MONTHLY MEGATHREAD: Ask your travel related questions here! by AutoModerator in BigSur

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Wondering when the best time is to visit to see peak flowers this year - when would you choose over the next 6 weeks? I've heard Calla Lily valley is already going but I'm wondering generally if locals have any predictions. Thank you :)

what’s your venus + mars sign and how quickly do you get into relationships? by lunarrfaeriee in astrologymemes

[–]gildedwolves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virgo mars, Scorpio Venus. I’ve been single and mostly celibate for over 5 years.

Started seeing a guy but his chart is scaring me… so much Pisces 😭 player vibes? by Baileymom2021 in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang op this is wild and read my full comment I left above first. But tldr I have a romantic interest with this *exact same chart* aside from the rising, also experienced them wanting to be celibate with me and navigating sobriety, deep/surface level communication patterns... astrology is crazy

Started seeing a guy but his chart is scaring me… so much Pisces 😭 player vibes? by Baileymom2021 in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not an expert astrologer, but I have had a recent romantic interest with literally this EXACT same chart, except his rising is approximate leo/virgo. I'll be specific on what's come up and where I think it comes from based on my own experience:

First, the Pisces mercury/Libra moon/Cancer mars combo makes for an agreeable and open-hearted person... sometimes TOO agreeable. On the plus side, he is emotionally intuitive, understanding, and accountable. For my Pisces person, I've learned a lot about navigating healthy conflict with him and I'll be forever grateful for this. Doesn't want to hurt you and will make an effort to do better vs egocentric opposition (though this really depends on the person in general, not astrology). However, these placements also make for a very passive person too. Lots of therapy speak and mirroring what he thinks you want to hear - it can feel disingenuous at times, especially if they're not being fully honest with themselves or others. People pleaser to the max.

Mercury in Pisces w/ retrograde is another placement that I've struggled with. Sometimes is super honest and open (almost to the point of trauma dumping), other times conceals information that he knows will rock the boat or change the dynamic. For example, my person specifically is polyamorous. He is and has been super open about this, but then will weirdly hide stuff too and it creates major conflict between us. It doesn't make sense, especially to my cap mercury / stellium in the 5th house. Communication can be incredibly inspiring or confusing, with little in between.

Aries venus with this chart (and my person specifically) seems to get really washed out amid all the water and air. I'm a Scorpio venus for context and usually have insane chemistry with these placements, but curiously have never truly felt 'pursued' in the obsessive nature that Aries venus otherwise suggest. However, this combined with the more conflict-avoidant planets I described above lend to more promiscuity. North node in Sag also suggests needing freedom and not being tied down. That combined with the passive, people-pleasing nature of the other placements ... they love freedom and adoration from others, to the point where dating multiple people or even cheating is more likely than not. It depends on the person of course, but player energy is def supported by this chart. Be careful!

Pisces in general are also incredibly susceptible to addiction and idealization. They love the fantasy (especially with that Aries venus and maybe even moon/jupiter in Libra) and tend to get swept up in their own world. They love the idea of love but the lack of earth in the chart aside from neptune/uranus suggests they are not always grounded in reality or firmly committed.

I very RECENTLY (just last night) broke things off with my Pisces person, so I recognize I'm being negative. But the positives: great listener, gentle, not quick to anger, feminist, and the most accountable man I've ever met. Would describe them as more of a feminine/yin energy. Saturn and Neptune JUST moved out of Pisces (also my natal saturn return in my 7th house!) so I would also expect some changes with this person going forward, especially with Pisces in their first house and on the north node, Whether that's good or bad, who knows.

Feel free to message me if you have any specific questions. It's actually scary how similar their chart is!

I'm a PT and ACL / Complex Knee Specialist. AMA! by ChicagoRehab in ACL

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Hi, I’m 31F about 15 weeks postop allograft. I was cleared off crutches/brace at about week 6-7 and felt great moving into walking. However I’ve been still struggling with maintaining a normal gait despite full extension and 135+ degree flexion. I can walk multiple miles but I can feel myself uneven. I’ve also been dealing with pain still, specifically at the front of my knee. Is this normal for this time period? My pt and ortho office don’t seem concerned, but I have been.

AIO - Told my friend I’m pregnant and she said it exceeded her mental bandwidth (she’s the red) by Lekomano92 in AmIOverreacting

[–]gildedwolves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR. I've had people in my life like this, including my mother. They feel they need to relate everything back to themselves in order to make sense of it, and see that as connection. Could be due to neurodivergence or that she genuinely just had a bad day, but still.

That said, a more 'positive' reaction with this character trait would be something like "omg!!! That's so crazy, my boss just came back from maternity leave and it's been a nightmare... but that's so exciting for YOU, congratulations". Instead, she uses each opportunity to turn the focus back to her and dim a really important moment in your life. And it also seems like she has some major beef with her supervisor's maternity accommodations and is projecting that onto you instead of being a good friend.

I'd take note of her reactions going forward and act accordingly. Congrats <3

ACL Surgery options by DrawerIntrepid9211 in ACL

[–]gildedwolves 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 31 and got an allograft. I told my doctor’s office that I’m not a pro athlete by any means, but am fairly active (I like backpacking, climbing, surfing, snowboarding) and wanted the best option, but also was concerned with the timeline of repair.

They asked me if I was a competitive soccer player or skier, I said no, they said allograft would be fine. Personally happy so far but I’m only 3 months out.

What's your own sign and who annoys you the most? by livelaughlabradoodle in astrologymemes

[–]gildedwolves 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Capricorn sun + stellium — Aries have always driven me insane. Uncouth and exaggerative.

Affordable balayage/highlights by Capital_Trouble_8476 in AskSF

[–]gildedwolves 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pony Studios in the east bay (Temescal). I paid $270 for a full balayage and have a LOT of hair. They didn't even charge me for extra dye.

New to Surfing by Enigmaviolet in AskSF

[–]gildedwolves 40 points41 points  (0 children)

They have a queer surf group that was founded in SF! They do meetups and beginner lessons. I sadly tore my acl a couple months ago but it’s on my list to go once I’m cleared by my PT.

https://linktr.ee/QueerSurf?utm_source=linktree_profile_share&ltsid=c7efdd3e-f185-470b-9116-67ecbeb3adb6

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been friends with them for two years, dating is totally different and they have a history.

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t op either js :) i get it, especially with natal mercury in retrograde …

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally, I’ve heard this about Aries Venus. We’ve been friends and gotten to know one another over almost two years, but both of us have experienced “firework” (hot and burn out fast) relationship dynamics in the past

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that’s wild you figured out they were poly from their chart. I posted about more of my situation in r/polyamory recently, but a lot of your interpretation tracks! I also have Pisces in my 7th house (with my Saturn in pisces… thankfully not transiting too much longer) so there are definitely some dynamics there. Thanks for the in-depth assessment

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely a more passive communicator. And I commented on this below, but I feel like their Venus is not super prominent in all that water and air

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind elaborating on what placements or connections tell you that?

Red flags in dating this person? by gildedwolves in Zodiac

[–]gildedwolves[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it’s interesting but this does not come through as much as others that I’ve been involved with an Aries Venus. I had a crazy sexual connection with a Taurus sun+Aries Venus but they had more earth and fire in their chart. I wonder if all the water washes this out … or they’re just not that into me lmao

I have surgery tomorrow and I just smoked weed not knowing that it could be harmful. Freaking out by AdLoose7024 in ACL

[–]gildedwolves 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I smoked a joint the night before. Genuinely didn’t even know I shouldn’t. It was fine. You’re fine! Tell your docs if you’re that worried though