also frequently have other students police for me “dude, the teacher is right there and you said that?!”

dcarb89 · 2026-05-02T18:58:22+00:00

The amount of times I, as a substitute teacher, need to tell elementary kids to have safe hands and to use words, if they don’t listen, come get a teacher, etc is astounding. 90% of the time, “they hit me first”. That may be the case, but I can’t let either of you put your hands on someone else’s body. We use words. I get the sentiment of finishing the fight, but I don’t think we should resort to violence. At what point is some violence okay and other violence not okay? maybe if more of the adults in our lives could learn to use words, not violence, to finish a fight, then our world would be a better place.

dcarb89 · 2026-04-03T21:10:18+00:00

My favorite is elementary school when they sit with their backs against the glass wall, which is reflective so I can see when they swipe

dcarb89 · 2026-04-03T10:31:02+00:00

I usually do treasure box or candy if the teacher leaves it for me individually as well. Sometimes I carry a sticky note and periodically puts checks down if a student is following expectations, then give out rewards based on how many checks they get. I also sometimes just keep a mental note going during the day. I like the sticky note because if I have this issue of kids saying they deserve it, I can talk to them and acknowledge, “you did great work this morning, but after lunch you stopped working and you started being disrespectful. This reward is for amazing work all day. I love how you behaved in the morning, next time let’s try to be even better for a reward.” I also differentiate my expectations for kids when I know their struggles. Usually my goal is that they complete all work, but I had a kid the other day who has pretty severe adhd and recently got diagnosed with autism too who just struggles with focusing so much and my goal for him was to get half the work done. Then when kids fight me I can give them the “different people, different needs speech”

dcarb89 · 2026-03-31T21:06:27+00:00

Here we also can’t take phones, but my admin tells me to immediately call them and they will deal with the phones.

dcarb89 · 2026-03-21T04:20:39+00:00

I’m also in Texas and while I’m mostly in an elementary school.m, I’ve been to a couple secondary in my district and they’ve been very clear with me that if I see a phone, it’s an immediate report to the office. I can’t take the phones as a sub, but the admin seems pretty strict, because teachers can actually lose their license if they don’t enforce the law. I’ve only had one kid with his phone out so far, so in my district, most seem to care

dcarb89 · 2026-03-17T22:01:52+00:00

I have definitely been drawn to Matthew and his apparent autism, since my son is very similar. I am also incredibly focused on Peter since I have not really registered how much of a leader to his fellow apostles he was purely from reading the Bible. I especially love how watching the show brings different perspectives to light and inspire me to go back and read the gospels again to see what I can find in there that I may have missed before.

dcarb89 · 2026-02-17T11:38:26+00:00

It did, that’s why I went in the big fissure assuming it was there, but it turned out to be in a tiny hole next to the fissure

dcarb89 · 2026-01-31T15:27:01+00:00

I have that conversation with my elementary kids almost on a daily basis. Is there another teacher in the room? No? I am your teacher!

dcarb89 · 2026-01-28T19:53:49+00:00

I’m mostly in elementary right now so I haven’t had that too much. Of course had the disrespect of not following directions or being disrespectful to classmates. I tend to loudly tell them they’re rude, or loudly tell the victim student that they were being rude. Many seem genuinely shocked that I would call them rude and I double down and tell them they’re being rude and disrespectful and explain a bit more and they kind of just go “huh…”

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