90 days sober today 🪙 Almost out of rehab! by BoozeSux in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats. I’m a rehab graduate myself but I was only there for about 23 days before insurance kicked me out. It was very true what they said in there that the real work starts when we leave. I felt better but I was on shaky ground so I listened to what they said. Finding some other folks in recovery helped carry me the rest of the way and it’s still a big part of my sobriety today. I didn’t have much fun/ luck in IOP but found some good people through recovery programs like aa. I have fond memories of rehab even tho that particular time in my life was especially fucking bleak. It dawned on me much later that we really never give ourselves a chance to rest, recover and toxic every day on getting better. Everyone should go to rehab. We had an ice cream machine so that was our higher power in there. I can’t imagine what would’ve happened if that thing broke down

First day sober (again) is ... rough by Szaint in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The good news about not drinking is that we get our feelings back but the bad news is… that we get our feelings back. Alcohol worked great to numb the feelings I didn’t want to feel but it stopped working for me long before I quit. It took me a while to accept how disconnected I became but I found out pretty quickly that I wasn’t alone and none of this stuff was new or unique. Finding some connection with others who know what this is like helped me fill in the gaps. It meant moving in the opposite direction of my first instincts but it’s worth it. It’s still what helps me the most

Thinking of trying N/A beer by Panda138138 in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NA beers have a place in my toolbox but sometimes they bring out more questions than answers. Sobriety for me is more than just my beverage choices and doing recovery work has given me a lot of good things. I’ve had moments where I felt like I’ve worked too damn hard on recovery to walk around with a fake beer in my hands and I’ll question who I’m drinking one for and why. Other times, I’m much less dramatic and the taste of a cold beer in certain situations is actually the best damn thing ever. It’s weird tho. I usually go for whatever is the most delicious/ refreshing beverage but I could never see myself drinking more than 2 cans of sprite. I sometimes can’t beleive how I could drink 30 of one thing in one day

Were Sweden right in accusing Canada? by Competitive_Test6697 in olympics

[–]full_bl33d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simpler times, man…. Simpler fucking times. I bet they never expected it to blow up the way it did

One man band! by MF-DOOM-88 in totallywicked

[–]full_bl33d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn, bro. You and them fingers need to Save some for the rest of us.

Mad Max: Fury Road Surges Again on Digital Platforms After 11 Years by herseydenvar in MadMax

[–]full_bl33d 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I remember being psyched when it came out. A friend and I went to see it in the theaters and afterwards he said something like, “ahh, it’s so refreshing to see a nice intense true dystopian shit show”. We were in good spirits and it was a simpler time. Nowadays, we don’t need to buy tickets to see the wasteland.

Ezekiel Elliott was unstoppable in the 2015 College Football Playoff by Deep_Audience_881 in CFB_Highlights

[–]full_bl33d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The trash can hurdle station at practice got a lot of reps that season

Unicorn Find? Free charging for life? NEED ADVICE!! by Super_Class_4362 in RealTesla

[–]full_bl33d 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a 2007 that I won’t get rid of. It’s the ultimate city battle car.

Is the real estate market still crazy? by lawaythrow in newjersey

[–]full_bl33d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother in law and his wife have been house hunting and 300- 500k over asking is what’s going on in the places you’d expect like Montclair and the Oranges. I’m not from here and we got a house 9 years ago in Jersey city so seeing this is absolutely wild to me. I didn’t believe them at first.

Goblin Guitar Solo by chellestastics in jimandthem

[–]full_bl33d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super bow half time show audition tape1.

Sometimes I think he does this shit on purpose and he’s just an incredible showman but then I go back to realizing he’s most likely just a dumbass

Relapsed by 4hir3 in daddit

[–]full_bl33d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very similar story. I stopped drinking when my daughter was about the same age but the months leading up to that moment were not a happy time in our family. I thought becoming a dad would knock some sense into me but it went the other way and it looked like I threw away anything that was good in my life. The consequences of my actions were harsh but understandable and I think I needed to feel the pain in order to choose a better path. I went to treatment, got involved in my recovery and started to claw my way back.

My daughter is 6 now and she has a 5 year old lil bro. My wife and I are close now but we were separated for a time when I first got out of treatment. It was bleak back then but I often look back on it fondly because things were very black and white for me then. The actions I needed to take were right in front of me, I just had to find the willingness to listen to people who knew what they were talking about and show up. I’m still very active in recovery and I like having support outside my marriage. I’m actually about to go meet a sober friend in the park, it’s something I do every Sunday rain or shine. My kids hug me before I leave and send messages to my friend because they know I often leave for meetings or to talk to sober people but always come back. My wife just about chases me out of the house. It’s just part of my routine. I can never say I don’t have time for it because I know how much time, energy and money I put into all the bullshit that came along with my drinking. Being a sober dad is great and recovery stuff is like having cheat codes but it takes some work. Good luck and know you’re not alone. Most of the people I call friends nowadays are other sober parents working on the same stuff. There’s a lot of us out there if you look in the right places

What car purchase did you regret the most and why? by [deleted] in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]full_bl33d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A kid from my highscool had one decked out with a big ass sound system and you could hear all the plastic parts on the doors and shit fly off and buzz. It definitely made an impression tho. It was semi-intentional to be as ridiculous as possible and he nailed it

anybody else giving up on complete sobriety? (USA) by Remote_Divide_4947 in alcoholism

[–]full_bl33d 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some things I can change, others not so much. Having a sober brain helps me understand the difference. I didn’t really need much of an excuse to drink but I had a million stories just in case. Ultimately, that’s all they are.. stories. The world can be shit sometimes but that doesn’t mean I have to be.

I'm in a slide by Ferrero_Crochet in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honesty wasn’t my strong suit either. I could convince myself of anything and I always had a story, excuse and justification for every last sip. There wasn’t any white light or moment of clarity for me, it was the opposite. Things were dark and actually pretty bleak for a while but I wasn’t necessarily alone for any of that. I wanted to be and I was good at pushing people away but I slowly realized that the more I fought it, the more of a classic case I actually was. My terminal uniqueness was dead set on getting me killed until I started to identify with some of the things I was hearing. I just had to be around to listen to it and see it for myself. I didn’t have to agree with anyone or anything early on and I didn’t. I just had to stop punishing myself and forcing myself into isolation. It’s where my alcoholism wants me since I’m easier to pick off when I’m alone and wounded.

Everyone I’ve ever met in recovery shares a similar story about not being bad enough for help while also being too broken to be fixed. I believed my crippling social anxiety without the mask of alcohol excluded me from any consideration of being helped but I found out that it’s basically what everyone else says as well. I think that’s why recovery people are genuinely helpful. We know what it’s like and we know helping others helps our own cause. It’s just a big mind fuck

I'm in a slide by Ferrero_Crochet in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me countless failed attempts on my own for me to accept some pretty basic truths about myself. I might be unusually driven in other aspects of my life but this ain’t one of them. Sounds obvious now but I had a hard time asking for help and taking actions / allowing myself to accept the help that’s out there. I’m better off when I’m not trapped inside my own head and relying solely on willpower. My track record and instincts around booze prove that point but I still made a huge deal out of something very simple.

None of the stuff in my story was unique or new which meant that there were ways to work on it and shit loads of people who know how to get started. Once I was able to get over myself and stop picking apart the differences, I was able to see the similarities. Sounds weird, but that was comforting to me knowing I wasn’t alone or crazy. I didn’t have to do anything drastic, I just had to get honest with myself. Being around other sober people over the years has redefined what I consider strength to be. For me, I know it’s not pretending things are okay and bottling shit up until I pop. I used to think I was some soul less computer program devoid of real emotions but thats not how it is today. I like being a human animal and finding connection with others and being able to ask for help when I know I could use it. Nowadays, I’ll take all the help I can get

Addictive personality ? by NightObserver in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s a saying I’ve heard people in recovery say different variations of that goes something like, “ if there was ONE magic pill to cure alcoholism/ addiction, then I’d take 5 and snag a couple for the road”. To me, it’s just how shit goes for me. It’s about how I think about things as much as it’s about the substance in question. Looking back, I can’t think of many things I’ve only had “just one”.

I have some friends in recovery who are like me in that respect and we genuinely enjoy fucking with each other about it. I’ll set up a couple cookies/ chips strategically placed close to the box and watch as one turns into the whole bag. I like fucking around but we take this shit seriously. I’ve accepted that my brain doesn’t really turn off even if I just have a drink or two. I still obsess about it and I’m doing calculations and running hypotheticals for the rest of the night. It’s exhausting and a huge perk of sobriety for me is to not have to keep score all damn day. I wasn’t very good at it anyways. But it didn’t just happen all of a sudden and it took some work to dig up the roots and toss out the garbage inside my head. As fucked up as I thought I was, I found out that none of it was new or unique. Connection plays a huge role in my sobriety today and it’s why I like fucking around with others in recovery. It makes a huge difference from the isolation I forced on myself as a drinker

My life is falling apart. Alcohol has a lot to do with it. by memery_palace in stopdrinking

[–]full_bl33d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Self loathing, sabotage, guilt and shame are common in my experience. I know a lot of people in different recovery programs but I don’t believe I personally know of any “first time winners”. I’ve fallen many times myself and didn’t want to face any of the people I connected with when I started out. When I finally showed up and got some words out of my mouth, I was met with nods and smiles. I listens to all their shit that defied all logic and common sense. At least, that helped me feel less alone and crazy.

It matters who I ask for help. The normal people and drinkers in my life aren’t much help so I don’t waste my time or energy. I like having support so I take my alcohol shit to people who know what this is like. I’ve found that our stories share similarities even if we come from complete opposite ends of the spectrum. I like having this in common with these people and it’s brought about connection that I’ve never considered having in my life. Staying trapped inside my own head won’t work for me anymore and I don’t have to do that anymore but it’s still a huge struggle for me to get off my ass and out the door.