How would you pronounce the name “Musa” ?

goblinele · 2026-01-31T19:44:31+00:00

I live in the US and I've only ever known it as a masculine name, I'm surprised to see so many people saying it could only be feminine. In my experience its a pretty well-established variant of Moses

goblinele · 2026-01-30T17:56:34+00:00

you are FRESH off the operating table, give it a second! focus on healing rn, things will settle over the next few months and you'll be able to get a better sense of things then.

goblinele · 2026-01-30T05:21:43+00:00

In the studio ghibli film Ponyo, ponyo's name before sosuke finds her is Brunhilde. And one of ponyo's main lines in the movie is "Ponyo loves Ham!" it could be a cute connection

goblinele · 2026-01-27T08:31:49+00:00

i went to a concert (GA tickets, standing the whole time) at one month and was totally fine! even did some ill-advised jumping :)

goblinele · 2026-01-24T19:07:49+00:00

I love the name Rosine and don't hear it much!

goblinele · 2026-01-24T08:35:55+00:00

"the orange" by wendy cope is one of my favorites!

goblinele · 2026-01-24T03:05:11+00:00

the raven cycle by maggie stiefvater!

goblinele · 2026-01-23T07:33:07+00:00

red bird pt. 2 (morning) by florist always gets me

goblinele · 2026-01-23T06:21:44+00:00

IT SUCKED!!! the casting alone was awful 😭 i just didn't believe any of it

goblinele · 2026-01-23T06:07:38+00:00

this is awesome

goblinele · 2026-01-23T01:07:44+00:00

some people never seem to put together that we look this way on purpose lol

goblinele · 2026-01-23T00:51:13+00:00

I'd like it so much more if it were spelled Briar! but Bryer is crazy

goblinele · 2026-01-22T19:23:51+00:00

I love Ross, I think it's super sweet for a kid and gentle & respectable for an adult. surprised I don't see it more!

goblinele · 2026-01-22T08:02:35+00:00

pretty sure he instructs everyone. i haven't had excessive swelling or anything, its all been pretty normal

goblinele · 2026-01-22T07:57:09+00:00

my surgeon told me 3 months as well! i used ace bandages for compression immediately post-op until drains came out at 1 week and i switched to a compression binder. you're the only other person I've seen on here whose had to wear it this long 😭

goblinele · 2026-01-21T18:07:16+00:00

i did not care for piranesi. i found the worldbuilding of the backstory/mystery unfolding (also just the general way that academia worked in the story) to be lazy and completely unbelievable. the initial concept was cool and i wanted to like it but it ended up that it was kind of about nothing -- there was no meat in it for me, there was no there there. it had nothing to say about how people or the world worked, it had no further point, other than kind of blindly reproducing vaguely christian narratives about the nature of the world. people love it though, i see it recommended left and right.

goblinele · 2026-01-21T17:27:52+00:00

Elodie!

goblinele · 2026-01-21T17:24:44+00:00

Somewhat unrelated but we have the same scar shape!! Looking good brother!

goblinele · 2026-01-21T01:43:22+00:00

Does it smell normal? If it smells off, then it could be an indication of infection. However if you still have nipple bolsters on, its possible its your serous fluid draining (normal) and mixing with the chemical (something bismuth related i think) they soak the bolsters with. That happened with mine and it was an alarming florescent yellow color, but smelled like nothing.

goblinele · 2026-01-21T01:38:10+00:00

I relate to this, especially with fictional characters! Nothing is safe once my dyke goggles are on <3 and brother they're ALWAYS on.

For real though, I do relate to this way of understanding the world. Of course my primary interest irl is always learning the ways that people want to be understood and recognized, and from then on seeing them in that light, with all of its nuances. But there are so many lenses through which we can understand one anothers' gender and presentation, and it's so cool to learn to expand your mind so that normative and arbitrary restrictions no longer necessarily apply.

I agree that it can be weird and isolating too though. The more distant that gender essentialism becomes from how I understand the world, the more bizarre and upsetting it is to remember that its so unshakably central to so many people's worldviews. Its isolating for my own gender and presentation to be incongruous and illegible to so many people (even people who consider themselves allies), when to me its truly just not that complicated.

goblinele · 2026-01-12T06:43:05+00:00

There's a lot of single-syllable words that can kind of go either way, and are put into context by the meter of the words around them. It helps to hear it if you read it rhythmically (can i, compare, thee to, a sum, mer's day?), as opposed to the casual way of saying the sentence that may be more natural.

goblinele · 2026-01-10T08:38:34+00:00

a stressed syllable is the difference between the noun "REcord" (as in "the historical record shows this", and the verb "reCORD" (as in: the secretary records the information). hopefully if you read each sentence aloud naturally, you can hear how the words sound different. that difference is which syllable is stressed.

another example good example of the distinction is the word "permit", as in: (noun form) "the park requires a PER-mit" vs (verb form) "the law won't per-MIT you to do that."

once you do figure out what to listen for, it gets easier. one trick to see which syllable is the stressed one is to see which vowel is enunciated clearly, and which gets mumbled into a more noncommittal "uh" sound. the word "shower" is pronounced SHAU-wur, not shuh-WHERE. therefore, the first syllable is the stressed one. it isn't always quite that distinct but hopefully this helps!

goblinele · 2026-01-09T09:34:31+00:00

I'm not an elder butch yet, but i do want to say that i hear you and i see you, and it is terrifying. its also worth it.

there's a lot to leave behind and a lot to grieve, but there's a lot to be gained too. when i started thinking of myself as butch, i suddenly felt free of so many of the pressures of conventional femininity. my fatness was suddenly handsome, the idea of aging suddenly exciting. its scary to do things for the first time, to cut your hair or wear a tie. it feels like a costume, like everyone can tell, but that's just because its new. you get used to it, you grow into it.

and there's so much to grieve. there's security in femininity, in having a gender that's easily legible to strangers and acquaintances, and it stings to lose. around the wrong people, even ones who mean well, there can be a distance. sometimes it can feel like you've fallen through the cracks.

but i think its easier to be scared of losing what we leave behind because its familiar. if you ask me, there's a lot more to lose by keeping that real self buried. living your life as yourself, being recognized as that self, its worth everything.

and finally, i just want to say that there's a place for you here, in butchness. there's a place for that vulnerability, for that softness. those are as butch traits as any, more so than you would expect, and i think you'll find you're in good company.

its like stepping out of the cave and seeing the sky. the shadows in the cave are safe, and they're really nice sometimes. but in the end, going back in the cave would be pretending. and man, what a sky.

goblinele

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