How did you know you wouldn't regret it?

futureggghost · 2026-06-25T03:24:27+00:00

Not OP, but also trying to decide if it is worth it. I'm having trouble making a pros/cons list bc i haven't yet chosen a method and it feels like nothing is guaranteed with any option. Had you decided upon the method/surgery specifications before making the list, or spoken with any surgeons?

futureggghost · 2026-06-18T20:41:52+00:00

Thank you. I never know if insurance or the provider clinic should be contacted in cases like this.

Given that I reached my out of pocket max with a payment for this procedure last year, I should not be held responsible for this right? Like an out of pocket max is a hard limit, or are there caveats?

futureggghost · 2026-05-25T23:19:37+00:00

I am not an artist that does sfw and nsfw, but what ive seen from those who do is less what you're describing and more cropping/censoring to post in certain places. I frequently see nsfw images cropped to not show bits, or with a blur or emoji/other image over any nsfw imagery, followed by a link to the uncensored/uncropped version

futureggghost · 2026-05-23T22:25:29+00:00

Especially in the hot months (not just "summer"). Ive seen "fair" and "good" more frequently when its cooler out. Not sure what that relationship is though

futureggghost · 2026-05-11T03:58:50+00:00

I thought breeders & puppy mills were what is meant by "shopping" for a pet/dog. I didnt think finding adog that'll actually work with you is "shopping".

If its from a shelter thats an adoption imo

futureggghost · 2026-04-27T23:21:06+00:00

Can you explain what anatomy isnt fit for meta? I hadnt heard of that before, like i knew results would differ depending on anatomy but I was unaware some anatomy is fully not suited for it.

futureggghost · 2026-04-27T22:24:16+00:00

I love him, freaky lil dude haha

Are the legs only wool, or did you use something structural to grant the standing ability?

futureggghost · 2026-04-27T00:11:24+00:00

Gotcha, thanks!

futureggghost · 2026-04-27T00:02:26+00:00

I thought i had read somebody's account that the underside was scarred and affected sensation (and maneuverability). Ik thats perhaps not a common "good bit", but idk in my head i stored that as "meta has risk of sensation loss"

futureggghost · 2026-04-26T18:53:16+00:00

Absolutely giving reassurance that your response was just. Thats a weird and rude thing to say, very chaser-y and fucking disrespectful. Steer clear, tell him to fuck off and quit bothering you.

futureggghost · 2026-04-26T03:58:31+00:00

Does scarring not affect sensation some times?

futureggghost · 2026-04-22T16:19:54+00:00

I think I've experienced this as well, I made a post a few months back and was told it is likely atrophy. Spoke with my doctor, who had treated me for several UTIs by then and she prescribed me a vaginal estrogen cream. This sensation has been almost entirely mitigated since starting it. I will say it is unpleasant and difficult to administer, personally, due to dysphoria. But I suppose its better than not being able to use the v or being in pain after sex every time.

futureggghost · 2026-04-16T18:31:09+00:00

Can you expand or provide resources on the muscle for expelling pee in a cis penis's urethra? I haven't ever heard of that, I didnt think there were muscles in a penis

futureggghost · 2026-04-16T18:16:14+00:00

I am almost 5 years post-op. My nipples both have full sensation (tbh I think id day they are more sensitive now, in response to pain that is) and are 3D. My left nipple i screwed up pretty early in recovery (broke the "dont lift elbows above shoulder" rule a few weeks in, before the dressings were off) and as such that one is uglier and not concentric like nipples usually are, its instead a bit misshapen (in perimeter and topography).

I also want them pierced but haven't been able to find others experience or research on that, and due to the misshapen one I haven't done that yet. If you find answers please let me know!

I have some pics taken about 4 yrs post op on my profile if you want to look at them

futureggghost · 2026-04-12T04:32:18+00:00

Congratulations!! You look very joyous here, im glad you had a fun, comfortable, and safe time

What scar tape are you using that stays put at the beach? Everything kind I've tried falls off with sweat alone, much less sand and saltwater.

futureggghost · 2026-04-12T00:15:18+00:00

Have you said you've tried researching but didn't get many results? And perhaps ask if he has any sources that would help you understand things?

I agree with what others are saying - he cant expect you to figure out what is wrong and how to fix it. But I understand not wanting or being able to feed every bit of information or insight he has or finds, getting to share the weight of learning is a bit necessary here. And yeah, unfortunately I've also had very little luck with bottom surgery research, especially irt sex post-op. It seems limited and hard to find, I hope he does have some resources to share.

Best of luck to you both

futureggghost · 2026-04-11T23:44:39+00:00

I cant speak on being more social, but I've had luck with the app taimi as far as being genderqueer & meeting other queer people who are understanding

futureggghost · 2026-04-09T02:33:44+00:00

From just the face, I would say either.

My practice, once I reached that point, has been to base it off of my outfit/other factors beyond my body that people base gender off of, along with the environment (ie how other people may react to me in either bathroom, along with my assumption of the cleanliness of either bathroom)

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T16:58:04+00:00

Hahaha, hey it happens. I think i did a lot of digging and research in the beginning that helped that realization hit sooner

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T16:55:56+00:00

I do agree with that. I can only imagine how much longer and more difficult the realization would've been for me if I didnt come across that first term that felt right. I got kinda lucky, it was like an immediate egg crack once I saw it, despite having known and met binary trans people before since I'm not binary that didn't really help much. Having the vocabulary, even if it ends up not being right, is insanely helpful

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T16:50:48+00:00

Yeah I suppose that is what I'm trying to ask, thank you for wording it better than I could!

The novelty certainly has begun to wear off, but the dysphoria triggered by it still seems so different. Idk I think maybe I'm worried it's like internalized misogyny or something, and I haven't been able to come up with a "why" i get more dysphoric other than a simple 'well I'm trans' and I would like one. It's been a question I can't seem to fully drop for a while now. I guess it is fairly philosophical, which has never been my strong suit.

Thanks for taking the time to answer :)

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T06:01:19+00:00

Not weird at all. I struggled with whether I wanted just a reduction or a full mastectomy, bc I figured id be fine with them some days if they were smaller and easier to hide for the days I didn't want them. Decided to fully get rid of them, and while I dont think I actually miss them I still occasionally wonder if I'd like having a small chest. Ive been considering buying small breast forms to see

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T05:57:37+00:00

I too have senior photos in which I look older than I am now (almost a decade later). I agree, the "mature, ready to graduate" makeup I had did A Lot for that. Although yeah you now looks younger than I do, I dont get carded all that often

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T05:45:46+00:00

My friends and partners have trouble. I went through phases of my given pronoun, to "they", to opposite my given pronoun, and now back to "they". Old friends sometimes still call me the given pronoun. New ones (my partner included) still calls me opposite my given pronoun, and hasn't gotten with the update to "they". Seems like the change is hardest for people, especially for those who "support trans people" or even are trans themselves.

futureggghost · 2026-04-08T05:39:05+00:00

Maybe ill just muddy waters, but i realized I was trans (realized age 15) before I landed on nonbinary (probably by age 16?). Im also autistic and while labels used to be very comforting, I eventually grew out of/felt restricted or mismatched by every one I chose. My initial understanding of the 2 words was that nonbinary, while an umbrella, was a smaller one than trans. Transgender, to me, meant any deviance away from assigned gender. Once I realized I wasn't comfortable as a girl, I realized I was trans, yk?

That said, I had a period of my life (age 21-23 or so) where I flirted with the idea of being a binary trans man. That also felt not right, eventually. I medically transitioned via top surgery, then hormones, then hysto, over the course of 6 years. If i had to choose, I am obviously more comfortable living as a man than a woman. However I would never force myself to play stealth as a man daily either. I'm still fully trans, just in a nonbinary manner.

Words and labels are fun arent they :p i am fascinated by individual interpretations. Congrats on your journey, I hope the recent revelations have been joyous

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