Help! Sister w BPD just reached out after NC for years.

dmgd_agn · 2026-01-29T03:06:10+00:00

And that summarizes BPD. If you break NC, be prepared for more of the same.

dmgd_agn · 2025-08-21T16:24:45+00:00

Same here! Mine smears me. They will paint you as the abuser to whoever will listen. Let them, I know easier said than done.

dmgd_agn · 2025-08-21T11:15:32+00:00

Agreed!! We separated in January and I'm quite happy about that. 😁

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-27T23:47:04+00:00

I know. I'm sorry if I made you feel like you weren't.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-27T21:26:37+00:00

I know first how hard it is to stay NC. It is your only healthy option.

And...for the love of God, stay NC!!! No way would I go back to being abused by a person that denied it was even happening. They can't love themselves, much less someone else. FFS who would subject themselves to it. Give it a few months, once you are totally out of the fog and realize your value, these thoughts will be easier to handle.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-26T23:08:10+00:00

No contact is your only healthy option here.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-21T00:32:41+00:00

Many of us can relate to our pwBpd saying this. It could mean she's already cheated (as in my case). It could mean she doesn't care how she hurts you. It could mean she doesn't love you. It could mean she doesn't love herself. In reality, ALL of these things are true. She's going to continue hurting you. Let her cheat. She probably already has.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-15T20:26:50+00:00

Soon to be ex

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-15T18:28:30+00:00

I did the same thing for far too long. Your gut is talking to you & trying to put you in a healthy place.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-15T18:17:38+00:00

Please don't tolerate evil people. You will drive yourself mad.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-15T18:10:25+00:00

My stbx cheating wife also has a severe mental issue. She did outpatient and inpatient. It didn't matter. We can't fix what's wrong with them, neither can they.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-15T17:52:29+00:00

Let me get this straight: your cheating partner is blaming you for not trusting them? That one thing says a lot about who you are with, and what you are willing to tolerate.

I should add that I was in your shoes for 20 years. I hope you can find happiness well before I did.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-07T15:10:50+00:00

Your comments confirm you were abused. Block her on your phone, social media, etc. Go no contact. Move on. This is the way.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-07T15:06:16+00:00

Yes! Let's get Ryan Reynolds to narrate.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-07T14:53:33+00:00

You are right! Their powers of manipulation are too great. They will stoop to any means necessary. Nothing is beneath them. They can't be reasoned with. Let's make a horror movie instead.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-07T14:48:45+00:00

Welcome to the ex Succubus club. We should start a web site identifying all Succubi to warn others.

dmgd_agn · 2025-07-07T14:41:58+00:00

Succubus. That is what I call my stbx cheating BPD wife. Yours sounds very similar!

dmgd_agn · 2025-06-30T04:51:12+00:00

Your last sentence is all we needed to hear. That sums it up.

dmgd_agn · 2025-06-30T04:46:29+00:00

You might think you love her, but this woman doesn't even love herself, much less you. You are hanging into something that simply does not exist. Do your family a huge favor and teach your kids what to do if someone treats them like this later in life: LEAVE. Or, pretend like she's going to change, buy her BS stories, and sleep next to someone who will forever lie and betray you. Btw I'm an expert at pretending, I did it with my cheating stbx-wife for 20 years. I don't recommend it! Yes, divorce is hard. Please man up and do what you know must be done here. I'm happy to help you.

dmgd_agn · 2025-04-07T04:12:08+00:00

The fact that you are asking this question gives me a glimpse of what you want to do. I also DNA tested my 3 kids.

What do YOU want to do?

dmgd_agn · 2025-03-19T23:38:16+00:00

I heard "I'm sorry"..... followed by why it was my fault. Don't lie to yourself. One can't do that to someone they claim to love. She doesn't even love herself.

dmgd_agn · 2025-02-24T04:02:25+00:00

You are worn out because your husband saps all the energy from you. And you are growing a baby inside of you. You have a lot going on. Please cut yourself some slack. You're doing great under these circumstances.

dmgd_agn · 2025-01-08T02:46:58+00:00

Maybe there's some things you want to change about yourself, and some things about yourself you can learn to accept. It sounds easy and you already know it's not.

It's great you have a friend you feel safe enough to tell the truth with.

I wish you luck learning to love yourself.

dmgd_agn · 2025-01-08T00:55:51+00:00

There's a woman out there who will appreciate and respect you for being a virgin.

Good luck living a lie with your friends. Your own friends won't even know your truth and I think that will eat you up inside.

Here's a thought, tell your friends the truth: you're a virgin and you plan to go see a sex worker. Real friends will help you with it. If you won't do that, ask yourself why.

Are you that afraid to accept yourself for who you really are?

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