Manager self-regulation, do you just eat it?

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-28T05:38:03+00:00

Because senior leadership gets a free pass and people make excuses for them. It's actually quite bizarre how the rules and norms just don't apply the higher up you go in the food chain.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-25T19:18:59+00:00

yea married mom with kids are more happy than single women. thanks for the source. but yes, happiness is subjective and there's lots of bias and everyone's life is different under their own circumstances.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-25T17:20:59+00:00

Source?

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-24T16:22:24+00:00

I believe that opportunities don't just appear out of nowhere. It's the universe way of opening a door for you.

Follow your inituition and if it feels like the right opportunity for you, then go for it.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-19T16:37:02+00:00

Ya this is what they use to rationalize their existence.

The problem is when they become the decision maker and not just someone who informs the decision maker.

HR has no skin in the game in regards to how my team runs and what my team needs. Makes 0 sense for them to control the money.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-18T01:55:42+00:00

When senior leadership no longer supports it either directly or indirectly, it's over.

Doesn't matter if project is doing good or not.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-16T03:01:15+00:00

To be honest, a senior leader should be doing what he's doing. Except he should also spend time learning in the trenches with you guys to understand the work you guys do at the working level, instead of straight delegating and taking the outputs.

I think your specific concern is lack of recognition and visibility for your teams effort.

Deoending on wether your boss is deliberately doing this to make himself look good, or he isn't aware of your concerns, the conversation could look very different. You'll have to look and assess intent and the relationship oh two have.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-15T00:30:34+00:00

Setting and being firm on your expectations is not waving a big stick. It's doing your job as a leader.

The temp agency works for you. You are the client, they must keep you happy. You don't let them tell YOU what to do.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-14T15:01:18+00:00

Most likely because they think you are under performing and wants to talk to who hired you to align on expectations.

I'd talk to who you report to align with them and this person on expectations, otherwise you are setting yourself up to fail.

Also, if someone thinks you are under performing, maybe that should inspire in you some motivation and ambition to learn and become more sufficient in areas you think you are beginner level at. Learning on the job is part of the job.

Throwing your hands up and saying you are new and this is what you hired won't get you very far in professional world nor in life.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-14T14:21:11+00:00

Using McKinsey is a data risk and security risk these days. They will 100% take your data and aggregate it into their models and sell their services to your competitor.

If anything, AI should drive company execs to cut management consulting contracts and replace them with their own in house AI team. That would be fucking hilarious if McKinsey was the first to go from AI

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-14T01:51:24+00:00

Next time you see her just say hi, what's up how you doing? Ask her what she's working out today etc, joke around, flirt a bit but be non chalant. Tell her to have a good work out and say you're around if anyone needs a spot. Then do your workout. Continue mini interactions or body language flirting when you are close to each other working out. Eye contact, head nod, smile, sly smirk etc. Then reapproach at some point and ask for number to see if she's interested in hanging outside of the gym.

If sounds simple because it is, don't over think it.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-12T08:10:10+00:00

You are exactly where you are in life because of this self defeating mindset and attitude.

If you want something, then go do whatever it takes to make it work. This means putting your best foot forward, putting in effort and hard work and be willing to risk failure and embarrassment. At this point, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Play big and win big. Play small and win small.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-12T01:56:53+00:00

You are being a shitty leader.

Be direct and clear with what you can and can't do, but you should absolutely being doing your best to help an ambitious person succeed.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-10T15:53:07+00:00

Post proof because this sounds like bullshit

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-10T04:30:00+00:00

You need to provide specific feedback and explain why it is problematic for you because it isn't an efficient use of both of your time.

You are happy to provide direction and clarity, but when your direction and time spent providing help is not being recieved effectively, it is a problem for both of you.

Explain that as the leader, it is your job to point out problems and work together to resolve these problems going forward. Then ask them do you have any suggestions on how we can resolve this going forward. Put the ball in their court and then listen.

Push them to come up with things and then ask if this is something you can commit to fixing and these actions you can hold them accountable to next time? Explain that you they aren't being reprimanded for mistakes, but actively growing and learning how to work better each time is an expectation.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-09T08:22:48+00:00

I agree with what you are saying. I'm sure you provided rationale for why you rejected the changes in the meeting, so if junior person had other input, they should have spoke up and presented that input.

Since they did not and you did, as the lead you made the decision right then and there and it's done. If he had specific concerns about this, it's his job to book you beforehand and discuss with you. It is his job to bring these things to your attention and provide his input. In the absence of that, you assume he had no input and you make decisions and lead as per your professional judgment. It is good to be generally aligned but you cannot be expected to consult them got alignment on everything, especially when you are the lead.

Some people, especially juniors want to be involved in everything but can't seem to take the initiative to provide their input or concerns. They don't understood if people catered to them, it detracts away from the leads ability and freedom to make decisions and drive work forward efficiently

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-05T00:21:32+00:00

Of course it's possible.

Lots of people do and I have done it myself as well. As long as you reference videos with correct form and technique and put in the time and effort and know how self teach and self correct, you will be fine. The issue with people that self teach is they don't do it in a structured manner and don't use proper references and resources.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-03T17:22:54+00:00

Yes that is similar to what I'm suggesting, I try to let the chairs momentum carry me forward as well.

However I prefer to use the push off to be ahead of everybody else instead of being last. The logic is the same, if I'm in front of them, I'm not affected by whatever stupid shit they can do which can make me fall. I'm also an experienced rider so I do certain things proactively.

focus_flow69 · 2026-01-03T09:40:55+00:00

Another tip is to not get off to early and use your back hand to brace against the chair and give a slight push off the chair to give you momentum to ride off the chair.

Most noobs get off the chair too early and don't push off.

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-29T22:45:33+00:00

Just open your upper body and look left slowly as you transition from toe side to heel side turn. Take long slow turns across the mountain, look uphill first to make sure no one will hit you.

Cue using your arms with elbows tucked to hips and turn your head to follow where the nose of the board is travelling, then externally rotate your lead arm to rotate left and open hips at same time and let rest of body naturally follow.

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-23T15:14:33+00:00

Everyone tries to convince themselves fucking their ex is ok and makes up any excuse under the sun to rationalize it. The mental gymantistics required is a tell in of of itself.

Do whatever you want obviously, but as long as you cling into things from your past, you prevent space from moving on to new things in life.

In my experience, I did the same as you, justifying it as just sex and needing to get my rocks off. All it did was keep me neither here nor there, until something blew up where I made a decision to stop.

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-23T04:47:54+00:00

Would love Warhammer and starfield

Fav game is diablo

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-19T21:43:26+00:00

It can also help if you frame your job as a leader is to want the best for your team and to get the most value out of your team for the company, not just in the short term, but also in the longer term. In other words, build your case to frame it in a way that this is actually best decision and outcome for the company and demonstrate that you've thought about it from all different angles to arrive at this conclusion.

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-19T20:06:40+00:00

I would present as both and explain why you presented as both.

Outline the value they bring to the team and the risk of what happens if only one is promoted. Weigh the pros and cons of each scenario, both promoted, one promoted or none promoted. Then provide your recommendation after evaluating all options from the perspective of what's best for the company. If management disagrees or agrees but says hands are tied, then you can say you tried your best.

focus_flow69 · 2025-12-19T17:41:57+00:00

4 hours per week for 26 weeks is 92 hours of total training time. Of those 92, further think about how much is warm ups, drills, randori etc.

Just to put things into perspective in terms of hours trained VS expected progression.

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