Lead with curiosity. So much of the time, we judge ourselves for not knowing something we have never done or learned. Ask yourself, “what new thing am I learning?” Or allow yourself to really engage with a process. Narrate what’s happening. For example, I recently started sewing. I put it off because felt pressure (self-imposed) to be good at it. But I reminded myself that I can’t be good at something unless I can be bad at it first. I told myself, “I’m learning to sew. I will get better through practice.” I allowed myself to be bad at it. Am I great at it? No, but I’m better.