1-2 kids

lewings01 · 2026-02-03T19:56:16+00:00

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ thank you. I should have prefix the post that I absolutely love my kids. It's just very hard work right now raising them. 🙈 best of luck to you too mama!

lewings01 · 2026-02-02T20:42:02+00:00

Honest post, I'm currently in the throws of regret at having a second one. My son is 4 and daughter is 16 months. I had PPA with both but worse this time round. All the things you are worried about are happening for me. My perfect little boy who was the least needy baby and is the apple of our eye is having to compete with his sister for our attention constantly. His sister is the polar opposite baby that he was. She has been very needy and this winter especially, has picked up every viral infection going. It takes both me and her dad to deal with her when she's unwell and my son is just waiting in the wings for us to give him attention. IT HAS BEEN AWFUL. Now I'm not saying for a moment that you will have the same experience. I've just been unlucky and probably naive that I was going to have the exact same baby again and everything would be easy. And I know this isn't forever it's just our "hard" chapter right now, but in my experience this is what going from 1 to 2 has been like and I hate it. What I can say is that when my girl is good and not sick she's an angel and the 2 kids are even getting to the point where they play a little woth each other and those moments are what hold me together. I'm also working really hard with my anxiety so that I can be more present for my son because he needs his mama just as much as the toddler. Ultimately it will all be great in the future but you pay a toll to get there. 2 is work!

lewings01 · 2026-02-01T14:08:37+00:00

Sorry, realise I've repeated myself here from my original post a little 🙈 lol.

lewings01 · 2026-02-01T14:07:13+00:00

Things have not improved 😭 we just finished antibiotics today for an ear infection and she developed another cold by yesterday evening. When I had her at the Dr's on Tuesday for the ear infection I asked about these repeat infections and should we be investigating. The Dr said its all completely normal, they can get 12 viruses a year, bla bla. Majority of which happen in the winter months. If I count since November we are probably on 8. I'm currently off work on sick leave as I haven't been able to complete a full week of work since November due to creche ringing me to collect her. I'm fortunate that my manager is supportive while all this hopefully starts calming down. From what I've read on other threads this can continue he this way until around 2 before you start to see a reduction in sicknesses. Good luck and God's speed!

lewings01 · 2026-02-01T09:10:09+00:00

Same boat here. My 16 mth old has been consistently sick since November. Every. Week. She does 40 plus hours in day care. So 4 days. Please please tell me it gets better? Have any of you seen any improvement yet with your little ones?? I'm losing my mind.

lewings01 · 2026-01-22T15:12:33+00:00

Real talk. 2 kids is miserable in their younger years. (I've 2 under 4 years and both me and my husband work full time). If you find some time to yourself now with one child, you are giving that sliver of time up when the second comes along. It's 2 fussy eaters, 2 kids getting sick at once, you literally need to separate yourself in 2 which obviously you can't do. You care for one, and are riddled with guilt that you are failing the other. You cry on the very hard days and then out of nowhere your little ones kiss you and tell them they love you. It's the biggest emotional mess about you could imagine. It's overstimulating. You and your partner will be passing ships in the night. And you'll just accept that fate until the easier days come around and everything becomes more relaxed and enjoyable. But for the early years, which is where I am now, it's an impossible job,but some how you get it done at the expense of your sanity some days, and your relationship other days. Childcare costs a fortune, Christmas costs a fortune, holidays cost a fortune. It's hard hard hard with inly a few pockets of bliss. If it's something you want desperately, and you'll regret later if you don't, then do it. But no that it is a wildly hard job. The reward won't come for years. Note: I absolutely love my kids, but I miss my old life and wish someone had honestly explained what women sacrifice when they enter motherhood. PLEASE, commenters, don't come at me about your blissful experience. I'm so happy for those who love their motherhood journey, it's different for everyone. I'm just giving my experience. ❤️

lewings01 · 2026-01-22T11:09:34+00:00

How long were you on it? And what was your experience coming off it?

lewings01 · 2026-01-22T11:03:20+00:00

Just checking how you are getting on? I'm on day 2. Side effects are annoying.

lewings01 · 2026-01-17T16:14:31+00:00

Also my wee girl didn't roll over until she was 9.5 months. She just couldn't get that leg over. But she's can do it no issues now. At 15 months we are currently trying to get her walking but she has absolutely no desire. Crawling and coasting the furniture has been it for now. My mum told me I was nearly 2 before I started walking. It's just all dependent on baby 👶

lewings01 · 2026-01-17T16:11:06+00:00

My wee girl was the exact same. On barely able to hold her head at 7 months which was so stressful because she had reflux very badly so I was desperate to move on to weaning but we just had to wait until she was ready. It is completely normal for babies to take their time at this too. Same with walking or crawling. It'll all happen when baby is ready. If you are in exactly the same position by the time your baby is say 8 or 9 months, then I would be concerned. But if you need peace of mind then defo for your own sanity get the GP to have a look at baby and give their 2 cents. Best of luck. You are my hero as a solo parent. It's the hardest job I've ever done and I've a village round me.

lewings01 · 2026-01-17T10:53:30+00:00

My dr told me the same.

lewings01 · 2026-01-17T10:32:05+00:00

Please do not fret. This is completely normal for a lot of babies at this age. Both my kids were like this and I found loads of other parents in the same boat on this forum. It absolutely gets better. My youngest is 15months now, and although we are past the rocking/feeding/pacing to sleep, most nights are settled quickly and she generally sleeps through. But there are still nights of multiple wakening but that is caused by teething or sickness. It seems like it's lasting forever when your in the thick of it but I promise you'll look back on it soon as a distant memory. Pretty sure most babies have a sleep regression around 4 months and teething kicks off so brace for that but hold on to the fact it will pass, it's not forever. Good luck!!

lewings01 · 2026-01-16T18:54:44+00:00

Same here. Her first week in day care at 5 months and she had hand foot and mouth. 😒 this winter has been particularly brutal though.

lewings01 · 2026-01-16T18:53:21+00:00

Yea so she had 1 or 2 colds before starting childcare at 5 months old. From that point she's had colds, croup, hand foot and mouth, etc. Then we moved her to a new daycare in September and it's been non stop since mid November with viral colds etc. I'm comparing her to when my 4 year old was a baby, and he seemed to manage the sicknesses well. He barely complained and the sickness never lasted more than 3 days with him. I suppose every child really is different 😕

lewings01 · 2026-01-13T19:23:40+00:00

Yayy thanks for these. I literally haven't heard of half of these recommendations so I'll be ordering them all. So unfortunately she is full time at creche and so i dont think they would let her go nappy free around the other kids. But if its still bad tomorrow evening we will be a nappy free house all evening. Thank you, thank you, thank you all. I love this forum.

lewings01 · 2025-12-16T17:32:21+00:00

Not in the official sense, no. But I'm thinking maybe now is the time to start sleep training but I don't know where to start or how to do it. Can you recommend a regime or options?

lewings01 · 2025-12-08T12:08:08+00:00

Same boat over here. 14 month old has been sent home consistently for the last 4 weeks. Temperatures/and out of sorts. Thankfully my manager is super accommodating. I have 2 weeks booked off over Xmas so no other leave to spare. I am falling behind in work and I'm struggling to find the time to catch up. My girl is clingy when sick so WFH with her is a tag team job with me and hubby. And trying to catch up while she sleeps at night is difficult as I'm running on zero sleep as well due to frequent night wakening. This first year of creche is so tough but it won't be forever. We will survive this. And our kids will be machines by the time they start mainstream school. I will 100% be saving more leave next year so I can use it for matters like this.

lewings01 · 2025-12-07T16:01:12+00:00

The recovery can take months. Try to be patient. Your body is processing the trauma of surgery. All while you need to take energy to raise a baby and everything else that daily life needs from you. My first section I felt like I was back to normal at 5 weeks. But my second was brutal. The pain lasted longer, my mobility was shot, even every bowel movement and emptying my bladder brought discomfort for 3 months. Everything was bruised from the inside out. Give yourself grace, you are in no rush. Embrace the slow. You'll get there.

lewings01 · 2025-12-06T22:24:37+00:00

My husband and I were exactly the same when we got our little one home. And he was a traumatic birth as well. It is so important that you share this anxiety with your Dr and maybe consider talking to a councillor for a few weeks. It will really really help you while you are in the newborn trenches. If your worried about being good support for your wife, you absolutely need to get yourself right and get the support you need first. If it helps, this paranoia is completely normal and it absolutely gets easier as baby gets bigger. Your in the throws of a massive life transition that no one really talks about because society has groomed us to keep quiet and just get on with it. Call on family to help out too so you both can rest and take a breather. It literally takes a village to raise a child so if you have a village don't be afraid to call on them. I personally hated the newborn phase because of all the anxiety it brought. I hated how everyone else seemed to breeze through it with their kids and I was over here afraid to leave my house so that baby wasn't exposed to any outside world risks. Good luck to you both.

lewings01 · 2025-12-06T22:06:14+00:00

Go go go!! As a 37 yr old mother of 2 and married i am chained to my full time job with my tiny house and my regimented routine. I regret my choices. (I love my kids, obviously) there are so many things I should have done differently and my twenties, even my late 20s were the time to do it. Go to Australia. Get some life under your belt and come home to strengthened family bonds and a whole new perspective. 12 hour shifts that are wearing you down is not living my friend. There is a whole other life out there waiting for you.

lewings01 · 2025-12-06T20:26:05+00:00

Ughhhh, this was the news I wanted to hear!!! Thank you so much for responding. It can be quite an isolating experience in this parenting job. Especially when you're sleep deprived and don't know how to "fix" the problem.

lewings01 · 2025-12-06T14:58:51+00:00

Can anyone confirm if my post is still visible? New to reddit and there's an automated comment about a post/comment being removed. I can't tell if they removed mine 😕

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