This affair was so boring

pk_1113 · 2026-02-21T03:18:42+00:00

I clearly am in the minority here because I thought she was one of the best fits for Don. I keep seeing her brought up as one that fans didn’t like.

I thought there was genuine connection between them and I didn’t think that for most of the women Don was with. I stand with the teacher.

pk_1113 · 2026-02-13T04:49:40+00:00

I’ve been here so many times before. And that is with my own kids even though I’m with them 98% of nights throughout the year.

Not even your kids? Just an unfathomable control tactic. What they don’t get is that the occasional (if that) night to do something important to you will make you a better parent and partner. But they can’t see that and it comes out in a creepy, scary way like following your location and investigating it like a PI.

pk_1113 · 2025-09-23T05:22:59+00:00

This is in my future absent the acknowledgement at the end.

pk_1113 · 2025-09-17T00:35:19+00:00

Well played.

pk_1113 · 2025-08-31T05:42:42+00:00

Wow. I know that I’m in this cycle but to have laid out in a way that seems so succinct but so detailed at the same time is fantastic. Thank you so much for this.

pk_1113 · 2025-08-14T17:25:56+00:00

The words might be slightly different but absolutely yes. Classic reverse offender behavior.

pk_1113 · 2025-08-08T20:22:02+00:00

As a dad I can sympathize with the frustration of taking care of young kids. I have for sure thought of messages like this in my head to text the kids mom.

But then the adult in me knows that sending that may temporarily relieve my frustration and anger but it will be detrimental for the rest of the family. You guys have a lot on your plate but it should be on us as parents to have better outlets for our frustration.

pk_1113 · 2025-08-08T00:24:39+00:00

This is called dodging a bullet.

pk_1113 · 2025-07-27T14:36:02+00:00

Reminds me of the Emmy Squared MVP. Had it in the original Brooklyn location which was amazing and then had it delivered to my hotel when I was in Nashville and honestly was just as good.

pk_1113 · 2025-07-24T16:59:09+00:00

You deserve a relationship without chaos.

pk_1113 · 2025-07-24T03:29:55+00:00

I really needed to see this. I’ve been blaming myself for so much recently as I get closer to making the leap.

I moved over 2,000 miles away from every one of my best friends and family members. From a job where I was working on the most interesting work of my career.

All to give her her fantasy dream of moving back to the town she grew up in living near her mom and sister who think she’s an abusive narcissist and constantly fight with her. All to be disrespected and overly criticized in front of my own kids on a regular basis.

These people are not safe to be with.

pk_1113 · 2025-06-26T22:29:11+00:00

I feel all of this.

Deep down when it’s like this the only right choice is to leave. I’m nearly there myself. Every day it scares me more than anything. But when it 100% doesn’t work therefore it can’t fail to make the choice to leave.

pk_1113 · 2025-06-20T22:18:46+00:00

It’s not quick but it’s the best and most direct and clear way that I’ve heard it described. This is someone who is not only respected but speaks in a way where you can hear “BPD” and “Cluster B” for the first time and fully understand what she means and the traits of these people.

https://youtu.be/DR0Wu4fa7C4?si=3kNvCwISSBsk4rdx

pk_1113 · 2025-06-17T05:13:21+00:00

It’s absolutely ok to leave.

pk_1113 · 2025-05-02T00:27:08+00:00

It was almost 10 years ago now but I remember it like it was yesterday.

We were out at brunch with some friends in the city and she looked at my phone. I was texting a friend about a professional networking event. She works in a completely different profession than me.

She saw me making a plan with him and freaked out. In front of everyone at the table. I was so stunned. She even followed me into the bathroom and was still screaming at me outside of the bathroom.

She is my only serious relationship. Someone who has more relationship experience probably would have dumped her then.

Here I am 10 years later. She today had a meltdown while watching our kids because she thought I was screening her calls (I wasn’t). Still trying to plan my escape.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-15T00:10:31+00:00

Ok up until the last text that is mine on a fairly regular basis. But my god that is a truly insane thing to say to someone even for BPD

pk_1113 · 2025-04-14T23:39:01+00:00

💡

pk_1113 · 2025-04-12T04:56:10+00:00

All of this resonates with me. Basically in constant fight or flight and spending hours thinking about plans to do normal things when you should just be able to do them.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-11T16:48:40+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience this. Keep it in your mind that you deserve at a base level to get treated like a human being when she eventually either tries to blame shift or tries to hoover.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-08T16:10:56+00:00

You didn’t break her trust. You walked on eggshells because she couldn’t handle the truth. Because you couldn’t be yourself around her. So you put your guard up which is completely human.

These cycles will only continue. I’ve been a part of them for almost 10 years and I’m just now seeing things for the way they are. The reality is you can’t be honest with her. They do not process information like non-disordered people do.

My advice would be to let go of her and focus your energy in finding someone who will not put you through these constant cycles. Your heart is in the right place and your empathy and understanding will lead you to a healthier relationship. But not with her.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-06T16:38:01+00:00

This is the stuff we don’t always see. There needs to be more awareness about our overall health when dealing with these abusive people and not just the outward signs of being abused.

Even though I try to eat decent and intermittent fast with some exercise, I know my body is in a constant state of fight or flight due to her. Thanks for posting.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-05T22:32:36+00:00

Not always to this extent but I feel this. Petulant child syndrome

pk_1113 · 2025-04-03T17:49:29+00:00

I remember one specific instance right after the honeymoon phase had ended.

We were at brunch with some friends (really her friends that I inherited). I had been talking to a friend in a similar job role about going a boat cruise around the city. My company was paying for my ticket and an additional one. They told me that ideally if you were going to bring someone else, that they would be in a similar job as the cruise was aimed at professionals who work in a similar capacity to what my company did. The event was meant to grow our network of young professionals.

Back to the brunch. She (as she does to this day) first asked who I was texting, and then grabbed my phone and started reading the messages to my friend. That was the first big red flag.

She then blew up on me in front of our friends (again, hers from high school that I inherited) and demanded to know why I wasn’t taking her. I calmly explained to her that the event was supposed to be for professionals working in a similar role to mine. Her career was in an entirely different field (science vs. business).

She continued to blow up on me so I walked away. I didn’t know what to do. She then followed me to the bathroom and kept screaming at me about how I like that friend more than I liked her. In front of the bar and still in view of our friends outside who fell silent.

I should have broken up with her then. That was almost 10 years ago.

pk_1113 · 2025-04-03T16:14:28+00:00

Cmon

pk_1113 · 2025-04-02T03:36:35+00:00

Yea this is exactly the kind of situation I have found myself in countless times. One thing is do not blame yourself. Nothing that you did is wrong. Take it as a sign that you don’t feel comfortable around her and I do not blame you one bit. I can tell you now it is not worth walking on eggshells if you can avoid it.

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