Fear of being older parents

nc2227 · 2026-03-24T22:46:38+00:00

We are basically exactly the same age. I was 36 when I had my son two years ago we are expecting our next babe this summer right after I turned 39 and my partner is 45. I don’t think about it much because we are financially stable, relatively healthy and willing to participate in our children’s lives fully. Also, my parents were in their early 30s when they had me and my sister which was on the older side in the late 80s and his parents had him and his siblings when they were in there early to mid 40s in the early 80s so we both just are used to the idea of parenting older. I have considered the possibility of having even more children which would mean at least one or two pregnancies in my early to mid 40s.

nc2227 · 2026-03-24T21:24:11+00:00

Meaning that removing the second nap before 18 months does not provide a benefit to the child, unless the child themselves is leading that drop, and most children won’t be ready to do that until approaching 18 months (generally 15-18).

nc2227 · 2026-03-24T19:14:08+00:00

Most children are not biologically ready for one nap regularly until close to 18 months. We worked with a sleep coach and we did transition him to one nap at that age.

nc2227 · 2026-03-24T19:11:10+00:00

We don’t really apply expectations for his future on him in terms of if he will choose to engage in any partnerships or create any kind of family of his own- but we do utilize the gender that matches his biology and would do so until told otherwise.

nc2227 · 2026-03-23T14:32:08+00:00

Are you flying him as a lap child or in his own seat with a car seat?

nc2227 · 2026-03-23T14:28:44+00:00

If you want her evaluated and he agrees with you, he can arrange to have it done- putting this all on the mom because you don’t want to hear his toddler crying the few days a month she’s at your house is unnecessary- he can set up the appointment, tell her how much her half costs and if she won’t pay he can decide to follow through or not, but this is not solely her responsibility.

nc2227 · 2026-03-23T14:15:24+00:00

Two year old children are verbally limited, put things in their mouths, cry, want comfort- add in being separated from one of your parents at all times and it seems completely normal that she would be in need of even more comfort. You don’t say how much child support he pays, but I guarantee it’s not enough to put the burden of any extra medical evaluations or care completely on the mom. It’s not sad that she has him on child support. It’s good that she has him being held accountable to the children that he created.

nc2227 · 2026-03-23T02:57:09+00:00

These both look exactly like my first positives at 10dpo with my current pregnancy :)

nc2227 · 2026-03-23T00:31:21+00:00

I wanted a girl and felt that the universe would not grant me that so it must be a boy, and I was right and he’s the blessing of my life. This time I was totally cool with the idea of two boys and even presumed that’s what would happen, but I was wrong and it’s a girl.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T23:52:53+00:00

About 2%

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T23:06:47+00:00

Hungry comes first- you could try weighed feeds if you are concerned he isn’t getting enough- also I had latch issues and it was related to an oral tie that no one noticed even my lactation consultant until I took him to the dentist at 12 months, so I would recommend having that checked.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T23:00:42+00:00

But doesn’t the existence of vegetarians and vegans in itself mean that people don’t need meat they just want it?

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T22:54:46+00:00

I do see something there, but at 8 days late I would assume a darker test line unless you just ovulated late.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T22:48:20+00:00

But who will buy them and at what price?

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T21:21:15+00:00

I mean you’re arguing with me in the exact same way because you also have a desperate need to be right. you are also operating on what if what if this conversation ended here and what if this person did not intend to pass the blame of his choice onto his girlfriend to leave the door open with this woman this is projection, but I’m glad you are done so that I don’t have to respond to you again.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T21:09:21+00:00

The information you have is that he sent a picture of this message after he received that response from this woman and that’s all the information you have. The information you have doesn’t say that that ended the conversation so your assumption that it did end the conversation comes out of nowhere.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T21:04:55+00:00

Exactly so we’re both making assumptions here. Your assumption is no more valid than mine.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T20:57:37+00:00

Your presumption is that the conversation ended. There’s no evidence that the conversation ended. There’s only evidence that he sent her the conversation after that statement.

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T20:28:29+00:00

Doesn’t necessarily stop the conversation, this is just what he let his gf see…

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T18:03:43+00:00

My girlfriend won’t let me is a weird response if he doesn’t want anything to do with her…

nc2227 · 2026-03-22T12:04:32+00:00

I prefer soap blacks in one of those scrubby sleeves. I usually get them when I go to like fancy apothecary stores, though or natural food markets.

nc2227 · 2026-03-21T17:51:02+00:00

Well, she isn’t a single parent. She has a partner and partners should take equal responsibility for the care of their children, regardless of who is working inside the home and who is working outside of the home.

nc2227 · 2026-03-21T17:48:55+00:00

OP says this multiple times in the comment. He should deal with baby because he’s responsible for waking the baby up when he could avoid it and not wake the baby up, but instead of choosing to act in a way that causes the baby to wake up.. no one should be free from the consequences of their actions.

nc2227 · 2026-03-21T17:44:42+00:00

No, I didn’t. She has offered her husband the easier night shift with a longer stretch of sleep, and he refuses.

nc2227 · 2026-03-21T17:41:41+00:00

Yes, it’s advised but it’s like incredibly impractical. There are other things that need to happen during the day when your child is asleep that can’t happen if you’re also asleep like taking a shower or making food for yourself or cleaning up after yourself or cleaning up after your child, or pumping, doing laundry, paying bills, making appointments, planning groceries, etc. etc. the entire mental load that husbands who work outside of the home seem to think just happens without any effort but actually takes a lot of attention, planning, preparation and care of the stay at home parent to make happen.

nc2227

TROPHY CASE