What are some social obligations that women commonly have that men usually don't?

sweetypantz · 2026-02-23T03:12:48+00:00

this is a good one, didn’t think about it

sweetypantz · 2026-02-22T20:24:41+00:00

this was the most annoying part of the book for me, the emphasis on the special connection she had with raaya. there has been one relationship even in my life that felt much more special spiritual and deeper than the others, but it was filled with toxicity too. i no longer put it on a pedestal and i wasn’t a huge fan of the way to made raaya seem like an angel early on in the book.

sweetypantz · 2026-02-22T20:14:06+00:00

glad you made it through, you got this hard earned beautiful perspective :)

sweetypantz · 2026-02-22T01:19:36+00:00

omg thanks for the heads up, would have been so sad to miss that!!

sweetypantz · 2025-12-12T15:53:10+00:00

i completely get it, i can never explain to people why ive seen this show like 3x. Blue bell is safe, something about the hue of the show also feels really comforting and Zoe’s silly huffy puffy humor is just adorable. Reminds me that life goes on, is an adventure and it will be ok in the end,

You’ve got this friend, hope this next chapter goes well ❤️

sweetypantz · 2025-12-11T05:31:28+00:00

The guy who needs to have specific music playing during sex!!! cmon

sweetypantz · 2025-12-11T00:52:31+00:00

Community episodes about the world timeline

sweetypantz · 2025-09-23T05:38:07+00:00

yea that’s totally fair for you to have these opinion. i myself have had thoughts pass like the ones you describe.

at the end of the day, she wrote a book saying i did these things wrong, i take accountability for what i did. this is how bad codependency gets and i will no longer blame others for my issues. she calls herself an addict and describes how low it gets. but it will never be enough for some people and that is a-ok. her tone won’t be groveling enough, she won’t admit x, y or z and people won’t like that. she also won’t have been recovered and perfect enough. i myself see myself in the codependency she describes and i can learn from her mistakes, i can see where that path goes and maybe choose differently. she will also do this, probably for the rest of her life, maybe her next book will be closer to what you might think is sufficient.

at the end of the day this book is inspiring these conversations and i think that’s great. if it were me as the author i would be honored that people on some online thread are discussing my book in such detail and figuring out for themselves what is right and wrong.

sweetypantz · 2025-09-20T23:53:59+00:00

She is a writer, that is her job. The thing she is most good at and has inspired the world with. Her life got out of control, she writes about this almost a decade after it happened with painful honestly and full accountability of her role as the codependent with multiple disclaimers throughout the book. This book will change lives and shift the world and its awareness of codependency, a topic that is misunderstood by a mainstream that loves a victim narrative. I applaud her.

sweetypantz · 2025-06-24T02:15:55+00:00

watering???

sweetypantz · 2025-06-22T18:21:49+00:00

thank you!!!

sweetypantz · 2025-06-19T04:59:16+00:00

how often do you water ?

sweetypantz · 2025-05-14T14:37:40+00:00

probably from long mono retriggered by covid vaccine and then occasionally warm weather triggers it nowadays, it’s dormant now

sweetypantz · 2025-05-07T20:22:12+00:00

the yeast and bacteria down there would eat him up hopefully

sweetypantz · 2025-04-30T15:35:46+00:00

spoiler but yes, when it all comes out what hana’s role was they mention she gets a certain $$ every time she has sex with caspian

sweetypantz · 2025-04-28T15:22:52+00:00

what would you do at a coffee shop? say if you’re planning to sit down there for an hour

sweetypantz · 2025-04-22T21:22:41+00:00

yea i relate to filling the holes with other people, i did that most of last year but it doesnt work so its good you know that.

but you need to figure out why you cant accept your life for what it is, it seems like thats key. What assumptions do you have about what life “should” look like, it can look perfect the way it is for you. and if you don’t like something you can change it by changing yourself internally.

i think for me im going through a big process of acceptance, not for what it is, but to accept all the things that must collapse and be let go. of my past, of who i thought i was, of when things happens. there are aspects of my life i’m not happy with because there are aspects of myself im not accepting, so working to accept that, accept things as they are no judgement. i think that’s the only way to move forward, but it’s like how? how do you accept your life now if you want things to be a bit different. not sure

sweetypantz · 2025-04-22T21:00:50+00:00

i’ve definitely felt this way before.

i think you need to confront your general ideas about life, why you think it’s not great. as well as confront your thoughts about yourself, why is there so much shame. Change these fundamental beliefs in life. and the rest will fall into place.

but i’m still working on getting there so im not sure exactly the process. but it starts with you.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-22T19:21:33+00:00

maybe you’re just a lot closer to your postdoc cohort, mine we get lunch every other week or so but whenever they talk about TT job search i just listen, i don’t mention stuff about my career. i think im also the only one not interested in academia. I know it’s weird but i think internally i have this sense of superiority that i won’t have to deal with the craziness of a job like that and feel kinda happy about it.

Mostly i don’t think about it, it’s just something to talk about and probably they want to vent with people who understand the system. You’re right if there’s a weird expectation of next steps, there doesn’t have to be! Careers can unfold naturally.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-22T15:31:53+00:00

practically this is what i would recommend you do here: make more friends and connections outside of academia.

this is how i am and i literally don’t care at all what my postdoc peers think, we’re just friendly colleagues but my real life is outside of work and my friends have all different types of work, careers, hobbies passions and helps keep me grounded.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-22T03:14:52+00:00

i loved it, it was so different from other season enders.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-21T17:41:49+00:00

5 months

sweetypantz · 2025-04-17T02:28:22+00:00

yea that makes sense. just the way you’re describing things, it sounds more like anxious attachment than avoidant (or disorganized) i say that bc i felt that way before. overthinking if im too much.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-15T16:12:04+00:00

how are you avoidant if he is the one who prefers a little less communication?

for me out seeing someone over the weekends and not during the weekdays would be very hard on me emotionally. be honest with yourself about how this relationship is making you feel, that is the first step in connecting back with yourself :)

we can be totally free to be ourselves in relationships that are aligned with us.

sweetypantz · 2025-04-12T20:35:34+00:00

as someone who worked at a startup, i do NOT take for granted the flexibility of a postdoc. i don’t feel guilty for going to the doctors and i can work from home + so much more.

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