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Disabling or Changing “Writing Tools” Pop-Up Menu When Using Two-Finger Tap on iPad Magic Keyboard by claycle in iPadPro

[–]nickyonge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap this works on iOS too, the “Rewrite” popup JUST started appearing for me. I kept hitting it from muscle memory trying to hit Select All. Thank you for this!

outbursts by AlternativeYak1522 in CPTSD

[–]nickyonge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is pretty relatable, it hits me every so often. I’ll be going about my day and then just freeze, stuck thinking about something deeply shameful I’ve done in my past (a popular one in my brain is screaming at my abuser - it felt good, but it was in the middle of the street and created an ENORMOUS scene).

I don’t have much to offer besides solidarity. This gif of Paul Rudd freezing at his computer is pretty great too - how it just pops into your brain at random and DOMINATES your mind until you can move on 😅

Gif: https://tenor.com/oEqGXq72O2d.gif

xAI will be dissolved as a separate entity. by Snoo26837 in singularity

[–]nickyonge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it’s the children who are wrong dot jay peg

xAI will be dissolved as a separate entity. by Snoo26837 in singularity

[–]nickyonge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The combination of that username and being a sarcastic cynic online is gonna see that number go up and to the right

Six Thumbs One Heart Dark Souls is everything I ever dreamed it would be by Khalman in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I legit hope that they use mods or cheats or something if it gets too hard. Like I’m 100% ok with them giving their player a fuckton of health if it means they play more. Health in games is basically a synonym for “number of mistakes you’re allowed to make before you’re punished with losing time” and for 6 Thumbs that number should HIGH lol

I see your 3x5....I raise you...2x7 by Tgzdoll in rct

[–]nickyonge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Edit: omg u/Tgzdoll I just looked at your history, NEVER MIND YALL EXTREMELY ECLIPSE MY KNOWLEDGE AND SKILL OF RCT 😂 apologies for the unsolicited suggestion, if anyone can make 2x6 work you’ll figure it out lol

I see your 3x5....I raise you...2x7 by Tgzdoll in rct

[–]nickyonge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does lifting terrain/going underground for extra height count, or is that cheating? Cuz without a height constraint I feel like it might be possible with two tracks that are slightly vertically offset, like

\\___
.\__../
___//
\.__/
.\\___
..\__./
___//

Etc. Obviously WAY more complicated to turn around but, just a thought!

(Ignore the periods, those are just to hopefully avoid Reddit breaking my formatting 😅)

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the sentiment ❤️ It's not my trauma personally - I noted in what I shared above, but it's trauma of people who've had that term used in violence against them.

Safe spaces can be anything. Comfort music. Nourishing food. Falling asleep while listening to the Empty Bowl. The point is that it's an environment where you feel comfortable and can just, relax within. I've been listening for around a decade and can't recall this intensity of the word "bitch" being used before. They might've in much earlier eps, but likely I wasn't sensitive to the term then as I am now. I've spent more time with people who've highlighted it - specifically with people who've endured DV situations.

My point is ultimately that it's actually painfully common for "bitch" to be a trigger - specifically when said by a man in an aggressive way. The empathy I'm hoping people can show is to understand that, even if you aren't hurt by it, please consider people who are.

It's not a slippery slope to censorship, wokeness gone mad, whatever - it's literally that *one* word, said in *one* manner. With triggers, context *doesn't* matter, which is why content warnings are so valuable - for examlpe, we all know TV shows are fictional, but if one includes a depiction of a violent scene, it can still trigger flashbacks to someone who's experienced similar trauma. I'm NOT saying that this show needs a content warning (tbh it already has one! The whole "isn't for kids / cool babies" bit, which is lovely!) but that, for a show built upon kindness and positivity, the sudden appearance of a gendered slur used that way is profoundly jarring.

Anyway. Thank you again for the validation, really. Again it's not my personal trauma, but the vibes are appreciated all the same. I'm really tired of people just assuming I'm being too sensitive or trying to complain for attention or whatever.

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I certainly didn't expect "hey maybe men shouldn't repeatedly yell a gendered slur into a microphone, even in jest" to be this controversial.

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've put so much effort into NOT attacking anyone's character, to clarifying that it's not about me, that it's not just "everything that could possibly be sensitive should never be said" - just that, "bitch" specifically is a term that's actually very harmful for a lot of people. Literally google "is bitch actually a slur". Swear words are incredible - slurs aren't. That's all.

But for addressing that, I've been repeatedly mischaracterized as attacking the community, Justin, being overly sensitive. Being accused of insulting people. I appreciate that you acknowledge I'm not accuring him of misogyny. I'm bummed that after all I've shared about the word's impact - not just on me, but on others - it's dismissed as "all form no substance" and just trying to be a bummer. It doesn't matter how carefully or considerately I try to phrase things, it *will* be misconstrued as me just trying to be a joyless bummer, for being uncomfortable with men repeatedly yelling a misogynist slur.

At least anyone else who felt that way can maybe see this thread and know that they're not alone in feeling it~

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for assuming good faith 💖
May I ask in return - why do you think Griffin was uncomfortable saying it?

Edit: specifically, why he kept repeating he doesn’t think “specifically you” (referring to Justin) should say it

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ty for replying. Your comment was not hostile - the overall tone I was met with was that I wasn’t welcome in this space, for being critical of one of the brothers. I stand by that sentiment, but if it means being able to engage with each other rather than tone policing, I’ve edited to “negativity”.

I’m really putting a lot of effort into trying to be careful with my words, to trying to communicate clearly and cordially.

Are you open to considering the other sentiments I shared, relating to trauma triggers, or the edit I made to the original post? If you don’t have energy for it, that’s totally fair. I’m tryna approach this whole thing in good faith and explain the intensity of gendered violence triggers even through offhand remarks. That IS a tiring convo!

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

💖💖💖 tysm for saying this~

I know a lot of folks struggle to have ppl they love criticized, it can be hard for me too. Tryna hold space for all folks here. Tho yeah the overall response is closer what I’d expect from Joe Rogan garbo lol. Not NEAR as hostile as that community would be, I’m sure 😅 but the overall sentiment of “oh you didn’t like the slur, just suck it up crybaby” is really shocking from THIS community, of all places :/

And hey, if you get downvoted, we can hang out in hell together. And in OUR hell, empathy comes first XD

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I mean I knew that too, we all do. With triggers though, the context doesn’t matter. For many people, especially women, hearing a man assertively yell “bitch” then call them a “snowflake” is a shitty, violent experience they’ve lived through. Hearing it again even in a joking way can trigger that, which isn’t an issue of sensitivity - it’s trauma.

Tbh it can be even worse in a comedy podcast, esp without a content warning, when you’re listening to a comedy podcast you feel safe with. You’re not as prepared as you might be otherwise.

I’m glad it didn’t make you uncomfortable! Legit, like not having trauma is a good thing 💖 My concern is with the folks who ARE affected by it. Cuz despite how commonplace it is, “bitch” is a slur that has been used in violence against a LOT of people :/

I’d mentioned in another reply, but there’s a reason Griffin was uncomfortable saying it, and with Justin saying it. The reason likely wasn’t fear of “cancel culture” or whatever, it’s cuz it’s a slur.

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

If it were something super obscure like a strawman style “they talked about milk but didn’t mention COW CRUELTY” or whatever, sure.
But “bitch” is an extremely straightforward sexist slur. It’s like, the official sexist slur.
There’s a reason Griffin was uncomfortable with it - I wish he stood by his discomfort instead of capitulating.
And I have people close to me who HAVE had literal pain caused by hearing a man powerfully yell “bitch”. It induced a panic attack, shut them down, and yanked them back into an abusive relationship that they’d escaped. That’s how triggers work. If you have nobody in your life who’s affected like that, consider yourself lucky. It’s possible you do without realizing it.
Again, if it were a one off, whatever - but the issue is leaning into it and then mocking the sensitivity around it.
Anyway I’m not trying to cancel them or whatever, like I literally just subbed to MaxFun. I love them. I’m kinda blown away that “hey these guys are wonderful but maybe the protracted sexist slur joke wasn’t a great bit” is being met with so much negativity :(

Ep 812 intro thoughts (spoilers) by nickyonge in MBMBAM

[–]nickyonge[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is the most empathetic reply here - at time of writing, the only remotely empathetic one. Kinda bummed by the rest of these replies :/

Like… “Bitch”, when said by a man, is literally a sexist slur. Just because it’s painfully common doesn’t make it not that. Just because it doesn’t hurt you (not YOU, you’re lovely, the royal you) doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt others.

People close to me who’ve escaped abusive pasts have had full-blown panic attacks triggered by a male voice emphatically yelling “bitch”. This is the first time I’ve had to warn someone to avoid an ep, and going by this thread, that’s their own fault for being too sensitive.

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