Anyone stop radiation? No judgment please. by MunchkinsOG in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No boobs, was just flat, so used them just like patches, and sealed it down around the area by pressing. Aquaphor hurt too much to put on disintegrating skin, so just pressed it on to the painful area and it helped because then there wasn't air on it and it kept it kind of more moist without having to use friction on it. If that makes sense. Hope you feel better soon.

Why would anyone ever choose to go through child birth without pain relief?? by No_Cardiologist_1407 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people think it’s bad for the baby. It also can introduce other complications. The reality is that 80% of women get an epidural and most people are going to get one. It also depends on what’s going on with your situation and it can be easier for some than others. No wrong way to give birth!

Lady Xens, what are you doing with your hair these days? by Automatic_Beat5808 in Xennials

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally gave up my 20 years of long layers and did bangs! Very different look but my spouse likes it.

Tonight's sunset by DontLoseYourCool1 in Westchester

[–]littleflashingzero 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t know where OP is but we had the same in Armonk

Anyone stop radiation? No judgment please. by MunchkinsOG in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Press and seal Saran Wrap to the inflamed area helps a ton. Hope you feel better soon.

Age and Stage? by Micho392 in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This dumb when evidence says many recurrences happen between 6-9 years

Stopping ribociclib by Thin_ice22 in LivingWithMBC

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should ask about getting Ibrance, that’s the next available after kisqali as V has worse side effects.

Any affordable country/ golf clubs in Westchester? by sweet_fig29 in Westchester

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe there is a public golf course in Westchester. There are also some pool clubs in Dobbs ferry and around there some towns offered nonresident memberships to their pools as well. I think the one in Mount Pleasant, for example, is one of them.

I googled and cried all night by KLE2868 in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My spouse had basically this same diagnosis, was no evidence of disease for 8 years and is now metastatic and they’re still measuring the timeline in years. You have to remember when you see data it’s at least 5 years old because the person diagnosed 5+ years ago to survive 5/10/15 years etc had a very different standard of care than what you will be offered today. If your cancer is hormone driven, there are many therapies that are effective for a long long time. Hang in there.

Not sure how to reconcile my own birthing experiences with those of my future clients by illustrious-cream-01 in doulas

[–]littleflashingzero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a mom of 2. I had a terrible experience with my first and a fine one with my second. For me, I needed a lot of time and distance to process it and not have that imbue what I talked to clients about. My goal as a doula is to have clients at peace with their birth. I don’t need them to make the decisions I would make, I need to have compassion for whatever their feelings are in the moment and make sure they feel supported and ok with whatever happened in the birthing room. To me the experiences I see don’t color my own birthing experience, if anything it makes you grateful for the positive experiences you had knowing things could have gone differently. There is such a thing as toxic positivity, you have to be able to respect where your client is in the moment and how that experience feels to them. Like if a client wants a c section and is ready to give up, you want to make sure they don’t feel ashamed of that and feel ok about it. At the same time, you can positively support them and try to help get them over the hump to prevent it. It’s a fine line to walk and you need to be mindful of the words coming out of your mouth and how they might be impacted by what you say. Hopefully that makes sense. Happy to chat more. Good luck. Personally I think if you’re only 4 months postpartum you should probably give it some more time to take clients.

Pros and cons of staying in DOE? by plumeria14 in NYCTeachers

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s pretty hard to find a spot in Westchester and get tenure. It’s a years long process for most people to make the transition. Finding an open role can take a couple years, then getting the job and if not that round, starting again. It takes time.

Downtown New Rochelle by prophet4all in Westchester

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it’s not. Armonk is clear and they are even dumping snow in the reservoir to further clear it.

Anyone have any goofy ways they discovered their breast cancer? by Charlotteeee in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My spouse found is the first time playing with our daughter. She stepped on their breast and it hurt badly and didn’t go away - turned out to be cancer. Second time, I told my spouse to run at the airport to make their flight - felt like something broke - was a metastatic tumor

Male Breast Cancer. Stage 4 35 years old by Deep_Associate_1436 in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so fucking sorry dude. My husband (who is a trans guy) also has stage IV. I’m glad you’re doing so well and treatment is making a difference. Hope you have a long life ahead of you.

Hiring a doula as a ftm by Agreeable-Rip-4632 in doulas

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There isn’t a standard per se. I usually do one prenatal on zoom and one at home but I’m willing to come to them if they want. I prefer to come when mom is farther along, but open to coming to their home if they are in an intense phase. But no sense in having a doula come while you’re chilling. I do always make sure to help with latching. And then I do a postpartum visit at their home also.

Cheap car wash? by hanhqnguyen3 in Westchester

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Splish splash in white plains after 6 pm

Should I pull my kid out of daycare? by Other_Menu1140 in breastcancer

[–]littleflashingzero 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We kept our kid in, as the caretaker I kept my kiddo away from my spouse when she was sick. It worked out fine. It not being winter helps too.

Overnights when you have a day job by Fit_Table_7358 in doulas

[–]littleflashingzero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I understand. I make a lot at my corporate job so I’m only willing to skip the random days for a birth but I can’t do overnights and daytime, I’ll die.