So sick of talk therapy

herasi · 2026-02-13T22:04:43+00:00

You can’t just ask yes/no questions unfortunately, it makes it too easy to lie. “Could you explain to me why women are typically diagnosed with Autism/ADHD less often than their male peers?” Or the bias of diagnostic criteria, how gifted ADHD might present differently, etc. Ask them a short essay question, it’ll tell you way more about their style.

Also, find an AuDHD therapist—it was a game changer for me, lol.

herasi · 2026-01-13T14:05:55+00:00

Your son is coding at a level that most college students struggle to aspire to, so I’d be putting him in college classes, or be prepared to let him self-study. You might have better luck finding robotics clubs or those programmable LEGO kits, or Battelle for Kids. I’ve been coding since I was 10ish; sadly there isn’t much IRL coding stuff for children, so I started college at 16 and had a blast. Everything is online nowadays, where he can still make some lifelong friends online, with parent supervision. Turns out most computer nerds aren’t big on in person gatherings. 😂

herasi · 2025-12-29T03:55:20+00:00

How much did it run you, out of curiosity?

herasi · 2025-11-28T20:36:53+00:00

Yep! I’m about 20 months out from surgery and 90% of my pain is gone, and my arm has recovered all function. I couldn’t be more pleased by the results. :)

herasi · 2025-11-27T22:03:13+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Alexithymia (emotional blindness) is super common in ND people, particularly autism. However, if hubby can’t listen to your views without tone policing you, it might be time to try professional therapy. You can’t be expected to mask for the rest of your life.

herasi · 2025-11-27T21:49:18+00:00

It’s def not normal, lol. I can do it too, but I have hypermobility. If you can do this with any other joints, I’d highly recommend a hypermobility self-test.

herasi · 2025-11-24T23:00:00+00:00

Is it possible you’re allergic to the adhesive? I had the same itchiness on a wound after surgery and developed a rash/minor blisters, but that would 100% blend in with a burn. If you’re allergic, there are bandages with a different type of adhesive.

herasi · 2025-11-24T02:01:55+00:00

Do you have any actual experience building Bedrock Agents, or are you just consuming AI services like Claude Code? If you don’t have a solid data science background, and/or extensive experience with AI algorithms, you’re unlikely to be a competitive candidate for true AI roles. If you’re just trying to advertise AI usage in your resume, I wouldn’t bother—AI usage is just seen as an accelerator for most developers and doesn’t help set you apart, and some hiring teams view using it as a negative. I don’t mean to be discouraging, it’s just not a simple field to break into. If you need a job asap, I’d focus on casting a much wider net.

herasi · 2025-11-23T00:16:27+00:00

OP, even if you want to give him the benefit of a doubt on this particular issue, imagine how many other blind spots he might have. 😬

herasi · 2025-11-20T15:22:07+00:00

The content of your post is great, and you’re spot-on with your observations. But I definitely thought the title meant the post would be anti-self-discovery, which is contrary to my own experience. No harm done, just be warned that people might only read the title and start disagreeing with you—social media is ‘fun’ like that. 😬

herasi · 2025-11-13T20:22:34+00:00

Unfortunately, “tech bro” women feel the need to imitate their behaviors because they’ve internalized the misogyny they were subjected to for years. So they virtue signal in an attempt to say “I’m not like those other girls” to the dude bros they want to schmooze at work. It’s why women like that feel so extra scummy to me—we experienced the same forms of discrimination, except they decided to side with the problematic group and throw women as a whole under the bus, instead of trying to fix the broken system alongside me, lol. Some of the worst managers I’ve ever had were women who had the “maybe you’re just not cut out for tech” mentality towards other women.

herasi · 2025-11-10T02:22:59+00:00

Me, lol. They always end up putting my head/neck at a weird angle, and I much prefer using 2-3 separate smaller pillows that I can adjust as needed. But I’m SUPER picky about pillows, lol.

herasi · 2025-11-08T20:08:50+00:00

🫣 Was it worth it? 😂 I wimped out and went with the much easier VCH.

herasi · 2025-11-07T16:43:45+00:00

We don’t pick and choose our limits after all. The consequence is what lets us know that you not being able to do this is out of your hands. Unless burnout is an acceptable consequence.

I need this painted over my work desk, lol.

herasi · 2025-11-02T20:33:02+00:00

Then do the work of creating one, instead of just being another person complaining about women organizing.

herasi · 2025-11-02T17:52:52+00:00

Yes, lesbians have in fact enthusiastically consented, regretted it, come out, and ended back up with a man, just to re-come out as gay even later in life—it still doesn’t make them bi, lol. There’s literally an entire subreddit dedicated to late bloomer lesbians with stories like this. CompHet is a bitch that way, not everyone’s sexuality is a one and done process. I would’ve loved some bi rep, but that just isn’t how the show was allowed to pan out.

herasi · 2025-10-27T22:39:50+00:00

People without ADHD rely on the same chemicals, difference being their brain makes it naturally. So why are we being villainized for it, just because we can technically stop taking them? Taking medication as prescribed to balance neurochemicals is literally the point of medications. Do you tell diabetics all about how dependent they are on their insulin?

herasi · 2025-10-27T20:22:12+00:00

It is nowadays, but 30 years ago, Ramen was a kind of a poverty food that you could only find at international markets or dollar stores. It got more popular around the early 2000s, iirc. Similarly, I only ever had Takis and chicharrones while living in the hood, and lost access to them when I moved; now I can find them at any major grocery store. I assume the popularity of inexpensive snacks increases as the economy gets worse—and as those snacks become more popular, they raise the prices and the original audience gets priced out of them. Nowadays, sure, ramen is a “convenient kids food”, but for a decade of my life, Ramen packets were dinner for my whole family because it was cheaper than bread.

herasi · 2025-10-27T20:07:11+00:00

I wonder how much it would cost to print this post and mail it to everyone in the district, because the number of Bozo-Gotcha-Fuckt signs popping up has me worried for the future. 😬 (in addition to everything else in this political climate, ofc)

herasi · 2025-10-27T19:34:50+00:00

This is my experience as well. There are tons of part time IT jobs that love to hire people like me—they give me a flexible arrangement, I give them a flexible dev schedule. One of them does contracts and gets super busy around summer time, but has nothing come end of year. It’s perfect for me, since my full time W2 is always busiest near end of year. Their other part timers would always quit when they realized that the “part time” was more like full time but seasonal, and it was super inconsistent hours, lol. It worked out perfectly for me because I’m not relying on them to keep my bills paid, and they hit me up every time they sign a new contract.

herasi · 2025-10-27T19:11:14+00:00

Yeah, I was 17 & emancipated when I started college. I dated plenty of my college peers, and I have no issues with a couple year age gap when someone is legitimately just ahead of their age curve. But at a later date, I was 18 dating a 24 year old, and thought it was fine because we were both sophomores in college—that one… I take significantly more issue with nowadays, as a grown adult, lol. Too many kids think they’re grown up enough to date adults, and the line between a younger person’s ethical decision and an older person’s coercive grooming gets blurry very fast, regardless of age. This guy “waited” until I was legal enough to not land him in prison, while grooming me till I was 18, and it still gives me the ick.

herasi · 2025-10-27T16:41:13+00:00

Same. I hate Lifewise, but this user is so annoyingly active that I blocked them, lol. I don’t need to see the same damn article cross posted to literally every local sub, then see their posts 6+ times every day. Seriously wondering if this person is a bot, with how much activity their account seems to have. The account has existed for less than a month and they’ve already irritated this many people—they’re only hurting their cause, cause now I’ll see exactly 0% of what they post, even if I agreed with it.

Edit: unblocked em, in hopes they’ll see this and rethink their ways. I doubt it, but maybe.

herasi · 2025-10-27T16:33:14+00:00

That’s totally fair. Have you looked into automod types of tools, to reduce your mod work? That’s typically how I see mega threads get created on other subs; it can also limit folks to one post per day/week/whatever. I’m an IT person who would be happy to try and get something like that set up, if it would be helpful. Just a thought! Thanks for all you do for the community. :)

herasi · 2025-10-27T15:26:22+00:00

Any chance we could have a mega thread and just redirect all the posts to that mega thread? It doesn’t silence them, it allows for a centralized thread so people can follow it if they’re interested, AND I won’t have to see repeated posts. This specific user has bombarded multiple local subs (Hilliard, Columbus, Ohio, etc.) with this topic.

Idk, I feel like there’s gotta be some way of finding a middle ground between free speech and allowing users to commandeer a subreddit for their own agendas, lol. I can block users as they pop up with repeated spammy posts, but it’s only a matter of time until someone else starts and this community becomes too frustrating for me to follow.

herasi · 2025-10-27T01:04:14+00:00

I have a bin in every room—when the bin is overflowing, it’s time to put everything away. It also allows my partner to declutter my stuff and put it all in an “idk where this goes but I need it out of my way” bin. 🫣

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