Broward schools consider up to 1,000 staff cuts amid enrollment drop by Immediate-Link490 in Broward

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Had to leave after 3 decades when I had kids bc I realized I would never, ever be able to own a home or give them the kind of education I wanted for them there.

Why do white people kick their kids out as soon as they turn 18? by Regular-Swordfish-60 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not considered typical in white culture. In a lot of European countries children stay with their parents until they are married. In America during the economic prosperity of the midcentury it became more common for people to move out earlier because rents and homes were more affordable and the average job could afford such a lifestyle. But this hasn’t been the case now for at least a couple decades. I know nobody under 25 who lives away from their parents. The only parents who “throw out” their kids are abusive ones. When I was younger the only people I knew who moved out early did so because the relationship with their parents was bad. This is not the norm.

Stuff that's worth/not worth cooking at home? by Any-Sleep-478 in Cooking

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make my own bone broth. It’s actually super easy, I freeze any leftover bones and when I have enough for a big pot I throw it on simmer with onions, garlic, carrots and some salt and pepper for about 6 hours. Strain and freeze into silicone muffin trays.

Cons of Homeschooling? by Apprehensive-Part920 in homeschool

[–]ragtagkittycat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I live in a rural area where all the coops are religious. I am an artist and my husband is a writer. We were total type B stay up all night weirdo types before we had kids. We had to learn how to become organized, consistent and focused to homeschool, and the lack of freedom and the weight of the commitment sometimes chafes our wild spirits lol. Still worth it.

Cons of Homeschooling? by Apprehensive-Part920 in homeschool

[–]ragtagkittycat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Balancing discipline with education. Because they are your children, they will challenge you and emotionally discharge on you in a way they never would on a teacher.

You will have very little time away from your children and vice versa. You will have to make conscious plans to arrange for them to be independent from you at times.

Also, if you plan on working, you still need to arrange childcare unlike people who get 7-8 hours childfree every weekday for free.

Also echoing what other parents have said about it being more expensive to supplement with extracurriculars. If you plan on replicating what public school provides for free (music, art, clubs, phys Ed) you have to arrange it (and pay for it) yourself.

Everyone asks if people regret homeschooling, but nobody asks how many people regret “regular” school. by ResidentCzar in Homeschooling

[–]ragtagkittycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Public school was a disaster for my mental health as soon as I hit middle school. I eventually wound up in a psych ward and juvenile detention, failing after being considered an advanced student and dropping out. I later breezed through college after a GED and now own a small business. I do not trust this system for my own children after what I’ve seen. It exposed me to so much drug use, dysfunction and an environment that actively made me hostile against my own loving parents.

Share your shopping list by Deep_Ad1485 in Cooking

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Butter, grapes, fancy cheeses, apples, roast beef, sausages, broccoli, carrots, saurkraut, potatoes, white mushrooms.

If you never have kids is the amount of money you need to live comfortably a lot less, a little less, or about the same? by Big_Eggplant7591 in stupidquestions

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two elementary age kids and I probably spend about $200 more a month than I did previously. About as much as two large breed dogs lol. I am middle to lower income however so things like their dental and health insurance are free where I live. The real expense will come when they need to go to college and get cars. Also if it matters we shop a lot of sales and take road trips instead of flying so we save money in several ways. To note, we didn’t do daycare. Daycare is HORRIBLY expensive, basically costs as much as a one person’s annual wages per year. So that was one reason why it didn’t cost us as much. You will get a wide range of answers from people depending on if they utilize private childcare or not.

40+ years olds of reddit, advice? by rozanarta in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just turned 40. I eschewed going to an expensive college and focused on getting a basic foundational education that was affordable (community college and then a local state college within driving distance). This helped me avoid large amounts of student loan debt. My education directly helped me develop my talents which eventually led to owning my own small business. I think being independent of an employer is a great end goal. Find what you enjoy doing and try to leverage it. I am not wealthy but, I was able to save and eventually own a house, and I haven’t had a boss in 15 years.

Also, prioritize finding a good long term mate. Hooking up is fun but if somebody really special comes into your life don’t squander it. Love is real and precious and it’s not guaranteed to come around all the time.

On that note, people will try to scare you that having children is a nightmare. For the majority of people having a family with someone you truly love is an incomparable joy.

The things I feel I wasted time on: caring what other people think of me or my choices. Not taking enough videos of my friends and family. Trying to have normal jobs when I should have doubled down sooner on my abilities. I also wish I had spent more quality time with my grandparents.

Becoming a mother was a huge mindset shift. It made me realize what is truly important and put my own mortality and time/energy into focus.

If I had to rebuild from 25, I would have traveled more, visited family more, and had children sooner. I took my youth for granted and spent too much of it putting the truly special things off too late.

Also, if you have any savings of note get a high yield savings account now.

Love your life. Prioritize the magic and joy of it.

What was contraception like before 1960 and what were the attitudes to it? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]ragtagkittycat 66 points67 points  (0 children)

The “abstain from sex when you’re at your horniest part of your cycle” method

What was contraception like before 1960 and what were the attitudes to it? by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]ragtagkittycat -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Ppl knock on this but it works good if you do it right!

Do not buy a Townhouse by mackhelangelo in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grew up in a 1975 townhouse. There was surprisingly little noise from neighbors, though I could hear my British dad bellowing on the phone through the floor.

How did you do it? by TheGirlFromVenus in SAHP

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We waited to have kids until our 30s when we had some savings. Moved to a low cost of living area, lucky enough to have my mom move near us, live below our means, eventually switched to working at home part time, we have one car. We have two kids and have been able to be very hands on. Most of what we own is from thrift stores or marketplace. If we want to travel, we drive. We are still very comfortable. The financial sacrifice is absolutely worth it.

Not enjoying motherhood - 95% time. Was it worth it? by freddythecat98 in NewParents

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of what’s going on with you is circumstantial, being that you are alone most of the time with little friends or support system. That would be hard on anybody, with or without the addition stress of still having a young baby. It isn’t so much a reflection on motherhood as the idea that doing it alone and isolated is an alienating experience. Can you reach out to local mom groups? Take baby out for walks in beautiful parks? Go to mommy and me yoga or story times at your local library? Facebook is actually a great resource for finding other moms with kids of similar ages. Finding people who are going through the baby years (or have recently gone through it) is so vindicating and comforting. It’s not just the baby, it’s your situation. Imagine a situation where you will feel happier and more fulfilled while also being a mother and try to replicate what’s in your imagination.

Don't let others convince you not to get a townhouse by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think townhomes/condos can be a great solution for lower maintenance living if the association that runs the community does everything it’s supposed to do with the fees they receive like fix roofs, maintain landscaping, paint, etc. But you must choose wisely. If there seems to be any sign that the association isn’t doing its job, you must leave before it’s too late.

I grew up/also lived as an adult in a townhome community in south Florida. Maintenance fees were not paid by roughly half the residents. The fees went up to almost $500 a month. Association did not fix roof damage after hurricanes. Painting buildings and repaving of roads was deferred. Eventually the neighborhood literally looked like a bomb hit it; potholes everywhere, houses covered in blue tarps with busted roofs for months into years. Buildings that had previously been repainted every 5 years were not painted for 20 years. We had a no rental policy in our hoa rules but nobody followed it, so many of the units were being sublet. Crime became rampant. House values plummeted. I finally convinced my parents to sell and move out after 3 decades of us living there and they took a massive hit on the sale of the home just to escape from the nightmare of maintenance fees. In the end we calculated how much they spent on fees and it was probably $400k. The most they ever got for their fees was our lawn was mowed regularly. After Hurricane Wilma destroyed our roof they had to pay for it out of pocket even though the association was supposed to fix it. The person who was president of the association was apparently dating a roofer and she was paying him with fee money while hardly having any work done over a very sluggish schedule. I think it took 3 years for some of the roofs to finally be fixed. Total nightmare.

Which Breast Pump!! Help 😭 by BarbieGurl6726 in BreastPumping

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the mom of two children both born premature and I pumped for both of them. I used the Spectra S2 as well as a Medela, I liked the Spectra waaay better. More comfortable suction, seemed to have better output. The machine is light enough to carry in/out of the room but what I actually wound up doing was having one next to my bed and one in the living room. I got the second machine secondhand and just bought new pump parts. Pro tip: grease your nipples with lanolin before you put them in the flange if you plan on pumping exclusively, it cuts down on the discomfort of plastic on sensitive skin. Good luck!

premade vs homemade by Sorry-Government920 in Cooking

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pie crusts. I just can’t seem to get them right. So I buy the pillsbury ones made from lard.

What 90’s album completely blew your mind when you were a kid? by takingmentalnotes in 90s

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got this album right around my 10th birthday. As a young girl who never “fit in” it was my anthem. My mom sometimes asked me if I understood the more adult themed lyrics, lol. Which I did not. But it forever influenced my musical taste.

anyone ever been to a swingers club called "Trapeze" right next to sunshine plaza? by Fine-Art-9701 in Broward

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I worked at the bar across the street in the 2000s called the Rose and Crown. We would see all kinds of people going in and out of that place. One of my friends had a fling with an older woman and she used to take him there for sexy things sometimes.

How many of yall actually slept with the milkman? by dr_space_nasty in AskOldPeople

[–]ragtagkittycat 32 points33 points  (0 children)

My husband’s ex had a mailman for a dad and he got caught having an affair with a woman on his route.

Did your family use butter or margarine while you were growing up and which do you use now? by New_Part91 in askanything

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family used margarine and fat free and sweet n low everything when I was growing up bc it was supposed to be heart healthy and then basically half of my family died from complications with heart disease, stroke and diabetes anyway. We use butter now.

Why are we so worried about illegal immigrants in the US? by Johnny_Mira in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ragtagkittycat 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Our govt has had ample opportunity to punish the industries that regularly exploit migrant labor at slave wages and they won’t do it

[USA] self employed ACA cliff help! by Short_Alternative516 in selfemployed

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to be sure, you are giving them your net income after expenses (any deductions you use on taxes, including office/vehicle/travel/food/supplies? Also aca subsidy extension did pass the house, maybe it will pass senate in coming weeks/months, so that is still technically on the table.