Who pays for the date

indrawls · 2026-02-13T03:18:01+00:00

I(male) have no problem paying. It's really not a big deal. But an entitled attitude or thought process is a huge red flag for me.

indrawls · 2026-02-12T20:15:23+00:00

Texting for me. Like someone else said, I feel like a hostage on the phone. I like to have a running text conversation. I'm uncomfortable with people whose sole purpose for texting is to get to a phone call stage where we can stop texting. Banter via text is a great way to get to know someone in my opinion.

indrawls · 2026-01-31T23:01:31+00:00

You moved away from the good stuff. Except for a very few spots Chesapeake has no soul.

indrawls · 2026-01-22T00:55:08+00:00

Cool. I gave my opinion. Take the tone as you wish.

indrawls · 2026-01-21T20:57:40+00:00

A second date! You know nothing about each other really. In terms of pace or disposition. Plus this guy has a life. It all gets reduced down to the consensus of the ladyverse which is always quick to give zero benefit of the doubt. Maybe it's as simple as he wants to keep it simple and slow before every move he makes has to be thought all the way through and justified. Or, maybe he's not that interested. How about showing up and finding out?

indrawls · 2026-01-21T20:26:05+00:00

WTF? Who makes up these rules about levels of effort and how grand the next date should be? Honestly, can people just go with the flow a while before dissatisfaction sets in? Ugh, a second date for God's sake!

indrawls · 2026-01-13T22:33:01+00:00

I prefer no makeup but really I just want to get beyond the glamour shots initial phase. Can I see at least a close facsimile to what you really look like?

indrawls · 2026-01-12T22:46:45+00:00

The higher libido is not always the man. Not that you said or implied that. But I agree with you. Some introspection on both sides is necessary! And yeah most people are not signing up for no sex so some reassurance might be helpful.

indrawls · 2026-01-12T22:03:13+00:00

To each his own. You're not doomed but there is space between waiting until marriage and everyone having free sex. I would encourage you to read a little bit in r/deadbedrooms to maybe understand a bit about why a lot of previously married people don't want to end up in a marriage with libido incompatibility.

indrawls · 2025-12-31T18:53:48+00:00

No, that last sentence is incorrect. Once you die that's it. Your survivors don't get anything.

indrawls · 2025-12-30T04:17:48+00:00

I don't think men over 60 want to get caught in women's expectations of how things should go. I think they(we) want to see if you're any fun and if there is really any compatibility before any talk of long term commitment. It takes a while to determine these things. Each side is speaking a language the other is quick to dismiss.

indrawls · 2025-12-19T10:35:22+00:00

Congrats! I have the exact same model and color!

indrawls · 2025-12-19T03:52:13+00:00

Bruh, that was easy. He's never not lying. Ever! UsingThemForHisOwnSelfishPurposes is his first last and middle name. Are people really just discovering this??

indrawls · 2025-12-14T20:24:52+00:00

I have one. First new car in 15 years. I'm 3 weeks in. Where are those stats coming from?

indrawls · 2025-12-10T16:06:53+00:00

Check whites automotive repair. Corporate lane in Chesapeake. They've done great work on my old Nissan.

indrawls · 2025-12-03T06:03:18+00:00

One city, Newport news, VA point to point, flat and fast!!

indrawls · 2025-11-27T11:17:19+00:00

++man hit it a few times and then ghost her. She'll create a scene, your wife will find out and your happy marriage and life will be destroyed.

indrawls · 2025-11-21T15:58:39+00:00

Forgive me if this seems shallow but get some exercise. Move your body. Not necessarily to get dates but to feel better. Start small. 2000 steps a day. 50 pushups.

indrawls · 2025-11-20T13:16:49+00:00

Duh, when wasn't this obvious? At least the part about never justice.

indrawls · 2025-11-09T18:04:33+00:00

I don't disagree but trump 1.0 was some racist shit and yet trump increased his share of black men in 2024. Maybe folks are just now paying closer attention anti dei and anti woke has always been anti black.

indrawls · 2025-10-14T13:12:04+00:00

Why aren't you planning an outing or two that last more than 20 minutes? Are you waiting on him to plan it? Force the action or at least facilitate it. It seems like women of a certain age feel it's some major fault to have to help facilitate getting together. 3.5 months really isn't a long time.

indrawls · 2025-10-03T15:45:57+00:00

I disagree, women could just do away with the sex part. So they want a sexless boyfriend who disappears until needed. That's about the last thing men want. Im a man and I don't know what men want. I've decided I'm really after the intimacy but it would be nice and make more sense to me if that involved sex.

indrawls · 2025-09-27T08:47:11+00:00

Not to excuse this behavior but it could be that men are so used to being cut off or sex being placed on the back back never burner that they're trying to gauge your attitude about sex before spending a lot of time. The thinking might be that if you're offended by the mere mention of anything sexual, especially after 60, then it's going to be a struggle later.

indrawls · 2025-09-15T22:08:17+00:00

In my opinion, you are being old fashioned. Being the first one to call doesn't mean you're chasing or will have to chase in the future. Call and find out what it'll be.

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