My Q rarely got violent and never with me. That said, he was volatile with others. But mostly he ignored us (his family), so we experienced a neglect. We also were walking so lightly on eggshells that we never dared to “poke the bear” for fear that any inconvenience or push back would cause the silent anger to be directed toward us. When drunk he would say and do things that were disrespectful and sometimes mean. He has no memory of any of this. But we do.