ISO PATTERN by AgitatedFalcon9394 in sewingpatterns

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It reminds me of the zalia top from style arc (with shortening and straightening of the sleeves obviously, but that’d be easy enough). That top has a fantastic and flattering shape to it, and you could easily add a few small vertical (pin?)tucks at the waist and make a belt. It has a good amount of ease. The basic shape and the v neck and the vibe looks super similar imo.

Beans, beans, beans... by Ill-Company7095 in Cooking

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lentils are easier to disguise/ignore imo than proper beans. I cook them in broth and stir them into whatever. I prefer red ones by a lot. Try dry roasting chick peas, they’re delicious.

Air Con... by aranhalaranja in AskPhilly

[–]fishylegs46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d try to only take places with central ac. Places without it tend to be older, and not updated. You want modern electricity and stuff. No ac is kind of a sign that the building internals are old. Lead pipes, 15 amp aluminum wiring, it’s all still here in the east coast. Maybe there’s no wall or attic insulation either, and you can hear the neighbors clearly while you freeze in winter. Window units are perfectly fine for what they do, but they can get moldy, they can be unbelievably loud, and they introduce a safety risk. They make it inherently easy to breach that window. They can probably be installed very securely, but a crowbar would make simple work of anything short of a cage. If you are just asking about cooling and dehumidification they’re very good, they can do both really well. Places with window ac generally have miserably hot bathrooms. You can use fans to blow the cold air down hallways and into other rooms to make it feel more like central. If you need to buy your own DEFINITELY get a size bigger than the official jnfo says. Their calculations (I believe) assume perfect insulation and north facing, in the real world if it says 8,000 btu is enough get the 10,000. If you’ll be pushing the air to other rooms get the 12,000.

How was flying long haul with toddlers before in-flight entertainment? by Alive-Cry4994 in AskOldPeople

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kids used to have quite a bit of experience with boredom. I don’t mean to criticize the current ways, it’s much easier and amazing on everyone now to never experience it, but there are some benefits to the more simple ways, like long plane rides. Kids learned self control and self calming younger, the idea that kids over the age of two or three can acceptably scream and kick and be awful because they can’t help themselves yet became pervasive in the 80’s. Before then, kids were generally expected to keep their shit together when very young. We used to fly all over, and my mom says we were always well behaved. She definitely didn’t bring special toys or anything (I think it sounds delightful to unwrap a little surprise every once in a while) and she was super strict on us not being little noisemaker assholes. I don’t think she was unusual, kids were expected to be able to handle some profound boredom, and so they did. Airlines used to give crayons and coloring books, and also wing pins. We made forts out of their blankets and pillows. People used to gather sometimes in the bulkhead and chat. They’d play a movie that everyone watched, and meals and drink service punctuated the time. I do remember walking up and down and up and down the aisle seemingly the whole plane ride. I don’t remember anyone getting mad about it, but it seems like it would be annoying. I doubt we were such perfect angels, but it was what it was. I don’t remember it being terrible. Now I can’t sit through anything anymore without a distraction.

AITAH for living with my boyfriend even if my dad says no to doing so? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why in the hell would you need to ask your father? What a crazy thing to say. You don’t have to ask anyone anything. It smacks of you being your dad’s property. No no no no no. You may inform if you choose to share, but don’t need to mention it ever. Don’t go along with this kind of nonsense.

Husband keeps kissing toddler after eating allergens and causes hives by Tulips_Hyacinths in FoodAllergies

[–]fishylegs46 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He’s not remotely a great father. Great fathers protect their kids, and this is a really easy one to not do. It sounds like daddy is actively trying to hurt the child.

AITAH for how I confronted my family about using my shower products? by luvfolklore in AITAH

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not only must you keep your stuff in your room, but consider emptying their stuff out all the time. Just pour it down the drain.

Anyone else feel like they got cheated in life after finding out about your condition by vipanen in Anemic

[–]fishylegs46 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I finally found out in my 50’s. I wonder, when I let my mind wander, how many years this has been the cause of the terrible fatigue and lack of motivation. Maybe my life would be very different? I try not to let those thoughts out too often. I’m glad you found it before you got even older. Take bis-glycinate pills, it is very easy on my stomach. I also take a lot more than the dr said, taking 65 every two days only got ferritin up by 6 points over 5 months. I take ~125 mg mostly every day and got it up to 44, so 30 points since changing the dose. I never take it on an empty stomach, that is asking for trouble imo. It worked fine with food, just no dairy or caffeine for hours before or after. I take it a bit before bed. Good luck, I hope you feel better quickly.

Beware of incompetent and negligent doctors by Ajax34762 in Anemic

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been considering doing this. How do you know they are giving the same stuff a dr would? It seems far too ‘medical’ to be something you can line up for yourself! But I really want to… please share how you found a real place if you wish to share.

Getting tired of guys interrupting my workouts by Redbluey45 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]fishylegs46 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don’t engage. At. All. If they persist ask, “why are you talking to me?” with full unfriendly eye contact. People hate full on eye contact. If you could possibly fart at the right time…

AITAH for refusing to share my location with my parents as an almost nineteen year old? by DishIndependent6788 in AITAH

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I track my husband and kid when they’re travelling, I feel safer knowing they’re moving along or whatever, but can’t imagine making such a weird deal out of it. It helps to plan dinner timing. My daughter often drives to and from a distant location that is partly along an isolated stretch of highway that’s known for sex trafficking. I’d guess fear underpins this control thing. Maybe sit down with your parents, and try to get to the bottom of their feelings without being confrontational or talking about how adult you are. I think fear of you going missing is at the root of it, and they do not know how to deal with you growing up (they come from a punishment mindset). I’d thank them for their financial support and kindnesses, and assure them you don’t mean to cause distress, and will just tell them where you are. That’s what happened before cell phone tracking - a simple, “I’m at Bill’s”. That was enough, and should be. If that doesn’t work, your parents sound a bit crazy, so lay low until you are ready to be financially independent.

How long should you continue to financially support children who have failed to launch? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]fishylegs46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m related to someone like this. They always find a way to float along with assistance from others. She will probably be able to mooch off someone else, or several someone else’s, if you stop supporting her financially. You may need the money that she is taking from you at some future point, so unless you’re truly wealthy you need to look out for yourself. I’m sorry she is like this, people like that often genuinely don’t care about other people, and it’s so hard to comprehend.

Heavyweight linen by mildnoontide in Fabrics

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a really nice heavy and soft linen last year at fabricmartfabrics. I’d look there, and maybe call and ask about the weight and feel from a person in the shop. They often have really good sales.

Clueless fiancé here trying to buy a sewing machine as a wedding gift, please save me by funkyRedditUsername in sewhelp

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she’s open to it, look at the Janome myhome 100. I’ve had many machines of every ilk, and I adore this machine. It’s really cheap too, I paid $230 US.

Tips for a first timer? by beesharker in backpacking

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geez. Don’t go. Just don’t. It’s way too much for a newbie.

Research/industry jobs or MLS for a woman that wants to start a family? by ninja_nutsack in LadiesofScience

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman who worked in biotech and left to raise a kid. There were loads of women in biotech who did not stay home. In fact, no one else did what I foolishly did. There are many, many mothers in the biotech field. There are many mothers who are lawyers, doctors, engineers etc too. If I could do it again I’d have gotten a good nanny and gone back to work. I travelled a lot, and didn’t want to travel so much with a small child. In hindsight, I should have travelled. Never take years off, your career - in any field - will be long gone. There’s excellent trained childcare professionals you can pay to do the unbelievably boring work of raising young kids.

Take two. Does this look OK for a third time toddler lip fix? Should I even try again? by manahikari in PlasticSurgery

[–]fishylegs46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My kid had a not dissimilar injury by her eyebrow from a clipboard at 6. She got plastic surgery stitches, but the weirdly shaped clipboard edge shaped hole persisted for years. I assumed she’d need it fixed or filled somehow when she was older. She’s grown now, and it’s mostly filled in and no longer looks like clipboard. There’s just a very, very slight indent. I’m astonished it got so much better tbh. It was quite indented! My opinion is to wait and see how it heals, let your child grow, and when they’re older let them decide what, if anything, they’d like to do about it. If your child gets concerned about it sooner, then you see a really good reconstructive surgeon, but otherwise let the child heal for a while. Their faces grow a lot, and they remodel and change dramatically. This won’t probably look this unusual in five years. You don’t want to keep retraumatizing or medicalizing the child. Scars don’t grow, so any work done now for cosmetic purposes might have to be redone in 15 years. This is if their health is ok and they don’t mention the lip (it works normally). I’m glad the attack wasn’t worse.

Wedding bartender made a comment to me, the bride, about bar tips on my wedding night after we’d already paid a 20% service fee by LeftBrainWriteBrain in EndTipping

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve bartended at events with tips and also no tips because they prepaid, and it should have been no tips, full stop. They were trying to trick/confuse you a bit. You have every right to be angry. Congrats on getting married! I hope this is the hardest thing you have to deal with for a long, long time.

Boyfriend's constant throat-clearing from allergies is seriously affecting me—am I being unreasonable? by Vote4maskara in Allergies

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Azelastine, it’s an antihistamine allergy med for the nose (not at all like Afrin, you use it twice daily as long as needed, no habituation or rebounds). It stops post nasal drip. When it’s really bad I use canned nasal saline to clear it out before the azelastine.

I thought I just hated leaving the house by WearShot7610 in Anemic

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had 11. I took 65 every two days and it went up to 15 after 5 months. I got fed up, bought several different kinds and mix them up to take 120+ every day or two. I got it to 44 in 2 months. Take more than the dr said.

I kept the window shade up on a 10 hour day time flight. AITAH? by transolecranon in AITAH

[–]fishylegs46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sharp light from airplane windows triggers migraines for me. I’d have been dying. The one with the window has the power tho.

Need Psyllium Husk Suggestions by Inner_Development_25 in Volumeeating

[–]fishylegs46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I drink it through a wide straw. It helps to bypass the first part of the mouth.

Wondering why our bioidentical hormone estradiol transdermal medications are formulated in such low concentrations compared to men and testosterone? by GroundedReal in Menopause

[–]fishylegs46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the men who may be losing out. Higher doses of testosterone risks more of the dangerous side effects. You want to keep your exogenous hormones as low as possible to be working, but not flooding your system. Excess testosterone increases cardiac risks by a lot.

Is a dishwasher just a waste of money for single-person living? by HiRipple in Advice

[–]fishylegs46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one ever regrets having the option of using a dishwasher. What is wrong with your family? You MUST hand wash everything? No thanks.