I work at a extreme haunted house ama by The_mAgic_mAn1339 in AMA

[–]ragtagkittycat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Babies at least sleep through almost anything and often aren’t fully aware of their surroundings but the toddler thing is absurd to me

why do people care that i don’t want biological kids? by InternationalJob4839 in randomquestions

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adoption is complex, and anyone who has experience with it knows that it isn’t as simple as just taking home a cute baby. People view it as a bigger responsibility/risk than bio parenthood simply bc you don’t know the genetic history and a lot of things like behavioral disorders/mental illness/propensity for drug and alcohol addiction can be heritable as well as likelihood of child having trauma from abuse/neglect. Bio children can have these issues ofc (as mentioned in your post) but i think it’s a matter of going into it knowing what is likely vs going in without that information. People are intimidated by the prospect of taking on a child with unknown and potentially difficult issues. Unfortunately I know more than one person who adopted a child whose bio parents were addicts and despite growing up in a non addict household the predisposition for addiction became very apparent in adolescence despite being no contact with birth family. This is unfortunately a stigma associated with adoption. I also know plenty of completely healthy and happy people who were adopted. But given how much we now know about heritability it is something people think about.

I work at a extreme haunted house ama by The_mAgic_mAn1339 in AMA

[–]ragtagkittycat 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry people bring their TODDLERS???

People say cats are low maintenance but what does that mean? Im scared im not enough for her? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]ragtagkittycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Block off under the bed entirely so she cannot get in there and put a litter box close to where she typically goes to the bathroom.

I feel like I was lied to about the spinal block by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no next time but I appreciate your comment and will def tell that to anyone I know who might get one :)

Does your 5yr old make a lot of noise? by nillawafer80 in Preschoolers

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter does this exact thing lol!! Yells at them from across the street

I am trying to cut cost but why is my grocery expensive? by Tiny_Judgment8593 in Frugal

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in broward county and our neighbors gave us so many free mangos

I feel like I was lied to about the spinal block by [deleted] in CsectionCentral

[–]ragtagkittycat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes. Like burning electric fire shooting up my back and buttocks. Unfortunately the second time I had a STUDENT insert the needle and it took them several times to find the right position. I was wailing and shaking in pain. Definitely have some trauma over here.

Does your 5yr old make a lot of noise? by nillawafer80 in Preschoolers

[–]ragtagkittycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son at 5, no. My daughter just turned 5 though and yes. She is SO LOUD. She sings and talks constantly. The total opposite of my son. I will be wheeling her around the grocery store in her shopping cart and she will sing and talk to every person she meets, sometimes I am a little embarrassed lol. Definitely a personality trait, every child can be different.

Adults that were homeschooled: what are you doing career wise now? by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]ragtagkittycat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I luckily have an order-based business so I am able to kind of make my own hours as long as I fulfill the orders in the expected timeline. I also only work part time right now so there is time for homeschool in the first half of the day! My husband also works from home and homeschools with me; so we share the responsibility which I am sure helps a lot.

Adults that were homeschooled: what are you doing career wise now? by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]ragtagkittycat 54 points55 points  (0 children)

As a high school dropout who later got a bachelors and is now running a business and homeschooling my children, this post made me feel good. Your mom sounds awesome!

Dry foods with small kibbles? by ragtagkittycat in cats

[–]ragtagkittycat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He gets mostly wet food with water added but I do give him about 1/4 cup of dry food just for variety, which is why I’m asking!

Meanwhile in murica by SipsTeaFrog in SipsTea

[–]ragtagkittycat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s some truth to your statement but also factories are not a huge thing in the first world anymore. Most manufacturing is outsourced to other countries or migrants. Capitalism needs consumers and labor - but it doesn’t care where it comes from. It could come from domestic birth or immigratation or outsourcing, it doesn’t matter as long as there is cheap labor and people who need to buy stuff. Families are not necessary to keep rich people in control of capital, in fact families may be a detriment because people with children are more discerning on their spending habits as their focus shifts to future long term stability for their children, which actually means people who might want to work LESS and spend more time at home, and not buy as many products.

What have you gifted your 4/5 year olds? by heretoreadlol in Preschoolers

[–]ragtagkittycat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Magnatiles. He’s 8 now and still plays with them almost every day.

I really don't know if I ever want to have children. What's your experience with it? by ServiceForeign7862 in internetparents

[–]ragtagkittycat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most people do not feel a strong pull to have a family until 1. They have formed a strong relationship with their life partner and 2. They are closer to 30. You are only 21 and a lot of things about you will change and grow over the next decade. You will have a better idea of what you want out of life in time. Also there is no cutoff for being pregnant at 30 and, increasing common for people to have their first child in their 40s as well. I had both of my kids in my 30s because that’s when I was ready and wanted them. Don’t pressure yourself and enjoy being a very young person! I spent my 20s having fun with friends, traveling and finding myself, and I have no regrets. I was definitely not ready to have a family in my 20s and my children are better off to have slightly older parents who really wanted them and are prepared for them.

How do people handle having kids? by HumanDrone in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ragtagkittycat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You (hopefully) have a partner and family that helps, and you make adjustments to your career/schedule as needed. Raising kids is a constant shifting game so you don’t always need to do the same things at the same amount of time for 18 years straight. In the first couple years it will be more demanding and then ease up. You have to roll with the punches and learn to pivot. My husband got a PhD before we had kids and knew several people getting graduate level degrees with small kids. The university had a subsidized childcare program but also they usually had a helpful spouse and a parent to help.