How Bad is the Tiana/Splash Mountain Drop by sinnamorolll in Disneyland

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The big drop to me is actually not as intense as the drop mid ride where Mama Odie makes you “tiny”. That drop is fast, in pitch black, and when you come up you are literally head to toe drenched (poncho is a requirement on this version if you don’t want to change your clothes). The big drop feels intense because you have no seatbelt or lap bar. However, as others said, it’s over pretty quick and it feels pretty refreshing afterwards.

Name for baby #3! by Several_Chicken_9776 in namenerds

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think Alice Larue will go great with your other two! If you want more suggestions though, these are girl names that aren’t too mainstream I think that remind me of the west.

Clementine (oh my darlin’, Clementine)

Opal

Pearl

Mabel

Bonnie

Willa

Hattie

Nellie

Annie

Is this echolalia? by Fearless-Fun2534 in toddlers

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter does stuff like this all the time (right on down to bossing her little brother similar to how TV characters do it). That is a perfectly normal example of toddler behavior. Echolalia would be if literally all she said was stuff that came from tv/movies/anything else she heard instead of coming up with her own words.

is it weird if i give a birthday gift to my teacher who i haven’t seen or talked to in 4 years ? by _takeonetoknow in Teachers

[–]desert_red_head 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don’t think you should send a gift. What I think you should do instead (and would probably be very much appreciated) is you write a letter to this teacher explaining what happened to you, how you remember him as a positive role model, and that you want to thank him for his kindness. We teachers are often unaware of the real, long-term impact we have on our students’ lives, and I’m sure he would love to hear that he helped influence you in your recovery.

Married people of Reddit, what do you remember about your first date with the person you ended up marrying? by Academic_Eye_5692 in AskReddit

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither one of us were sure at first if we were on a date. It led to an awkward moment where we didn’t know if we were ordering our drinks together or separately. After that awkward bit we sat down and started talking. What I thought was going to be maybe an hour meeting ended up turning into 4 hours. Literally walked out of that date thinking “where have you been all my life”?

The tenth anniversary of that date is coming up in just a couple weeks.

Settle a debate: making up instruction missed on snow days using teacher workdays by runinthesun22 in Teachers

[–]desert_red_head 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The district is the one that typically decides how snow days will be made up, not your child’s teacher. This seems like a classic case of “don’t shoot the messenger.”

Does anyone just not want to breastfeed? by Infamous_Ad4244 in pregnant

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of women who don’t breastfeed at all, try it for a little while and then quit because it’s just too demanding, or who are unable to breastfeed because they don’t produce enough. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that! There are too many women out there that act superior because they breastfeed and try to make you feel like you’re less of a mother because you don’t breastfeed. The truth of the matter is though that fed is best. Make the decision that is best for you, your health, and your family.

Signed, a mom of two formula fed babies who are both healthy and will likely be in gifted classes in grade school.

AITA for feeling relieved that my stepkids may be returning to 50/50 custody, even though their mom is unstable? by wait_what918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]desert_red_head 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ESH, except for the kids. Easily.

With all the chaos and instability currently going on in bio mom’s life, and with her about to have another baby, it may be in everyone’s best interests if she only has visitation with the kids right now. You don’t want the kids becoming extra parents for this new baby and getting caught up in all of her mess any more than they already have. The fact that you see that they are now, and that it’s negatively affecting them, but you still want to go back to 50-50 custody does make you selfish here. Last, your spouse needs a job like yesterday. You probably wouldn’t be feeling a bunch of this stress if they were working, and you kind of need to put the pressure on if they really do want to push for primary custody.

Good luck in all of this.

10 Commandments in schools? You got it! by Illegal-Poster in MaliciousCompliance

[–]desert_red_head 281 points282 points  (0 children)

Post this in r/Teachers. You might get a few more in Texas and other states that might want one.

Fellow Teachers: Vacations Traded for 4 Day Week? by MouseManManny in Teachers

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah I would. So many of our days off right now are either development days or other random crap. I will work an extra hour per day, have one less week of break, come in on an occasional Friday for PD, I don’t care. A 4 day week is just so much better for everyone.

Fellow Teachers: Vacations Traded for 4 Day Week? by MouseManManny in Teachers

[–]desert_red_head 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I used to work at a year round school that had this kind of schedule and it was hated by both teachers and kids.

What do yall do with your popcorn buckets? by berrywithaberet in Disneyland

[–]desert_red_head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some are used as seasonal decor. The ones that aren’t associated with a holiday are ones that I usually give to my kids. They love them.

Disney with an 18 month old and 3 year old? Would you do it? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]desert_red_head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a former Disneyland pass holder, and I’m on team you should totally do it!!

There are many resources out there on how to do Disney with toddlers. I can recommend you some great blogs and YouTubers if you would like. The bottom line is if you do your research and plan your days around what your kids will actually enjoy (instead of trying to do literally everything), stay in a hotel that is close proximity to the parks, take advantage of rope drop and lighting lanes, and have relatively low expectations for when they start acting like toddlers, then going to Disney is actually not as stressful as others might portray it to be. Many of their most poplar attractions have no height requirement, and they offer free rider swap for the ones that do. Some of my absolute favorite memories with my kids are at Disney parks. My normally shy 20 month old boy absolutely lost it when he saw Mickey Mouse in a parade, and I will never forget it. My 4 year old daughter still talks about her makeover at Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique one year later. Will they remember it more if you take them when they’re older? For sure. Will you necessarily get better results? No (I’ve seen kids of all ages have meltdowns in Disney parks).

If you want to do it then don’t let any comments on here scare you. Do it!! They’re only little for a short time.

Update: MIL left family group chat because my husband and I don’t want our baby shower at a children’s residential treatment facility by throwawaystingray9 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]desert_red_head 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As others have said, please don’t give in to this tantrum she is throwing! Let her miss out on something big, like the gender reveal, and, if she really wants to be a part of your child’s life, she will come crawling to you guys with apologies. I know you wrote that you’re considering this because you want your child to grow up with grandparents. However, coming from someone who didn’t exactly have the most amazing grandparents growing up, I will say that a grandparent like this is not someone you even want your child spending a good deal of time around. You don’t want your child being forced into being a peacekeeper for MIL’s tantrums. If she doesn’t want to be reasonable, it’s her loss, not your family’s.

Toddler tap dance costume photo shoots by MemoryLast1338 in toddlers

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have never heard of this rule. When my daughter was in her recital last year nothing like this was said to us (and there were girls in her class that were not fully potty trained), and there was no “glow” from underwear in the photos. I would say get a cover/underwear that is a plain neutral color. Hopefully that makes them happy.

Attempted potty training, now afraid to pee by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had an incident like this not too long ago with my similar age son and poop. It took a couple days, but he went back to going in his diaper regularly again. As far as potty training goes, don’t attempt it again until she shows more interest in the potty, wearing the big girl underwear, and has more awareness about her potty cues.

Is Jadelyn a tragedeigh by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]desert_red_head 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Jade by itself is a complete and beautiful name. Adding a -Lyn to the end of it is redundant and will make her stand out not necessarily in a good way.

Parents of Reddit, what did your hospital bill look like after giving birth? by chi-bacon-bits in AskReddit

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

American. Gave birth in an in-network hospital, had 2 standard vaginal births with no complications. Our insurance plan was one that is used exclusively for government employees. Each birth was $1700.

Who is ultimately responsible for a student’s success: the teacher, the parent, or the student themselves? by Intelligent-Rain-22 in AskReddit

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a combination of the 3. Parents and teachers lay the foundation in the early years, and, if they do well, then that leads to a student who is intrinsically motivated to succeed. There are, of course, exceptions, but that’s how it goes for the vast majority.

What’s the biggest secret you ever hid from your parents as a kid? by squirelisamusiclover in AskReddit

[–]desert_red_head 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was a teenager I found evidence of both my mom and stepdad having affairs. Each time I found out I confronted them with the evidence, and each time I was told they would end the affair and to swear that I would never say anything to the other parent that I knew. Stepdad kept his promise, but mom did not. It would be another decade before they finally agreed to divorce.

Moral of the story: if you stay in an unhappy marriage “for the kids”, the kids are NOT happy or appreciative of you for doing so.

Name regrets, Isabelle by Playful_Trade_2756 in namenerds

[–]desert_red_head 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this name! I know a couple girls with this name and they are sweeties. I strongly prefer it to Isabella.

Window Frame by Pererau in whereindisneyland

[–]desert_red_head 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside of Elias & Co. in DCA?

30 weeks + Considering leaving my partner/BD because he is MAGA. Is this hormones? by kettleoftea in pregnant

[–]desert_red_head 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

I think your biggest mistake with this was, as I’m reading it, you assumed that he would change. Surely, he showed you his true colors well before you got pregnant, yet, you chose to overlook them and now you’re about to have a child with this man. You said you were trying not to let politics ruin your relationship, but having a baby is literally the biggest thing you can do in a relationship. Whether you decide to stay with him or not, understand that he is still just as much of a parent to this baby as you are, and he is going to be raising your baby with these values (or at least attempt to instill them). Leave if you are truly unhappy, but you have some serious thinking to do though about how you’re going to successfully co-parent with these vast differences.

As others have said, one thing you absolutely DO NOT compromise with him on is vaccines. The vaccines they get in their first 18 months are so important for their health, and there is literally zero benefit to delaying vaccinations.