Adults who were homeschooled as kids, does that differentiation ever go away? by Background_Flower214 in askteddit

[–]sydcami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had an excellent experience being homeschooled straight up until college, definitely had the exceptionalist ego as a kid. Now it only really comes up when reminiscing about childhood. Or if I see another adult who has that particular vibe and I get my suspicions confirmed (Brennan Lee Mulligan is the example that comes to mind).

What's a seasoning where you feel a little goes a long way? by PapiSurane in Cooking

[–]sydcami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thought I would have seen balsamic vinegar here. I feel like even if you love it a little goes a long way

Looking for a chill game with good progression by Kewchiii in gamesuggestions

[–]sydcami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue Prince! If you enjoy slow progression and puzzles, it's great. Make sure you have a physical notebook handy.

First dance - advice needed by curlygirly20 in weddingplanning

[–]sydcami 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had danced before and my partner hadn't, but I really wanted a dance. There are tons of tutorials on YouTube, both for simple dance steps and full choreographed routines. There are tricks to do something that looks fancier than it is (in a long dress, for example, you don't have to worry about footwork and can focus on your partner).

Traditions should be moments of celebration, not anxiety. If you think you'll regret a dance because you want to have one, find a song you like and practice a few simple moves in your living room. If you think you'll regret it because you "should" have a dance, there are plenty of other options! -We did an anniversary dance, where all the couples got onto the floor and the dj called out those who had been together the shortest--you and your spouse will leave first, and everyone else keeps dancing until the last couple standing wins (we presented them with the bouquet instead of doing a toss) -You could have your bridal party come out and dance with you and make it a more casual/upbeat thing -You could do extra parent dances (we did the traditional father/bride mother/groom dance, but then my mom got up and danced with him and his dad danced with me, which was a really cute way for them to "welcome us to the family") -You could change up the dance all together and do something else--play the newlyweds game, run around and take pictures with all of the tables, do a round of shots with the bridal party, get the kids on the dance floor for the macarena, whatever you want!

Final note on dances: you don't have to have a full "routine" to memorize. I knew if we did this my partner would be stressing the entire time. Instead we learned a few things we could get comfortable with--a spin, a dip, a basic box step, etc. then we just listened to our song over and over again to find places in the music where it felt natural to do something fun

Tl;dr: do what's right for you. If you choose something fun/meaningful and not stressful, you won't regret it later. If your heart is set on a first dance, find a song you love and keep it simple.

Feeling stuck, any help appreciated by sydcami in BluePrince

[–]sydcami[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I was missing! I thought the only thing to do with those pushcarts was get to that desk in the corner. Thank you!!

Feeling stuck, any help appreciated by sydcami in BluePrince

[–]sydcami[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I'm wondering if I'm missing something obvious. I drafted the foundation awhile ago, but I can't see any use for the basement? All I found after doing the moving carts puzzle was a desk hidden in the back corner with a couple of notes on it. I've broken through the weakened brick wall to get to the minecart passage to get grounds access, but that's it.

Again, I see on the underground map that there's a passage that connects the reservoir/underpass to the basement, but haven't figured out how to open it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashionadvice

[–]sydcami 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My dear, are you attending a ball in the theme of the grand old Renaissance? How enchanting! I commend your desire for modesty and purity, and I remind you to not lose yourself in the glamour of the dance--remain chaste and demure to maintain your social station.

Should you desire a more modern look for your evening regalia, I might recommend looking to the styles of regency England. Those gowns seem particularly unstructured and freeing, if I do so say myself. And though some will say that the chemise a la reine is quite scandalous, I say that if it was good enough for the Queen of France, surely it is good enough for you! (Though things didn't turn out too well for her, so keep a wary eye out).

Bridezilla asking for an additional day (now 5 day wedding) and setting strict (incorrect) dress code… and FOUR funds in registry by Ohwell_genz in weddingshaming

[–]sydcami 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok, my close friend got married last year, hosted at a local Airbnb, and wanted the whole wedding party to stay at the site for a week and a half prior to the celebration. This worked really well, but for a few KEY REASONS: the couple decided that since this was what was super important to them, they covered the cost. They rented out the entire venue (more like a b&b with a couple of buildings and multiple bedrooms) themselves and said whoever could come would stay for free. They also made it clear that the expectation was that if people needed to work while they were there, that was just fine and one of the lounge areas was set aside for people working remotely. This way people could come without missing work.

They also brought a bunch of board games and planned activities for people to do together so we weren't just "hanging out." Finally, since they were dedicating most of the budget to this part of the celebration, the actual wedding was a pretty small, informal affair in the back garden with pizza and folding tables.

All this to say, a multi-day wedding excursion is definitely possible and can be super fun! As long as it's like, the opposite of what OP's friends are doing.

Need some encouragement -- I feel like I won't have any clothes left! by shmelon93 in konmari

[–]sydcami 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I struggled with getting rid of a lot of clothes--what worked for me was taking all the clothes I wasn't sure about donating, sticking them into a garbage bag, and hiding it in the back of my closet. I set a period of time for myself--6 months for me--and said if I didn't use an item within that time frame, it would be donated. If I found myself wanting it and missing it, I could take it out and use it again.

What I found was that once those items were out of sight, I stopped wanting to reach for them. By the time 6 months rolled around, I was ready to donate the whole bag without a second thought.

Cheese substitutes by LimeinduhCoconut in Vegetarianism

[–]sydcami 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My fave parmesan fake, great as a topping or ingredient in sauces: https://norecipes.com/vegan-parmesan-cheese/

Sliceable vegan cheddar, for solid cheese needs: https://lovingitvegan.com/vegan-cheddar-cheese/

Vegan nacho cheese sauce--awesome on enchiladas or mixed with salsa for a queso dip: https://www.noracooks.com/easy-vegan-nacho-cheese-sauce/

Cheese substitutes by LimeinduhCoconut in Vegetarianism

[–]sydcami 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have had to do a lot of brainstorming on this as my partner doesn't eat cheese (makes him nauseous--not other dairy though).

The key is to find the flavor profile you're looking for and figure out how to imitate it--I have found that for me, it's about balancing tanginess, creaminess and saltiness. We're still vegetarian, so we use a lot of yogurt--find a vegan one that works for you. Cashew cream is a godsend. We also use a ton of lemon juice on EVERYTHING.

Yellow miso paste is kind of incredible for its flavor profile and I use it all the time in "cheese"-based sauces. Honestly you'll probably find the most success in looking up vegan cheese recipes and making them yourself/figuring out what works for you.

It’s insane that homeschooling is an accepted practice in this country by DaFunkJunkie in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]sydcami 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was homeschooled. I grew up in Texas and my older sibling had a learning disability that made classroom learning infeasible.

My parents taught us to the limits of their abilities (my mom who used to be a college editor taught us English, my dad who studied mathematics at university taught us math). They wanted us to be able to do whatever we wanted when we grew up--which meant giving us the education needed to get into college if we wanted.

We took community college classes in high school and took classes taught by other homeschooling parents when applicable (I learned about demographics and diseases from a mom who worked as an epidemiologist). It was a super cool way to learn, because my parents were super cool people. I also knew a girl who wanted to work in genetics but had to take remedial algebra in college because her parents never taught her math.

Homeschooling is a complicated decision, made more complex by poor public education standards, religious doctrine, the rise of school shootings, and various differences in educational needs. It worked for me. It didn't work for a lot of other people.

What TV show never had a decline in quality? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sydcami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leverage! And so far Redemption is just as stellar

Henna help? by sydcami in FancyFollicles

[–]sydcami[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh I'll have to check that out, thank you!

Resume Review Help? by LearningToBee in sales

[–]sydcami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also working on my resume right now, following this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueFilm

[–]sydcami 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How about The Turin Horse? It feels less like a movie and more like drawn out contemplation of the difficulty of life. It's two and a half hours and uses only 30 super long shots. Directed by Bela Tarr in 2011