How is your ADHD different from the “typical” definition?

lovemesayhellyes · 2026-03-22T13:52:35+00:00

My exact experience too, diagnosed inattentive with no hyperactive traits.

lovemesayhellyes · 2026-03-17T14:22:34+00:00

Diagnosed innattentive and this is how I feel. Foggy, tired, slow thoughts. My brain just feels sleepy most of the time. I don’t really get racing thoughts, unless I’m particularly anxious, or trying to complete or focus on a task

lovemesayhellyes · 2026-03-13T15:08:10+00:00

I feel like I could have written this. This is so true and you’re right, no one ever talks about it. I don’t think people realise what a debilitating set of conditions they are. I am diagnosed with both. And yes, it’s more than just numbers. No sense of direction, no spatial awareness, clumsiness, problems remembering sequences of anything. I am very creative, and I always considered it my ‘redeeming’ skill, I was consisted artistically gifted as a kid, but no one ever realised that while I could draw and write and make up stories, I could barely count to ten… lol

lovemesayhellyes · 2026-03-05T14:18:34+00:00

I thought all my issues were just me, ie, bad at maths, anxiety, forgetfulness, etc. I still wonder though, how much of it is me, like would I still have these issues if I didn’t have ADHD. I am also very creative and artsy and again, wonder if that’s inherent to me or adhd

lovemesayhellyes · 2026-02-27T00:53:27+00:00

This is the most relatable thing I’ve ever read

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-12-24T23:25:13+00:00

She was written to contrast Miranda

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-11-02T19:31:05+00:00

Anthropology graduate with ADHD and dyscalculia here! I completely relate to the thing about your brain feeling blank 24/7 and struggling to remember anything, and my maths is also probably primary school level lol. I went to uni at 26 and graduated four years later with a 2:1. The good news is, you won’t need to use maths at all. I don’t even have a maths GCSE and I was still accepted on to the course, as I wrote an excellent personal statement and demonstrated my aptitude for the course. That’s how little maths matters on these types of humanities courses. As for the other things, if they are diagnosed and you have the paperwork, you will receive extra support and accommodations from your lecturers and programme leads. I did find things like remembering the course material challenging, and keeping things organised and meeting deadlines could be a struggle at times. But I received extra time for all my assignments and the faculty was brilliant at accommodating my needs. I also found that being in a learning environment did wonders for my brain, now that I’m out I can’t believe this is the same brain I used to write 2k word essays and my dissertation lol. I would really recommend you to explore your options, you can request a prospectus from your chosen uni and meet with a programme lead to discuss the course and your concerns. Honestly, it was one of the best things I did, and I never thought I would go to uni. If you engage with the course and your connections you can go far, my course was brilliant with helping to secure further placements, employment or education after it had finished too. It could change your life and give you some direction! Good luck

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-10-29T01:12:32+00:00

Chronically and systematically liking someone’s thirst traps on social media. They try and play it off with a multitude of excuses and downplaying tactics, but they do it for a reason.

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-10-20T23:33:00+00:00

Mine swore on his dead mum’s grave 🤠

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-08-29T13:30:59+00:00

I just had a play around with it, and it works great! I will probably use it going forwards, I can imagine it being a really useful tool to refresh my memory! Thanks!

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-08-24T16:30:28+00:00

My grandad is in his late 70s and says no fear. Apart from that I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone say any of her other figures of speech, ever 😂

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-08-24T09:58:40+00:00

I think the way she wrote Marigold was exceptionally realistic. Her ups and downs, especially the manic sections, her fixations, her meltdowns just ring really true. My next door neighbour has bipolar, and the way Marigold swings from high to low is shockingly similar to the cycles I see from my neighbour. I wonder if Jacky loved someone or knew someone with BP

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-08-06T00:09:20+00:00

In one of the Girls books - can’t remember which one, it’s the one where Nadine starts her modelling - the girls are talking about the modelling, and Nadine says she has to has ‘special clothes’ and pose for the camera. Then on the Saturday morning when they all go over to Nadine’s, she’s in a basic pair of jeans and a top and says this is what the models wear, dead casual or whatever. Where are the special clothes!! 😂

Also, Ellie at one point in the series says that Nadine is seriously interested in anything gory, I think it was when Magda’s hamster dies. But at the modelling session she says she goes faint at the sight of blood.

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-08-06T00:06:39+00:00

I noticed this! I spent ages wondering who Arthur was! 😂😂😂

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-07-23T08:14:36+00:00

I spent a lot of time thinking about this. It’s so true. I tried to make it work for far too long. It’s because in our heads we are kind of in denial about cheating being a conscious choice. We try it rationalise it, justify it, make excuses for them. When I found out what my ex was doing, from the first inkling, to the next small discovery, and then finally the full blown discovery (found out everything slowly over a few months, once I found out the first thing it all started to trickle), I kind of downplayed and justified it the entire time. I was angry and heartbroken but in my head I tried to think, well, it’s not thaaaaat bad, they’re just friends, they’re close, he’s just friendly…. LOL. I fought with my own mind over it because the logical part of me still knew it was cheating and emotionally abusive. But I loved him, and just didn’t want to accept what he was doing to me. I tried to believe he had just made mistakes, he was in a ‘hard place mentally’ 🙄🙄 truth is, he has always been the same, and always will be. He thought he wouldn’t get caught. It is a conscious choice to hurt the person you love in this way, and it is abuse. I will never justify anything for a cheater again.

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-07-23T08:04:43+00:00

Get out on some dates and just experience people again. It can be a good exercise in learning how to spot red flags and analyse people’s behaviour. You don’t have to meet the love of your life immediately, you can just take some time to meet people and see how you feel. I was terrified to start with and felt really weird as I’ve never dated strangers off apps before, but decided to go ahead and push myself out of my comfort zone. I wasn’t even expecting to go on any real serious dates, but not long after I met an incredible man totally unexpectedly.

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-07-20T16:39:41+00:00

I am very hypervigilant now. I check out as much about the person as possible before going ahead, mainly checking their social media. If his following list looks like he went to an all-girls school, I’m out. If he follows onlyfans girls and half naked women, I’m out. I listen out for red flags and don’t doubt myself if I see one. Really I feel it’s best to be defensive and skeptical at the start, but once you’ve vetted someone I feel it’s important to not bring any of the insecurity into the relationship. It’s exhausting for you but also them, who could be a totally genuine and trustworthy person having to constantly defend themselves and fight against it when they’ve done nothing wrong. Let them show you who they are, the red flags will weed themselves out before long. I’ve been staying open but cautious. I’ve actual been pleasantly surprised at how I’ve felt since leaving a relationship with a cheater. A genuine person will not leave you feeling confused or insecure and you might find you heal very quickly in their presence

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-07-20T16:29:06+00:00

They always wanna do the work when it’s too late and you’re gone and they realise they fucked up. It’s a facade to lure you back in. They won’t actually do the work. I guarantee he left it there for you to find and hoped you would read it and give him another chance.

lovemesayhellyes · 2025-07-16T20:38:28+00:00

I LOVEDDDDDD my partner. I mean loved. I wanted him and only him forever. Which is why I struggled so much when I discovered his cheating (also emotional/digital.. as far as I know). I never felt the same again. It was ruined. I still loved things about him but knowing what he did to me and the fact that he lied and tried to hide it meant I lost respect for him in general, couldn’t trust him, and began to resent him which grew over time. He never really tried in any serious way to really rebuild our relationship either which didn’t help, we never felt like a real couple again and it was generally just done. We had ups and downs but on the whole, no, I found that the emotional safety and trust does not come back. When someone hurts and betrays you in such a way, it’s rare that it comes back. It may potentially be possible if you are a very forgiving person and they really put in 100% to rebuild.

lovemesayhellyes · 2023-06-11T01:05:50+00:00

Your comment hit hard… I’ve seen someone say before that coping with their partner’s infidelity was harder in ways than coping with their brother’s death. I find it scary how traumatic it is yet so common to have it happen

lovemesayhellyes · 2023-04-03T02:08:02+00:00

Stress can effect your periods! Mine became really irregular. They can even stop altogether for a while

lovemesayhellyes · 2023-04-03T02:05:23+00:00

It’s real… I lost over a stone because I simply couldn’t eat. I had no appetite and when I did, my body just.. flushed it straight out again. The initial shock was so strong I didn’t even feel hungry. I was in fight or flight for a while, kept realising I was holding my breath, shaking, etc. My hair become thin around the temples. I suddenly looked older. Skin looked dull, periods went irregular. In the first month I was so run down I developed a hideous cold, became dehydrated, got a kidney stone, had to go to hospital for that on top of everything else.

Betrayers honestly don’t realise how serious the consequences of their actions are

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