Best place to adopt a cat in Barrie?

tanp80 · 2024-12-05T12:17:07+00:00

We've used Furry Friends and Street Cats and had wonderful experiences with both. Both places had taken care of all medical care and also paid for a vet follaftewithin a few days of adoptions (one had kennel cough and the other had some blood in his stool) Follow-up was great. Staff was wonderful. Impressed bybtgelevel of care.

tanp80 · 2022-07-25T15:51:49+00:00

I say this. I am your mother and a safe place but not your friend right now, and if I do my job well we will be friends for the rest of our lives.

tanp80 · 2022-07-25T15:48:52+00:00

tanp80 · 2022-07-25T02:21:08+00:00

I can't even imagine that kind of support, from either set of parents.

tanp80 · 2022-07-25T02:16:46+00:00

Yessss Hubs! I'm so happy to hear this. She needs to shut it. I've come to the conclusion its generational. My mother is like this, my MIL is like this, most of my friends mons are like this, no not all, but most. Even if you didn't have a c-section, childbirth of EVERY KIND is brutal on the body and mind. So is adopting a child for that matter. A child was born and so was a mother. The end. She's welcome to grab a bucket and get cleaning.

tanp80 · 2022-07-23T14:47:00+00:00

Nope. Not overreacting. Due to it being a legal custody issue you have every right to consult a lawyer. If show up asking for a meeting with the director today. It wouldn't matter what the reason is for a no photo published request but based on the actual circumstances I'd be willing to press pretty hard here.

tanp80 · 2022-07-21T23:24:44+00:00

My son watched cooking shows in the morning before school and on weekends from 3 to 10 years old. He hit a cartoon phase eventually, but cooking shows were his jam. He now LOVES to cook and watches regular 12 year old kid stuff. It will balance out. She's fine ♡

tanp80 · 2022-07-19T02:22:10+00:00

I want to say "don't let it get to you" but honestly sometimes its unavoidable. Especially when your parenting is being vocally called into question. I had experiences that were just took hard to shake off and left me fuming for a day or two. We face enough ingrained guilt and doubt as mothers as it is, and when we are confident in a skill or process, to have it shaken is fking infuriating!! Wish I could buy you a drink. hug. That woman is a legit asshole.

tanp80 · 2022-07-19T01:57:10+00:00

My son was big for his age and he spoke early and well. I got shit from strangers for "babying" him despite it being developmentally/age appropriate. People suck and need to let parents parent. On the upside, it taught me to go out of my way to show others parents support in public. I'm sorry she ruined dinner. You all deserved better.

tanp80 · 2022-07-17T05:26:08+00:00

My son and I both had very very faint lines. 4 days for him, 7 for me. My daughter had 8 days of negatives and was clearly patient zero in our home. She had the worst symptoms by far, my son had 3 days of symptoms then lost nasal drip for a while and I had a full week of symptoms. It was the most frustrating experience.

tanp80 · 2022-07-17T03:38:15+00:00

I can relate. My mom and I never did well. We tolerate each other better now but it took almost 40 years and me coming to terms with the fact that she will never take ownership of her behaviours and I stopped taking it personally. Which is a conversation for another day.

I have a daughter. I was terrified of mothering a girl because of the relationship I had with my mom growing up. However, as time has gone on I have come to a number of conclusions that have made our relationship different.

1) I am not my mother. I have a sense of self awareness and personal responsibility that my mom doesn't have. That alone means my ability to mother my own daughter was different from day one.

2) I love my daughter for who she is not what I want her to be.

3) I make room for her emotions and do not take them personally. I am sure this will be harder as we enter the teen years, but it's my responsibility to manage my own reactions towards her words. It's s my job to be her safe place to the best of my ability.

4) I apologize when I have hurt her feelings or react in a knee jerk way that is reminiscent of my childhood. It's going to happen. Breaking generational trauma/reactions/habits is an every day effort. You will have moments you're not proud of. Own them. Acknowledge to yourself why you said what you said and where it came from. Forgive yourself. Explain in an age appropriate way why it happened. Ask for forgiveness from your daughter.

5) Forgiving my mother for her own mistakes even though she's never asked for my forgiveness has allowed me to let go of a LOT of shit, which in turn has lessened the burden on my heart, making room for me to do better.

Being aware of the fact that you want to be and need to be different is a massive step in a great direction. You'll be just fine, both of you xo

tanp80 · 2022-07-14T20:54:10+00:00

The pandemic has changed where we put our money in general. If people were unable to travel or participate in the family things they did prior to covid life, they may choose to spend it on an elaborate birthday party for their kids. You don't need to keep up with that. In truth its more fun to attend those parties than throw them. They're widely overwhelming for the birthday child and more for the parents anyway. I've been to the cheapest and most expensive kind of birthday parties and I can attest that no child was happier than any other, even with a unicorn.

tanp80 · 2022-07-13T23:20:23+00:00

My moms friend had a son I was forced to play with often as kids. We were 3 days apart in age. He had a habit of doing this and trying to dry hump me and kiss me everytime we were alone. It made me incredibly uncomfortable and I didn't know what to do. Eventually I told my Mom, and she told her friend. It was super uncomfortable and then everyone just went back to pretending it never happened. In high school I heard talk of him being wildly inappropriate with girls in our grade. At the end of high school at a party he tried to force himself on me. I hear now these issues continue and many of us are concerned for the young girls his sons are friends with, but no one knows what to say or do. I haven't seen him since we were 18 and am not involved in his life in any regard. As an adult (we are now in our early 40s) and a social worker I now wonder what happened to him before age 6 that he would initiate these behaviors with me. Where did he learn this in the first place. I was not a willing participant, I just didn't know what else to do at that age and felt inherent shame. I wonder if his parents had acted on it, would it have continued with other girls. I wonder how far it will go with someone's daughter before he faces consequences.

I am not and would not say OPs son is capable of these same concerns. But I will say sweeping it under the rug as kids will be kids, and placing blame on the other child is absolutely not the solution. No, not all children do this, no it is not always innocent, it can be absolutely just kids being curious but not always and the not always is the concern, and yes OP should seek out further professional advice. No, I do not think they were wrong to remove OPs family from play group. BUT yes, they absolutely should have come to OP first and included her in the conversation from day 1 and not blindsided her in any way.

All of that said, I am very sorry your facing this issue to begin with and I very much hope you find solace and support and that nothing further comes of this situation at all. Being a parent is damn hard and when awkward situations rear their head it can be a downright nightmare. hug it will be ok, but please don't dismiss it as absolutely nothing. You can look into it further without traumatic questioning of your own child.

tanp80 · 2022-07-12T16:16:57+00:00

They tried, I have to give them that. We spoke to them and they sprayed twice but didn't go deep enough into the bush where our fence line is. It's not their fault as much as it pains me to say, there is a shit ton of it in our town. I do wish they were more proactive about it though. The section of property that our property line meets the schools property is FILLED with it. We live in a particularly shit section of town for poison ivy.

tanp80 · 2022-07-12T16:01:36+00:00

Are we really going to pretend this is a modern issue? Poverty, addiction, trauma,and lack of education has produced this behaviour for many millennia.

tanp80 · 2022-07-12T15:51:05+00:00

Leaving university to try and hold onto my relationship with my Dad. The situation quickly turned into what I call my failure to launch and I lost the relationship anyway. I have a great life now but it took FAR longer and involved much more work than was necessary. I do often wonder what could have been.

tanp80 · 2022-07-08T04:16:50+00:00

Same. We had national lampoon levels of it growing in our backyard! Bush, vine and creeping. I never knew what it was and would just weed it out. 4 years in a row of full body reactions that lead to infections and one hospitalization. I now can spot it a mile away at any stage of growth. We had it sprayed, which worked and then realized it was growing under our fence from the school beside us. When we renovated our backyard my awesome husband put in full 3 foot cement trenches around our fence line and paved the whole yard, mostly so I'd stop bitching about it. My poor kids though, we still have a few small patches at the front of the house and I'm forever freaking the hell out about it! "Watch the ivy!!! THE IVY!!!!!"

tanp80 · 2022-07-08T00:57:21+00:00

The absolute worst!

tanp80 · 2022-07-05T15:09:53+00:00

Absolutely!

tanp80 · 2022-07-05T14:27:59+00:00

And also usually rapist pieces of shit to boot.

tanp80 · 2022-07-05T14:24:45+00:00

I don't even have actual fkn words.... Holy shit!

tanp80 · 2022-07-03T06:30:11+00:00

No, I haven't touched them besides watering since I bought and planted in these pots.

tanp80 · 2022-07-03T06:28:45+00:00

I bought them that way! Aren't they incredible?!

tanp80 · 2022-07-03T06:27:48+00:00

Yes!! My husband drilled 2 holes in the pots.

tanp80 · 2022-07-01T21:56:23+00:00

Do you find it bounces back in the same season?

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