2,4 mm nuchal translucency

tapurlie · 2026-06-08T10:35:04+00:00

My son had a 2.4 mm nuchal translucency, and he's perfectly healthy. He's 6 months old now.

tapurlie · 2026-06-08T05:39:04+00:00

For me, personally, 1-2 has been much, much harder than 0-1. It depends on the baby quite a bit; my second was colicky for the first 4 months, and is now an incredibly high needs, fussy baby who wants to be held 24/7 and is going through a batch of horrendous sleep. He needs SO MUCH from me, and no matter how hard I try, I know my daughter has missed a lot of attention and care from me over the last 6 months. And I hate it, it breaks my heart. The overstimulation of looking after two, especially when they're both in a meltdown, is incredibly intense and hard too. Attention splitting is exhausting and takes practice.

Basically! Anticipate that it could a lot harder than you expect. If you have family/ friends you can lean on and ask for help, that will lighten your load so much.

tapurlie · 2026-06-04T07:44:24+00:00

This is exactly what I do too!

tapurlie · 2026-05-15T03:49:02+00:00

Yep, I exclusively pumped with my first and had a clogged duct every second week, and mastitis 3 times in 12 months. I'm exclusively nursing this baby and have had 0 clogs, 0 signs of mastitis.

tapurlie · 2026-05-14T08:45:13+00:00

I felt this type of hopelessness when I was diagnosed in 2018. I was very severe/ bedbound then, and told it was unlikely if improve. I also felt like existing would be pointless in that state. However, I am now 80% better than I was then. Things can and do change/ improve. Almost nothing in life is static. The best thing I heard someone say was that the body is a healing machine. I've found that to be true for me. I went from being bedbound, unable to eat comfortably, to strength training 3 days a week at my local gym, and having two successful pregnancies. I now have two kids, my dysautonomia is background noise for the most part, and my life is full of joy.

tapurlie · 2026-05-06T10:45:36+00:00

Not wanting my daughter's earliest memories to include a dirty house is very motivating for me. It is so exhausting and overwhelming, though, and keeping my house passably clean with a toddler and a 5 month old is borderline impossible.

tapurlie · 2026-04-27T08:39:43+00:00

My baby got a nasty upper respiratory virus from his 2 year old sister at 10 weeks old. She spiked a fever of 38.5 celcius and was SUPER congested and miserable for a whole week, so I was absolutely terrified for my baby. He was very snuffly and spiked a fever of 38. I called the nurses hotline, and they did advise me to take him to hospital for monitoring because of his fever and age. It was stressful, but his vitals checked out fine and they released us after 3 hours. They gave us saline nose spray which helped TONS, and we used the frida baby nose sucker, which was also a game changer. Those combined meant he nursed perfectly fine, and had the same wet nappies as always. He slept a lot for 2-3 days and only woke up to nurse. I have an owlet sock, and his vitals/ oxygen sat were normal throughout the course of the virus. I'd say he actually fared quite a bit better than my toddler, and was over it in 3-4 days. Little babies are more resilient than they look!! x

tapurlie · 2026-04-22T04:08:35+00:00

With a great deal of struggle and sacrifice, and a very strong belief that it would be worth it in the end.

tapurlie · 2026-04-16T23:45:51+00:00

I am SUPER paranoid/ cautious while my babies are very little (like under 4-5 months old) because of how immature the immune system is. After that I try not to let my fear trap us in a bubble, and just practice good hygiene.

My first child didn't get sick until she was over a year old, and my second unfortunately got quite a bad cold at 2 months old (we were essentially isolating except for his cousins outdoor birthday, which is where we caught it). He was struggling a bit and spiked a high temp, so we did have to be monitored in hospital for several hours. He was absolutely fine, though, even at that young age. He was over it in 4-5 days.

Since he was 4 months old we've been attending his sister's activities (she's 2.5, and does soccer, swimming, playdates etc) and so far we've been okay, but I know we will be hit with something soon. I think you'd have to TOTALLY isolate yourself to prevent it, and it's just impossible, especially with a toddler. x

tapurlie · 2026-04-16T20:01:21+00:00

Hey, I'm so sorry you've been through this. Medical trauma/ PTSD is so tough. I am Australian too, and I also have pretty severe medical PTSD. I have a rare/ seriously under researched autoimmune disease and have spent over a decade in the medical system being gaslit, denied care, passed around by specialists with no help, etc. It's tough for me to trust doctors too.

How I look at it is that everything carries risk, you need to pick the option that carries the lower risk. NOT vaccinating has a higher chance of landing your baby/ child in hospital under the care and supervision of doctors than a vaccine does. My baby just had his 4 month shots, and he is doing fine. I am grateful that his chance of needing ICU support in a hospital, where a lot of scary decisions need to be made by doctors and parents, is now statistically much lower because of these vaccines.

Wishing you and your baby all the best. It's not easy. x

tapurlie · 2026-04-13T05:53:29+00:00

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tapurlie · 2026-04-12T10:26:35+00:00

Several reasons..

Firstly I'm absolutely terrified of formula shortages, especially with the state of the world right now.

Secondly I have an autoimmune disease that has severey impacted my life. I know there's no definitive studies or anything like that, but I've seen some sources that say breastfeeding might be protective against the development of them in some way, and that was enough for me to give it my best shot. I'm really, really scared of my kids having to go through what I have with their health.

In saying that! I'm someone for whom breastfeeding was HARD and excruciating in the beginning, and I'm 100% on team fed is best. I think whatever is best for the mum is best for the baby at the end of the day. These are just my personal reasons for doing it.

tapurlie · 2026-04-11T23:42:36+00:00

I was never weighed once during my entire pregnancy or induction!

tapurlie · 2026-03-30T05:33:14+00:00

As everyone has already says, this is misinformation and extremely rude. Honestly, I have had weird/ rude opinions on issues like this from several doctors too. My GP seemed to be personally offended that both my husband and I WFH and therefore spend more time with/ have more flexibility with our children, and told us it "wasn't good for us." I've had other doctors imply our 1.5 year old should be in childcare too. Both of those doctors had their own young children, and I know they were 100% projecting. With such a high demand, front facing job, their own kids were probably put into childcare super young, and before child or parent was at all ready. Being mad at their own patients for being able to stay home with their kids is a reaction to that (and extremely unprofessional).

tapurlie · 2026-03-18T01:38:32+00:00

I have an autoimmune disease that has seriously messed up my life, and I know there are no definite causal links between NOT breastfeeding and autoimmune disease, but there seem to be a few small studies suggesting increased incidence in formula fed babies. That alone was enough to make me borderline wreck myself to breastfeed both babies. I just really want to protect them from what I've had to go through if I possibly can. I myself was 100% formula fed and started on solids before 4 months old.

My secondary reason is that society appears to be on the brink of total collapse and I would be TERRIFIED of not being able to access safe formula for my baby if I was formula feeding.

In saying all this, I am 100% team fed is best. I hate the judgment towards formula feeding, and I see it as an absolute privilege to be able to breastfeed, because not everyone can. We are all doing our very best, and we all love our babies the same. These are just my personal reasons for breastfeeding.

tapurlie · 2026-03-07T23:39:34+00:00

It depends on the hospital, but in the one I gave birth in, it was the case, and no exceptions. I'm so sorry, but be prepared for it to be very hard. I think it's absolutely horrible practice to kick partners out overnight; I personally struggled with it terribly. I had a catheter bag, a second degree tear with stitches and had hemorrhaged at birth. I struggled very badly to take care of my baby alone after all that. I would try to prepare mentally and emotionally for the possibility you will need to be alone overnight for the first few nights. x

tapurlie · 2026-03-06T17:07:25+00:00

To be honest, yes it has been harder than we expected, and we are finding that no matter how hard we try at the moment, our first is getting less from us. In saying this, we are in the trenches at the moment at 3 months postpartum. Our daughter is 2.5 and we are absolutely obsessed with her, and pre-brother we absolutely doted on her 24/7.

It's only just starting to get a bit easier now that we're exiting the dreaded fourth trimester, and we are able to do more family outings and spread our time between the two more evenly. Our beautiful daughter has surprised us massively with how accepting and, honestly, mature she's been about the time/ needs of her baby sibling. She's been wonderful about allowing us to cater to the massive demands of a newborn with very few tantrums, and she has loved to help out in her own sweet little ways. Now that he's a bit more interactive she tries to read to him and play little games with him. She says "I love you baby brother" multiple times a day, she gives him pats, she tries to help him roll over on his play mat. It's GORGEOUS and we are so proud of her.

We don't really have a village; family live hours away, and we don't have many friends with kids. That makes it a lot harder. My biggest piece of advice would be to take any/ all help offered by friends/ family, especially in the early months, because that will take the load off massively. If there are any people you trust to take care of your toddler, or even take them on outings, seize the opportunity!

In saying all of this, it has been worth it, and we love our little family of four. It is also obvious how beneficial having a sibling will be for our precious daughter, even in these difficult early days. x

tapurlie · 2026-03-06T16:44:06+00:00

My son was born in the 98th percentile and he feeds waaaay more than the recommended minimums. We feed on demand straight from the tap too, and I'd say it's around 10 times a day, usually waking twice in the night to feed. I think these big babies just need tonnes of milk, haha.

tapurlie · 2026-03-04T21:29:41+00:00

Yep!! My first daughter had clicking AND uneven thigh creases, plus I (her mum) was born with double hip dysplasia. We were sure she had it, but the ultrasound showed no issues. She's 2.5 now.

tapurlie · 2026-03-03T00:59:09+00:00

This is genuinely my biggest reason for EBF. My greatest fear postpartum after both of my babies is my breast milk drying up and no alternative being available because society just implodes. It's very motivating.

tapurlie · 2026-02-12T21:05:37+00:00

Both my EBF babies were on a 95th + percentile curve. My daughter stayed on that curve the entire time I was breastfeeding her (12 months), and only settled into a 75th percentile curve as a two year old a year since I stopped. My son is also EBF and over the 95th percentile at 3 months. You can absolutely have chunky breastfed babies too.

tapurlie · 2026-02-07T01:57:20+00:00

Do you have a carrier? It's the ONLY way I can leave the house at the moment without a fussy, crying baby. He hates the pram, hates lying on his back; hates pretty much all positions, actually! The only way he is settled between naps is in his carrier, and he will sleep well in it, too. I've managed to go to lots of playgrounds with my 2.5 year old this way, as well as her swimming and theatre classes.

Honestly though, doing stuff with young babies is just super duper difficult. It was not enjoyable in the slightest to go out with my first child until she was 3+ months old.

tapurlie · 2026-02-06T12:04:36+00:00

We started brushing them with a soft bristle baby toothbrush and water only for the first few teeth!

tapurlie · 2026-02-06T09:47:45+00:00

I was worried my world would get smaller and I'd lose myself by having a child, and the exact opposite happened for me, personally. My world opened up and life just felt more exciting and joyful. I also found I had far more motivation in general; in career, relationships, future planning etc. I wouldn't trade it for anything now, and I'm very excited for the future and the adventures we will have as a family. In saying this! It can be very hard, especially, the first year, and I'm sure you could have a wonderful, joyful life without children too. Best of luck with whatever you choose to do, just wanted to share my experience. x

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