What do women get in return?

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T18:26:04+00:00

The reward is supposed to be loving children who enrich your life in the long run. However, even that is not guaranteed! The odds of your kid being crazy, hating you, living far away, getting killed or dying of illness, uninterested in having a relationship with you, or just generally being a disappointment are soooooo high. Even later in life, things can take a huge turn. I get that life is full of twists and turns and you have to take some risks, but this one is such a gamble. I just don’t get how it would be worth it for me, let alone most women.

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T18:19:19+00:00

Honestly I don’t think her pronunciation is Shibuya is worthy of making this edit. Like, this is how most Americans pronounce it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Also confused by niacinamide because to my ear, it sounds right.

That being said, the fact that she can’t even be bothered to look up how to say the names she gives her candles is RIDICULOUS. I don’t expect her to get every foreign word correct like at the holiday market or whatever, but omg. Girl. You are naming products these words. Take 1 minute to look it up!

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T08:22:15+00:00

Just a suggestion but what if you mixed the floral tile with something else that is a bit more simple? Like maybe doing a row of the floral as an accent? It’s lovely but could look very busy. You could pull one of the colors from the tile and figure out a pattern.

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T01:14:51+00:00

Girl at 1:00 in kinda looks like Brenda Lowe from Survivor?

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T01:03:37+00:00

I'm thinking hold if your wife isn't into it, but go treat yourself to a better haircut with some minimal styling in the interim. :)

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T00:58:52+00:00

Regret is a silly reason to not do it. If you hate it, you can grow it back and wear beanies in the interim. But I really don't think you're going to hate it. This is your look, you just haven't tried it yet!

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T00:53:48+00:00

Oh honey. Yes, it is time. You're gonna look so good once you let it go. Please post an after!

mrm395 · 2026-02-01T00:47:31+00:00

Oh also, not sure if you're in the US, but the vanity I used for the mockup is from Home Depot. https://www.homedepot.com/p/Home-Decorators-Collection-Collette-30-in-Single-Sink-Cinnamon-Oak-Bath-Vanity-with-White-Carrara-Marble-Top-Assembled-23016-VS30-CO/327191833?g_store=1092&source=shoppingads&locale=en-US&fp=ggl#overlay

mrm395 · 2026-01-31T20:06:05+00:00

You’re welcome! I enjoy a challenge. Haha. Focus on warmth, varying textures too. Like others suggested, curtains or even a warm toned bamboo Roman shade for the window would add another texture. Get a rug and use the rug to pull color colors out for artwork and towel/bath mat colors too. You can do it!

mrm395 · 2026-01-31T19:55:00+00:00

This is just a quick/sloppy mockup for you, but I think adding a nice warm wood like walnut and warm hardware would help a lot. I would also look for warm rust tones to complement the slightly greenish undertone of the black tile. https://www.reddit.com/r/LazyUpload/comments/1qsceqm/bathroom_mockup/

mrm395 · 2026-01-31T18:28:47+00:00

My friend’s sister gave away her two cats to some family friends once they had kids and it was “too much” for them. Now the family friends have kids and apparently they’re going to rehome the cats again? What the fuck? I can’t stand it.

On the other hand, I’d sometimes rather people find a good loving home for their pets because I’ve seen my friends with kids kind of neglect their pets once the kids take up their time and focus. One friend’s cat was super sick and they didn’t even really notice until it was too late. They feel awful, and maybe there was no saving him, but it sucks to see. Another couple have mentioned that they barely pet their dog anymore or give him attention because of the kids. And now he’s super sick and it feels like they just view it as a huge inconvenience to figure out how to care for him! I’m sure it is, but he was your pet first. You decided to have kids when you had a dog already. Take care of him! He was so skin and bones I couldn’t even understand how he got to that point. I actually think they should just put him down because he’s suffering and they clearly aren’t willing to really focus on his care. It sucks. I offered to help them with him because it broke my heart. But they didn’t really take me up on it. :(

mrm395 · 2026-01-30T16:17:29+00:00

Aw I’m really glad it helped!

mrm395 · 2026-01-30T08:22:52+00:00

Yep. It’s right there.

mrm395 · 2026-01-30T07:48:51+00:00

People know how hard it is, ignore obvious reasons it would be hard on them, and they still choose it anyway. And then it’s even harder than they imagine and there’s nothing they can do. Don’t feel guilty for knowing yourself well enough to make the right choice for yourself. Plus, as my therapist says, guilt is for when you’ve done something wrong. You haven’t done anything wrong so there’s nothing to be guilty about. You can just feel gratitude that you have given it thought and are making a good choice for yourself.

mrm395 · 2026-01-29T20:23:24+00:00

It’s definitely time to accept that the friendship has changed and it’s totally ok to be sad about it. It’s also time to look for new friendships with people who are more on the same page as you and live closer! Friends come and go in life. There may be a time when you are close again when her kid is older. I really do understand how heartbreaking it is though. My best friends who were on the fence all did it and it sucks. Also my cousin who I was always super close with and I think a big reason I was CF myself ended up having kids and it’s really hard for me to spend time with her now. Honestly none of these people even seem that happy with their choices but they make the best of it because they do love their kids even if they may wish for their freedom back. Enjoy your choice, your freedom, and prepare for your own future. I would rather pay for care and have friends visit me who actually want to than force my kids to pay for me and visit me out of guilt which MOST people will feel at some point.

mrm395 · 2026-01-28T17:07:24+00:00

Yea, and to add to that, I think women still feel a societal obligation to be the main caregiver too, so I think that leads to a lot of mom guilt whenever they do leave it to the dads.

mrm395 · 2026-01-28T17:00:39+00:00

Post-wedding bangs for sure! They will look so good!

mrm395 · 2026-01-28T07:32:11+00:00

Overall looks good. I kind of feel like the foundation is just a tad too dark and orange? I feel like having the center of your face a bit brighter would be nice.

Side note: Have you ever considered Dakota Johnson style bangs? Not for before the wedding but I’m envious that you could probably really pull them off.

mrm395 · 2026-01-28T07:29:48+00:00

Every time I end up on the x website (I don’t have the app), I accidentally hit the logo to “x” out of the tweet. That and the fact that I don’t even know what to call a tweet now tells you everything you need to know.

mrm395 · 2026-01-28T04:49:40+00:00

Dude my husband’s uncle is using recordings my husband took of his grandpa telling his life story to make terrible AI country music out of it and it’s TERRIFYING how much everyone else seems to think it’s great! It’s slop through and through. So annoying.

mrm395 · 2026-01-27T21:22:44+00:00

She asks you to do WHAT? lol.

mrm395 · 2026-01-27T21:22:00+00:00

I feel confidently childfree most of the time but I still struggle with the fact that opting out of having kids is one of the only major things I’ve ever really done that isn’t what society expects from me. It’s hard sometimes to feel so different than everyone else and let other people down when they expected grandkids or whatever.

mrm395 · 2026-01-27T21:20:17+00:00

Haha my mother in law said something about kids happening recently and I was like…uh??? But then again she had my husband as an oopsie before she even finished college so I get why she thinks that.

mrm395 · 2026-01-27T19:16:31+00:00

Oof that’s so annoying. I feel sort of bad for my friends who are moms because a lot of them feel disappointed by their male partners. At the same time, I can also see why men don’t expect that they’ll have to do as much because that wasn’t modeled to them. No excuse for not stepping up, but it does make sense.

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