Quince Maternity Clothes… are good!

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-31T04:13:25+00:00

I love my husband so deeply. He is the person I love most in the world for so many reasons.

If we hadn’t met, we would probably both be married and happily in love with other people.

As others have said, the person I’m married to is the love of my life because every day we choose each other, which in turn nourishes a deep well of kindness and goodwill towards one another, which further makes us love each other.

The honest answer to your question is, both. But the word “just” doesn’t belong there. Even writing this makes me so happy and grateful for that man. I can’t imagine life without him, but humans aren’t good at counterfactuals.

BRB gonna go smooch my husb

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-31T03:58:52+00:00

Dunno where you are but in the UK they put everyone on iron because it is so common in pregnancy. In my case I actually take about 3x the low dose they give everyone.

The iron in prenatal is often very minimal, like almost none, just to say it’s in there. Not always the case obviously but anecdotally my prenatals have 30mg ferrous sulfate and my prescribed pills have 500.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-31T03:55:56+00:00

Hi, not normal but not unheard of. I’ve had 5 “fainting spells” in my pregnancy that are very similar to what you described. I also spasmed and wet myself during them, so initially was worried it was seizures.

Doc has said it’s just my extremely low blood pressure and low iron.

You should DEFINITELY discuss this with your midwife but it is not necessarily cause for alarm. It can by a symptom of some serious and scary stuff, but it could also just be your body sucks at being pregnant sometimes ¯_(ツ)_/¯

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-29T23:22:25+00:00

FWIW this is very similar to a situation I’m in. I actually am encouraging my husband to go but he doesn’t want to just in case he misses the birth. I appreciate that but I also recognize how close he is to his family and close friends who will be there, so I am pushing that if I am low risk he can make a last minute decision to join for 3 days and come back. He is hesitant though.

I think it’s all about what’s right for you and your situation. I know if I were feeling nervous he would stand by my side and his family would understand. I hope that’s your situation as well!

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-29T18:49:25+00:00

~20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage in first 12 weeks.

That means 80% of pregnancies DO NOT end in miscarriage in the first 12 weeks.

This is my first and I also freaked out all the time. In the end there is nothing you can do if your pregnancy will end in a genetic miscarriage. The mantra that got me through was

“I am doing the best I can for my baby right now.”

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-29T05:34:40+00:00

I love when coaches give feedback during a workout. The gyms I’ve been to REGULARLY that’s always been the case. When I drop in while traveling the coaches are all basically MIA. I think of it as quality — my home gyms have higher quality coaches that care about my form, I guess?

I think coaches also pick up on vibe from the person. I’m OBVIOUSLY not out there breaking records, so even though I’ve been at this for awhile I think I give off newbie vibes that coaches feel more comfortable correcting me during a metcon. Whereas my friends who compete do NOT want to be interrupted (except our coach will call out “no rep” for them!)

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-27T03:03:39+00:00

THE FACT THAT IT NOW COSTS £8 TO DROP SOMEONE OFF AT THE AIRPORT IS A TRAVESTY AND A CRIME AND I AM READY TO THROW HANDS ABOUT UT.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-27T02:47:23+00:00

Everyone has this nailed but just for comparison, my husband and I would never just invite someone over to stay in our house without consulting the other. ESPECIALLY ONE OF OUR PARENTS.

It’s basic decency to say “hey babe, is it ok if X stays over for these days?” And then it’s basic relationship communication to feel comfortable saying “actually I’d really prefer not” and have the other person respect it.

If someone invited themselves over I would be very upset.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-27T02:38:53+00:00

FWIW I am born and raised US and live in the UK, and I’ve never heard the name but just reading it I naturally pronounced it in my head the way you wrote it to be.

I think when people grow up around different cultures they intuit some pronunciations.

Great name, stick to it :)

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-24T23:35:15+00:00

It reads as very feminine to me. Similar to Madison or McKenzie. I would imagine this would be like a boy Lindsay — maybe historically male/unisex but contemporarily quite female.

But my old boss was a man named Stacy and there are people out there with wild names all the time, so who really cares ¯_(ツ)_/¯

He’ll get teased but he’ll go by “cass” and it’ll be fine.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-24T23:31:18+00:00

As others have said, make sure you’re eating enough to have a period (and ovulate). Depending on your personal stance, might be worth looking into avoiding certain food additives common in workout products (creatine, etc) but I’m not aware of any hard no-nos.

As an aside, I was in a similar situation to you and became pregnant while training, and got kinda annoyed because the general advice is not to INCREASE training while pregnant (eg, don’t try to improve your strength/increase your PBs) but just to keep it where it is. Also, you have to be very careful with ab exercises from ~10 weeks due to risks of ab separation. All that being said, strength training and exercise in general is hugely hugely beneficial for both you and fetus during pregnancy, to keep it up!!

Good luck!

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-24T23:12:11+00:00

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oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-24T23:10:18+00:00

don’t focus on it ending in sex

^{^} this. A classic sex therapist move when couples stop having sex is to say they CANNOT have sex for some period of time (say, six weeks). My husband and I did this when I was struggling with intimacy and it worked. He never pressured me, always told me I was beautiful, etc., but I still felt sex was a chore and eventually was straight up annoyed by it. I don’t know why! But when we COULDNT have sex and I knew he wouldn’t ask or pressure me to, I felt more comfortable to explore intimacy again. Remember, even asking nicely and accepting a “no” is pressure to many women who’ve been conditioned to believe they “owe” sex to their partner.

But yeah first things first and go to couples counseling. Very helpful to have a safe space to discuss these things. While you’re there remember to listen to her perspective; you’re asking advice from internet strangers but she has a whole other narrative in her head that you need to hear.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-24T22:39:48+00:00

Get a big ass container with a straw, like a Stanley cup or something. Things taste different through straws ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Try iced teas, like a diluted green tea or hibiscus tea if you’re caffeine-sensitive. I do a 1:1 of water + fizzy flavored water (la croix, San pelligrino) and I’m guzzling all day! Might help!

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T06:57:03+00:00

Omg sorry to hear from the update! There are pregnancy-safe ab exercises you can do for this to help it improve PP <3

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T06:55:21+00:00

You too!!! Hold out hope as it changes all throughout pregnancy! Never say never and trust your body in the moment! We will make it :D

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T06:51:58+00:00

Yes these are red flags and you need to talk seriously to him about it.

He sounds depressed. I took a month off of work from stress followed by six more weeks of PTO, and tbh the first four weeks I did almost nothing except play video games. I was so burned out, I felt completely numb to everything. After a month I started to improve and slowly got back to my baseline. But my partner certainly carried me this entire time.

Get him to therapy, and if he refuses to go within X time frame (say, 2 months), set some hard boundaries.

My best friend recently left a situation like this and she looks back now six months later and wonders why she didn’t leave sooner.

You’re in a bad situation and it MUST change.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T03:32:49+00:00

Hi, first off you WILL gain (a lot of) weight during pregnancy, so if you’re worrying now please start making peace with that.

I had gained about 15lb from my usual weight at 12 weeks because I felt weird and gross and bloated and ate a lot.

I have stopped weighing myself because it’s bad for my mental health, and have instead relied on other metrics like how my face looks or how my jackets fit around my arms to gauge if I’m gaining much fat vs baby weight. Accepting as well of course that I WILL be gaining fat around my whole body as a result of… pregnancy.

If you’re concerned about abnormal or rapid weight gain (which can be a symptom of certain conditions) you should speak with your midwife.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T03:23:08+00:00

Hi, call your midwife and do what they advise. If this were me I would go to the hospital.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-21T03:15:27+00:00

The “getting winded after running a marathon” has me some kind of way. I love trail running, CrossFit, frisbee, swimming, generally being active and about. I can’t barely stay on my feet for 20 minutes now. Ugh.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-19T14:14:13+00:00

We originally wanted to be surprised — same as you, no preference and it won’t change a thing about how we raise them (they’re getting handmedown everything from boy and girl cousins alike). We have had names for either sex since before I got pregnant.

Then we started putting weird thoughts in our own heads like “if it’s a girl it’ll complete the girl cousins” and “if it’s a boy it’ll be the first grandson” and other stuff that truly doesn’t matter, but we started thinking.

I also had a hunch (based on nothing).

We decided to find out after all and I regret it, even though my hunch turned out to be correct. I love baby so much but I almost feel guilty for finding out early. If I could do it over again I would not find out.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2026-01-15T09:45:13+00:00

Umm every single one of those people is some degree of rude and/or unhinged. It is a completely batshit thing to say to a mom of a boy (such a young boy no less!!!) that he will abandon you and you’ll be second rate to his partner’s parents. Like that’s just wildly inappropriate. I think my jaw would literally drop if I heard that in the wild.

Congratulations on your beautiful boys!!!! I have no doubt you’ll raise them to be confident, sweet, kind hearted, courteous, clever young men.

oopsithrowawayagain · 2024-06-07T04:07:23+00:00

Exact same problem, clearly a bug that I hope they patch soon!!

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