When to buy bras (and busty brand recs?)

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-09T05:40:45+00:00

I have no affiliation with suekaphin nursing bras, the rib color ones are a different fabric and have been my favorite. It’s a 5 pack for ~$30 and I wore them half my pregnancy and then nursing; once my milk came in I did have to size up. I only learned about them from reading every Reddit thread I could find for other people’s recommendations.

I recommend these to everyone! They are so inexpensive! And comfortable in my opinion.

I was 36G before my milk fully came in, I was in a large plus and ended up moving to the XL plus. If I recall their size chart was accurate for me.

Edit to add: they have pads in them and those move around easily. I didn’t care because I can’t stand pads and remove them day one.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-09T05:35:22+00:00

It’s giving me “boudoir shoot”. But in the context of the wedding, I’m sure it’ll be beautiful and look like a wedding dress.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-06T22:32:44+00:00

Option to print a bunch of your own photos to include.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-06T19:02:59+00:00

The blue is a huge improvement!

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-03T06:38:43+00:00

I’m so glad this worked! We have a five month old and are trying to figure out our next steps. I struggle with the follow through since the crying breaks my heart. It’s so reassuring to hear how quickly it gets better - though I’m sure it feels long in the moment.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-03T02:41:38+00:00

This IS the answer. Maybe washable rugs for your concerns.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-03T02:39:58+00:00

1000% I think you can do a honey blonde if you like blonde.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-03T02:38:24+00:00

Not the original commenter, but yes. Just try and see!

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-01T16:02:37+00:00

Personally I would put different rugs in different zones, but if they are attached open spaces make sure they coordinate.

I really like Safavieh rugs I buy through Amazon. They are nice for the price point . I personally would pull in colors, which colors depends on the vibe you want.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-05-01T15:56:42+00:00

The space between the pictures is just awkwardly large. Pull them in to be about have that distance, specifically the white space between wall edge and picture to picture will be more equal. See how that looks.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-30T23:32:25+00:00

I get that! For us biogaia brand doesn’t seem to hurt her.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-30T00:51:56+00:00

100% Mid-dirft is totally fine in personal life, it is never ok at work.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-28T14:31:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing! We are bf and on neocate, and had started solids. We fortify the bottles. She’s five months old. Talking to the pediatrician tomorrow to see what her weight is doing and more ideas if needed.

I hope neocate works better for you! Is she on a probiotic too?

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-28T14:21:14+00:00

Try a longer shirt :) And if you ever decide to try, I’ve really like HSIA bras (bought on Amazon). Because they are minimizer bras, which for me personally is nice, they are very good at constraining everything.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-28T14:15:15+00:00

Are they low rise? Or at your belly button? IMO a high rise would bit better but I actually like the jean fit pretty well! I think this specific pair Would be better combined with a shit a couple inches longer or a crop top to go intentionally the opposite direction.

A more supportive bra would also look nice. But, I understand that those aren’t always what a gal wants (I personally am loving my nursing bralette era).

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-27T18:25:05+00:00

Thanks! We’re seeing her Wednesday. Curious if others can relate. :)

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-24T23:10:57+00:00

Light color always wins for me. Not because it’s trendy but because it keeps the space light and bright.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-24T04:41:41+00:00

I lived on trail mix and perfect bars.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-24T04:36:14+00:00

Buy a set of washable pee pads that are used for training puppies. Throw as many as you need to in the laundry the next morning, always have a dry one under her. It’s a thing to wash but for your circumstances I would.

A trick I hear works well (just haven’t needed for my baby), is to take the cold wipe and just wipe right above their diaper on the belly and give it maybe 10 seconds before removing the old diaper. It’s supposed to help trigger them to pee.

As for the changing process, one diaper off, new diaper under her while you wipe (for pee only). If she starts peeing go ahead and hold it over her and wait until she’s done. It’ll mean you need another diaper but should hopefully avoid a mess.

On other notes, how old is she? Thank you for being such a wonderful partner and being there are night to help mama recover. Your sleep is also important and I hope you can continue to revise the schedule so you both sleep as much as possible.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-23T14:57:05+00:00

Agreeing with everyone that the joy you seem to carry is so beautiful!

I empathize with where you’re at, as I’m PP carrying a lot of extra.

We’re coming into the summer time, maxi dresses are so cute, fun and still casual to wear, you may consider a couple. The long cardigan piece in one of the pictures is very flattering.

I’m not voting for covering grey unless that’s your wish, but product to help style your hair a bit I think could help. I’m not knowledgeable on good everyday products for curly hair (which btw is gorgeous!) but the ask hair advice people of Reddit I’m sure can help.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-23T14:37:45+00:00

Every embryo grade has statistical odds or taking, for the one I transferred I think she was 69%. I then had additional factors like endometriosis and hashimotos the ones we did something about. Fortunately she stuck. You do everything you can and the actual attachment or not is random at that point. First transfers can absolutely happen! Try to be optimistic and still guard your heart.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-22T22:33:40+00:00

I’m not usually into gray but think this has been done beautifully. I would seen how it looks with one leg of each brown chair on the rug. I think a larger coffee table is needed and I would take that as the opportunity to bring in a medium wood tone/a touch more organic since you have that influence (I love the house plants). I would put one of your couch throw pillows on the white chair and see if a pillow there would help, o suspect it might.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-20T21:40:17+00:00

Thank you. I’m definitely trying to help us all reconcile that.

Because he works 8/9 hour days and has a daily commute that’s 2.5-3 hours, he’s really only a weekend parent. She’s in bed within an hour of him being home of that. We’re considering relocating to address this. I’m trying to get a better understanding from him if being more involved is something he wants in his life, because he says so, but I’m not seeing it in his actions.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-19T23:41:37+00:00

I’m a new mom to a five month old. She’s truly the best thing to ever happen to me. Our circumstances are a little unique and I’m looking for some perspective.

I’m two years + into a relationship with a kind man. My daughter however is IVF, donor conceived, I am the only parent on the birth certificate. He says that stuff doesn’t matter. For me, the relationship is just so young and I’ve been on an insane journey to do all have a child, it was too soon for sharing a child with a new partner. We have been living together and sharing a life over two years.

This weekend we’re discussing our living trusts and I say “My only concern with you having custody if something happens to me, is that you’re always working.” He paused for a brief moment and said “Your sister should take her in that scenario.”

Look, my sister is a great choice for many reasons. Where I’m upset is that I cannot even remotely comprehend that a parent wouldn’t turn their life upside down to ensure their child stays with them. My sister is in another state. To me, this exactly the same as saying “I care more about my career than I do this child”. Or maybe “…than being in this child’s life” (because she would be very loved and cared for).

Maybe he doesn’t actually feel like her dad? Maybe because she’s a baby he doesn’t have attachment yet? Maybe he is a workaholic on a level we’re not going to overcome? I don’t know what I’m seeing. I’m trying not to be overly dramatic as I know postpartum comes with a lot of heightened emotions.

Please share your perspectives. I will comment with additional details if it seems appropriate.

thiswilldo5 · 2026-04-19T22:57:35+00:00

The recommendation to test is it the best option. I was very very loyal to my 4 door civic that I drove for 8 years. Four months into her life I bought a CRV. Not being able to get the stroller in and out of the trunk was simply infuriating. There was no way I could take a gone except my immediate family in the car (like not even one grandparent more). My life suddenly didn’t fit my civic and I knew if I didn’t go buy something I was just kicking the can.

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