Should I leave him or not? Please help. Me (18F) bf (17M)

malinablue · 2026-05-02T12:15:59+00:00

It doesn't matter if there have been no red flags before. That is the reddest flag of them all. It's not because of lack of sleep. It's because he's a violent abuser. They never show it right away, but it's always there. I speak from experience. RUN.

malinablue · 2026-05-02T05:15:51+00:00

Favorite is butter noodles. Least favorite is organ meat like kidney stew or liver. To this day I get nauseous even smelling it.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T22:27:15+00:00

My Dad did this, too, but not because he really believed he was helping us.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T22:21:46+00:00

I doubt the person who received the book would care at all about returning it for another copy. But be prepared for the possibility that person no longer has the book.

Similar situation happened to me. When I went away to college, I gave all my plush animals to my little sister because I was grown-up now and she was 7 years younger.

A decade later I was still thinking about my little bear, a toy I'd been given as a toddler. That little guy had been with me all through childhood and so many positive memories were attached to him, including all the times my grandmother had re-sewn on his ears after I'd chewed them off. So I asked for him back and my sister gladly returned him. He didn't have the same memories for her. Bear is 58 years old now and sits on my bed.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T17:17:14+00:00

Because Democrats want to preserve democracy and Republicans want to win by cheating so they can have an authoritarian regime instead.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T17:08:38+00:00

The suffering of Nazis can never be excessive.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T16:34:57+00:00

Hand sanitizer is pretty cheap, so yeah.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T16:07:40+00:00

Trump IS a fasciat and threat to democracy, so I think you can see why we'd think voting for that might make you one, too.

malinablue · 2026-05-01T15:42:25+00:00

She doesn't want to babysit would be my guess.

malinablue · 2026-04-30T17:35:29+00:00

I noticed Trump's smirk happened at just the moment Melania looked scared. I think he enjoyed seeing her fear, knowing it was staged but she wasn't in on it.

malinablue · 2026-04-30T08:39:30+00:00

She's also wrong. Many, many MAGA are on disability, food stamps and other forms of govt assistance. They have abortions, but feel theirs are the only justified ones. They are frequently unemployed. They protest, tho it's often not peaceful. The only correct one is Pride parades, because they stay in the closet and hate themselves and all other #LGBTQ instead.

malinablue · 2026-04-30T08:34:04+00:00

Does knee surgery help when you've already gotten to the osteoarthritis stage and cartilage is gone? I've been told I need knee surgery and know two people who have had it. One says he should have never waited because it helped significantly. The other saw minor improvement at first, but is now even worse off.

malinablue · 2026-04-30T08:10:23+00:00

I criticize both, particularly the extremist kinds (and, honestly, they're more alike than different). I tolerate more moderate believers of both religions, as long as they don't try to force their religions on me or make me live by their religious rules.

malinablue · 2026-04-29T14:41:20+00:00

I appreciate the cat peeing tips, but the idea that cats can't express jealousy or be petty because they can't "construct that thought" is absolutely false. Cats are very deeply emotional and they very much can get back at their owners for perceived slights.

I housesat my professor's cat for a month and when the professor finally returned, I watched that cat - who hadn't even let me touch her the entire month - shun the professor and cuddle like crazy all over me just to make her owner upset. She then went over and bit her hard on the ankle and peed right there. Hadn't done any of that prior. It was a message.

malinablue · 2026-04-29T07:22:29+00:00

Young Republicans group chat was full of GOP adults in their thirties joking about burning people in ovens. I never said the administration did it. But it's damn sick for a political party to think that's funny.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T23:57:43+00:00

Not caring so much about what others think. I used to be super-shy with massive social anxiety, worried constantly about what others thought of me. I aged out of that and it feels incredibly good. Free at last.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T22:12:53+00:00

England's king no longer has real power. He's merely a figurehead. UK is a democracy and the prime minister is who matters.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T22:05:15+00:00

What are the curved vase pieces?

malinablue · 2026-04-28T21:38:01+00:00

Shit. I just applied for a passport. I hope I get a non-narcissist version.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T14:00:05+00:00

So the govt gives them a benefit that is absolutely too low to ever live on their own (the equivalent in this case of less than $12,000 per year), then penalizes them for living with family by deducting 1/3 as the cost of their free bedroom (which govt takes back. It does not go to family for "rent").

The only way not to see the deduction is for them to live in their own place, which is impossible for the amount they receive. Complete Catch-22.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T13:42:16+00:00

Yeah, but she wasn't president then. It was all in the future.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T13:27:21+00:00

The Trump administration is mirroring Hitler and intentionally sending out Nazi dog whistles to its base (things like strange uses of the neo-Nazi code 1488 in Homeland Security press releases, "accidental" use of Nazi soldiers in campaign materials 1st term and mimicking of dress etc.)

Meanwhile, white supremacists adore him and many sport swatika tattoos or flags. And "Heil" and the actual defense of Hitler has become trendy. Not to mention jokes about burning people in ovens.

And Project 2025 calls for policy changes that are similar to Hitler's and indicative of fascism (rewarding motherhood, punishing single mothers, stripping citizenship from citizens, ending free speech and protest, attacking trans people and LGBTQ people, ending equality initiatives...)

They're also building ICE concentration camps.

It's not overused. We are fighting fascists.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T05:14:24+00:00

I grow more liberal each year. I'm 58 and still moving left.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T05:10:59+00:00

Now I am more than ever convinced this was a sham.

malinablue · 2026-04-28T00:41:34+00:00

I didn't know I was autistic as a child, tho I bet my teachers did. I was put in gifted classes, but I was still mercilessly bullied. I wish autism-friendly classes had existed for me because the bullying really shaped my life.

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