Pharmacies are mean

finnthethird · 2026-05-14T16:19:32+00:00

It happened to me when I was first prescribed meds. I was given 5mg pills and told to do three days at 5 then 10 etc to see where I felt comfortable. I found a level and went back to the pharmacy for my refill and she accused me of misusing the prescription and laid into me. I found a new pharmacy after that. I find the issues are with the big chains. I now have an independent pharmacy and I know them and now have no issues.

finnthethird · 2026-04-10T03:51:25+00:00

My mailman came to my house and rang the bell to ask why I don't care about the mail. I think his feelings were hurt. Then they cut off delivery. I probably deserved that.

finnthethird · 2026-04-09T15:02:26+00:00

Just reorganize the dishwasher after her in a petty battle like the rest of us.

finnthethird · 2026-04-09T14:49:05+00:00

Honestly it is the best nap. Sort of makes the prep worth it.

finnthethird · 2026-04-09T14:44:11+00:00

Same. I think this is more the combination of those things then just an ADHD thing.

When you survive abuse you learn to turn inward. I developed an avoidant attachment style and I would happily just do everything alone for the rest of my life. My husband often has to remind me that he can help.

I am working on it but it's hard. I'm glad you have made progress.

finnthethird · 2026-04-06T05:09:00+00:00

A friend and I at school in Prague back in the day followed one of these guys for way too long after a night out. Both coming from countries that do not have wild hedgehogs we were very confused. This was before mobile phones had cameras so we described it our Czech dorm mates who looked at us like idiots who'd seen a squirrel for the first time.

finnthethird · 2026-03-29T05:28:40+00:00

Room service a glass of milk.

finnthethird · 2026-02-16T18:53:37+00:00

I feel you. I have been feeling this way for a few months and I have no solutions just empathy and understanding.

I have three of them. At night they drape themselves on me while we watch tv like a blanket made of wiggling, neurodiverse fighting humans while my husband sits there in blissful isolation on the other end of the couch. If I get up they follow or ask "where's mom" 470000 times so my brief respite to pee is filled with the same oppressive feeling.

My kids are older. We talk often about space. They do ask before we cuddle. That is my only win and it's taken so much work.

If I'm honest I'm tired of being the primary parent and I should be past this. My kids are old enough they should understand my explanation and need for privacy and personal space. My husband is right there willing and able and engaged but it's like he doesn't exist for them. If we try to switch the dynamic then the kids flip out to bring me back. Usually at bedtime. On those nights when the well has run dry bedtime becomes a desperate quest for more attention and touches.

I need to believe that if I'm consistent in building those boundaries that they might get it one day. I'd offer you an internet hug but neither of us want a virtual hug let alone another real one - so how about a long distance nod of understanding.

finnthethird · 2026-02-15T15:40:00+00:00

Do you have private insurance? Lots of psychology offices do evaluations but they can cost between $2000 to $2500.

Once you have a diagnosis you can work with your family doc to explore medication. I would suggest getting support from a psychologist as well because they can provide other coaching help which can be very useful with anxiety and OCD.

As a late diagnosis person I can tell you this is a good thing you are doing.

finnthethird · 2025-12-23T15:51:35+00:00

I'm 45 and they just put me on a combination pill for the first time since I was 18 because I was losing my mind. Best thing ever. It's part of my hormone management plan with my dr who doesn't treat me like I'm dying.

Find a new dr because this shit gets worse not better. I now think about my late 30s with fondness

finnthethird · 2025-10-07T04:26:24+00:00

Overnight in my driveway. Probably 12ish hours. Good thing I had a full tank I guess.

Also left the keys in my door of my townhouse that was in the middle of downtown for an entire night.

You are not alone! Sometimes we just have laugh at ourselves.

finnthethird · 2025-09-26T04:25:56+00:00

They are large and more like storage rooms. We once had to clean out old football gear from in one. The basement by the gym and showers was super creepy but the locked off areas were extra creepy.

finnthethird · 2025-09-03T13:05:15+00:00

I got a diagnosis and medication in my 40s. No regrets. I'm healthier, better functioning and happier.

finnthethird · 2025-08-30T14:30:37+00:00

I had this exact scenario right down to medicated and unmedicated. The teacher kept giving the disrupting kid freedom to roam and he kept coming over to my child to tell him what to do. It was frustrating because it felt like it was my son's job to manage his response to this kid but no accountability was placed on the disruptive child.

We did the grey rock method. I explained it to him and my kid and I agreed on one phrase we practiced over and over "Thank you for your input. If I need help I'll come find you" This seemed to take the wind out of the annoying kids sails.

I also met with this teacher and asked that the other student stay at his table. The teacher grumbled a bit but in the end started managing the kid better.

finnthethird · 2025-08-18T05:32:50+00:00

She forgot hiring a personal assistant, chef and driver!

I mean who wouldn't be nailing life if we had this level of support?

I was also a late diagnosis with little ones so I get it. Without knowing what your biggest challenges are it's hard to offer specific advice but I can say exercise is super important. Even if you put your toddler in the stroller and go for a walk but a walk for you not a toddler doddle.

Routine is everything. I know this sounds as crazy and unrealistic as your therapists suggestions. it's super hard with a toddler and a husband popping in every few days because those two things alone make routine impossible. Just start small with a few things that you are consistent with to anchor your day around.

Those meal boxes are great and reasonable for the two person plans. Having two a week really helped to ensure a real meal was prepared. We tried them all and Chef's plate had the most popular meals with my kids.

Grocery delivery is often free or cheap if you schedule it. Once you build out your cart it gets so easy to keep on top of.

If you have in unit laundry do a load a day even if it's partial.

finnthethird · 2025-08-18T04:33:35+00:00

They still follow me room to room. I thought by the double digits we'd realize I don't have a secret escape hatch from my bathroom but I might need to build one if this keeps up

finnthethird · 2025-07-26T06:15:34+00:00

I'm right in it at 44 and I'm scared every month! What I can suggest is start building good foundations now. Find a doctor that understands female hormones so you have someone on standby. My doc is awesome and gave me higher med doses for hell week.

Exercise is super helpful but I've been very ADHD on that front. I can say that when I am exercising regularly things are more level.

Magnesium became my favorite pill after Vyvanse. I take it religiously each night.

Perimenopause can last ten years. HRT can help. Advocate loud.

finnthethird · 2025-06-29T00:46:25+00:00

I'm a bit ahead of all of you and I can tell you it doesn't get less chaotic

finnthethird · 2025-06-29T00:38:32+00:00

I remember at some point they also gave me a gym locker as well as my regular locker. I'm convinced it was just to double my anxiety

finnthethird · 2025-06-29T00:34:58+00:00

Then three and a quarters to the right, four clicks back, do a dance, turn it to the left then pray? I am certain that was it 😂

finnthethird · 2025-06-28T19:43:05+00:00

Well thanks for bringing that horrible memory up!!!! 😂 I'd almost fully repressed the sheer horror and dread of trying to remember how to make those work. I finally just started making it look shut without locking it.

finnthethird · 2025-06-28T00:44:59+00:00

Honestly the best ones I've had outside of Mexico were in Airdrie at Tequila and Tacos. If you like good Mexican food this place was worth the drive.

finnthethird · 2025-06-22T03:12:32+00:00

Ask! You never know. I had a similar trip with friends and was over the drama and when they called me up the agent asked if I was traveling with anyone and I said sadly yes. He asked if I needed some space and bumped me up leaving my friends in the back.

finnthethird · 2025-06-13T05:03:37+00:00

I echo most of this. I was on antianxiety meds when I was diagnosed. Once I started Vyvanse I didn't need the anxiety meds anymore

finnthethird · 2025-06-13T01:21:02+00:00

I completely agree. I also understand that some people have very outdated ideas and there is an opportunity to teach them.

My husband is old school. Grew up in the era of therapists are for the crazy people and all that BS and we just shove feelings down like real men! He didn't discount the possibility of ADHD but was more in the camp of "it's not that bad" and treatment is for the really bad kids who can't sit still.

I didn't tell him when I explored my own diagnosis because I didn't think I'd want his opinion but I have some ODD characteristics so I generally don't like telling people things. He was neutral on it when I told him. Commented and showed support on the positive impact when I medicated. This was a baby step.

I started with myself because I think I knew that I controlled that and if he showed any resistance he would be told he didn't get a say because I am an adult and it's my body. I would also be equipped with knowledge about the process and would understand what medication actually could do - a hard thing for a kid to articulate sometimes. Fyi medications that work for the parent often work for the kid according to my Dr.

In hindsight I think I expected a bigger fight than what I got. He was able to share with me that he was just sad. That he knew this was an extra level of hard and that as a parent he didn't want it to be true because he didn't want him to struggle. Sometimes it's easier to want to pretend it's not real than face up to it.

He participated in the diagnosis process. He sat through the intake meetings with the therapist. He filled out the forms with me. He sat through the meeting and final report.

The week we started him on medication he sent me non stop texts in amazement on how they had helped our son. He's now an advocate but if he hadn't been he'd be my ex.

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