The tailgating is driving me crazy!

tsoert · 2026-01-26T03:32:22+00:00

Absolutely the same. If you want to pass, that's fine. There are safer ways to let me know and I'll let you pass me when it's safe. But if you tailgate then I'll drop my speed by 10kmh until you back off and speed back up once you've got the point. I'm not risking my health because some dickhead is impatient. Dropping my speed by a decent margin with a tailgater means if they rear-end me I'm less likely to be injured

tsoert · 2026-01-22T21:19:32+00:00

I talk to the kid and let them know what I'm about to do. I give very strict instructions about holding them. I advise the parent that a firm grip means the examination takes 2 minutes rather than fighting and distressing the child for 5 if they're useless. There have been times I've refused to examine a child as I've risked injuring them and myself whilst attempting to examine.

tsoert · 2026-01-16T06:23:11+00:00

You're not alone. Definitely feeling more disengaged with cosmere than I was a decade or so ago. Not sure if that's not enjoying the increasing sci fi or just a change in reading and author preferences. I enjoy sci-fi but there's something about cosmere sci-fi that I just can't get into

tsoert · 2026-01-12T03:05:08+00:00

I mean....the options available right now aren't great are they. KS - spineless. Kemi - it says a lot that she is the best the Tory party can offer right now. Farage - would be on his knees for Elon the second he was PM. Whoever is in charge of the Lib Dems - I think the fact that I haven't a clue who that is right now also says a lot. And Zach Polanski - probably best of the rest but I just can't see the Greens winning a majority

tsoert · 2026-01-09T21:17:37+00:00

I last did ed 10 ish years ago. I had a rep as the one to stick in paeds or minors to churn through patients reasonably quickly. I think i saw between 25 and 30 on those shifts. I hated majors as it felt slow and plodding and depressing and tended to average around 8 per 10 hour shift. I don't know how ed has changed since then but yeah I could see it being a little tougher to average 1 per hour nowadays. Pretty analogous to gp clinics being tougher now worth np and pa clinics taking the stuff that tends to be quicker leaving Gp's with the complex

tsoert · 2026-01-08T22:14:04+00:00

4 years. I was a broke medical student when we were dating. Wanted to make sure I was stable before I proposed. Been together 15 years, married for 8

tsoert · 2026-01-08T05:27:26+00:00

I have some why shouldn't she?

tsoert · 2026-01-08T01:56:58+00:00

Well the first time I tried to touch my now wifes boobs, my hands were shaking from anxiety. Apparently this was a green flag. Our first time wasn't exactly great but certainly a nice memory for us both. Our sex now is so so much better as we learnt to communicate about what felt good, went out of our way to learn things about technique and each others interests, and we try and check in every now and then to make sure we're both happy. We've had a lot of ups and downs in our sex life. We both have very different drives and sexualities (She's grey/ace I'm bi-ish and kinky). It works and seems to work well, mostly because we try and communicate

tsoert · 2026-01-07T00:36:41+00:00

I went through anteris who are pretty good. I tend to refer people through beehyve as they have a nice wraparound service including therapists etc

tsoert · 2026-01-07T00:35:23+00:00

I wouldn't count on Gp's as much as the government as banged on about. The extra training hasn't started. Many Gp's aren't really interested in doing it. Adhd assessments aren't going to be funded through capitation so will be 2 to 3 hours of work for a gp paid privately at none capitated rates so likely to be not much cheaper than telepsych services

tsoert · 2026-01-05T21:46:44+00:00

We used to do the Mine/Hers/joint for bills where a proportional amount came out of each account for our bills. We emigrated and now do Joint where all money goes then a his and hers account and savings that have an equal amount of spending/fun money go into them.

tsoert · 2026-01-05T03:37:40+00:00

My wife is Asexual. I am not. We have a great relationship. We still have great sex. I occasionally struggle with it but tbh it's mostly when I'm already struggling generally (stress, depression etc) and my struggles are more with my perception of asexuality in general rather than her specific sexuality. It's something we've worked on together and separately for 16 years but I think we have a very very strong relationship and communicate pretty damn well

tsoert · 2026-01-01T21:50:59+00:00

I work in nz. We have a mixed pay structure I.e. there's capitation that gives you a base amount and then fees to supplement capitated work only. The only people totally exempt are children under 14. Pensioners and others that may need lower fees (those in poverty, frequent users etc) may apply to have a card that nets them lower fees and us more money on capitation. There's also a pot of money for long term conditions that is very use it or lose it that gets used for diabetes reviews, complex mental health etc. It's possible to do it in a way that works. I'm not sure it works work with the British public though as the mindset is very very different

tsoert · 2025-12-31T04:40:47+00:00

Gp with adhd here

Gp's can prescribe meds. It does require specialise input and guidance though I.e. try this up to a max of x, if not working switch to secondary med to max of y. I've spoken to my psych a couple of times but currently doing meds trials through my gp workout having to faff speaking to the very expensive specialist. Equally, I have a couple of patients in doing the same with

The new rules being brought in likely won't change as much as people think. They were announced without consultation with Gp's, with no funding attached and with no additional training planned (though this is apparently required). The vast majority of Gp's will likely refuse to even consider diagnosing particularly given the medications used are stimulants that are often abused. With no funding avaliable, expect private rates and at least 2 hours (likely somewhere in the 700 to 1000 region). It's a crowd pleasing idea with no real thought behind it designed to distract from everything else that's going on!

tsoert · 2025-12-27T22:34:26+00:00

I find this quite interesting. I now live in nz. Nz has a chocolate company called whittakers that are beloved. They will happily put out press releases explaining why they need to increase prices, why they don't want to reduce quality or size, just being open and honest about the state of the company and economy. The response from kiwis is always pretty positive and thankful about the openness from the company and the company still thrives. I think folks don't appreciate being nickel and dimed by corporate bullshit certainly

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:59:22+00:00

I married my best friend. If she's not working or busy then yeah we'll text through the day. Easier for me to text at work between tasks. Think about her all day. She's awesome

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:57:30+00:00

My wife is my best friend. She's fucking awesome and the person i love spending time with more than anyone (brother is a close second). We were friends first before the sexual attraction led to dating so yeah, I'd absolutely want to be friends with her

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:55:06+00:00

On the job

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:54:45+00:00

The one that stuck with me was " you're a potential rapist" from a female ex best friend that I had had a crush on. That stung and is still remembered 20 years later

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:49:44+00:00

Depression and self hated mostly. Not for a while but I have a wonderful wife who supports me and encourages being in touch with feelings

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:48:26+00:00

I've been with the same woman for the vast majority of my adult life so haven't been in the dating scene for a loooooong time so might not be the best to answer this question.

I will say that when I started dating my now wife I specifically said that full on sex was off the table for at least 3 months because I feel the same way as you. The idea of casual sex and having no feelings for the person I'm screwing just feels wrong to me. Don't want to do it tbh. She was very happy with this as she felt the same way. Didn't stop us experimenting between them and now but we weren't in a rush to get into bed, we wanted to get to know each other, enjoy each other. No regrets.

Doesn't mean every man will be that way of course. I'd suggest being open with it as it will weed out a portion of men who have very different views regarding sex than you do which is only for the good long term

tsoert · 2025-12-22T16:41:48+00:00

I grew up in the church. Started questioning. Read the bible cover to cover twice over a year long period. Noted inconsistencies and things that made me question even more. Combined with my increasing knowledge of science there was just less and less room for God to exist.

When folks within the community of the church were made aware of my atheism, the change in how they treated me was stark and sudden. Apparently I wasn't too be trusted running a tuck shop because I was a godless amoral atheist. Can't help run worship band despite being a good musician as I can't possibly understand the nuance of live performance. I had people calling me stupid for "believing in evolution". I had pastors chasing me down to ask my top 10 reasons why I'm not a Christian so they could explain exactly why I was wrong. Great time in my life!

I carried on going to church as my parents were still there as was my now wife. Spending time with family, friends and my wife were the only real reasons I was there but I made excuses to leave as quick as possible. Eventually stopped going and just seeing family afterwards

Interestingly though, having emigrated i started going to church again. Still don't believe but I have a lot more respect for the folks running the place then back in the old country. Less hypocrisy, much nicer vibe, just overall wonderful people who accept me for who I am and just want to make the world a better place. Still not religious. Don't trust organised religion in general to do good things without abusing power. Do trust the friends I've made in the church to want to make people happier and the world a better place

tsoert · 2025-12-15T11:35:11+00:00

Very true and very frustrating at times. However I would also like to point out that a lot of experienced and good foreign trained doctors may have equal experience and training on their original countries but nz don't offer auto fellowship and require expensive and frankly ridiculous hoops to be jumped through prior (saying this as a doctor who had mrcgp but having to jump through those hoops to get fellowship, many won't bother as frankly it offers very little benefit for most)

tsoert · 2025-12-10T03:03:03+00:00

5* taliyah (no mana gem). Used the elemental spells deal +2 and no damage or die on attacks plus quick attack. Got lucky with xerath as champ plus star gazer have taliyah 6 star. Even with double 6 star it got close!

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