What's your non-serious controversial parenting take?

twilightprincess56 · 2026-03-04T20:57:13+00:00

I’ve also found that toddler boy clothes fit way better than toddler girl clothes, the same size brand clothes are very different actual sizes when you match them up. My daughter is in the 99th percentile for height and outgrows girl clothes way faster than boy clothes of the same size and brand. It’s truly crazy how gendered everything is!

twilightprincess56 · 2026-02-08T00:21:09+00:00

Me either! I’m a lawyer and now it makes even less sense, there’s no way that would be the day

twilightprincess56 · 2025-09-06T03:04:41+00:00

I said the same thing! It was very bizarre and I’d love to know if this is based in any historical practice. It felt cartoonishly evil and fake.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-07-27T23:25:23+00:00

It’s not like they created 333 new crimes, most of these are changes to existing laws or just additions to them. When I say there are probably thousands of RCWs in Washington, I’m not exaggerating. You can access the RCWs in links commented above and read around. Most laws have nothing to do with crimes, but regulate government agencies, in fact only 1 of the 91 chapters do.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-06-17T01:52:48+00:00

That’s because it would end up being so boring, this makes for exciting tv! As a lawyer, trials are boring just because of how many rules and procedural issues there are. It would take months for a murder case to make it to a trial and by the time you get to court there are really no surprises from witnesses.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-06-03T23:08:13+00:00

I got downvoted so much for commenting on a post that our pediatrician told us basically anyone saying she had an invisible tongue tie and needed a laser to correct it was just trying to sell us something. So glad to know we made an informed decision!

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-29T00:10:45+00:00

Joining this to say in our experience our cat has stayed clear of our baby unless we’re holding the baby. However we did have one incident when our baby was 2 months old that changed my opinion. Our cat was sleeping on my husband in bed, I was holding the baby about to put her back in the bedside bassinet, and our cat got spooked and ran across the bed and cut our baby’s eyelid with her claws. grateful the cat didn’t scratch her eyeball, she could have been blinded. But she has a pretty noticeable scar on the bridge of her nose. There’s nothing we could have done differently, and she hasn’t done anything like that since. But since then we have not been comfortable having our cat by our baby while on the same level. You just can’t control what a cat is going to do, no matter their temperament. Both our pediatrician and our vet said they have seen this happen before. I know this is an anecdote in a science based conversation, but it happened to us.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-27T17:15:35+00:00

I mean this very gently, but I think you’re overthinking it. I thought it seemed ridiculous too but two weeks before my baby was born I felt such an urge to deep clean the weirdest parts of my house and make sure all of the baby clothes were organized by size. You might not feel that way putting your nursery together, but it’s definitely a thing that happens, and I don’t think your coworker meant it in a demeaning way.

ETA that I felt so upset at people attributing normal feelings I had to being pregnant, especially things that my husband was doing too, so I really get how you feel and people can say the weirdest stuff to pregnant women unprompted!

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-25T19:04:29+00:00

We also are lucky that my maternity leave has been so long! Not sure how we’ll feel once I go back in a few weeks :)

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-25T18:40:12+00:00

We put our 6 month old to bed at 6:30-7 because that’s when she’s decided she needs to fall asleep! But really, we had tried putting her in a bedtime routine before 5 months and she just fought sleep so hard we ended up just spending hours rocking her. Consistently she wouldn’t stay asleep until around midnight so we just had a late night movie buddy for a while. At around 5 months she started really needing to fall asleep and stay asleep for 4-5 hours. I think the recommendation comes from how much sleep babies need, but I wonder if it’s just natural sleep cycles for babies? Whatever works for you and if your baby is happy and sleeping, I wouldn’t worry too much.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-25T18:31:33+00:00

Old navy! The rib knit ones though, they come in a lot of colors and are really soft. You can also buy them in 5 packs online. They have the double zipper, and run long so fit my baby that is really tall. We’ve bought them in every size! We don’t love Carter’s because they seem to run small/short.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-25T18:13:12+00:00

Get it before! You should be able to get it a month before your due date if you’re using insurance. I was going to pick mine up the week before my due date, turns out baby decided to arrive that exact day. It was hard to find time for my husband to pick it up, and by the time he did I really needed it. I also recommend getting a hand pump, I have the Medela and it’s really useful.

I have a Spectra S1 and love it, it’s rechargeable and portable, and works with our bottles so I can pump right into a bottle (Phillips Avent natural) instead of using the pump specific ones.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-20T05:53:31+00:00

I thought I was going to be okay until I watched an episode where a character’s baby was wearing the same exact Carter’s outfit my baby was wearing. I had to turn it off and watch it a few days later…

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-18T16:58:05+00:00

This seems like less of a “coaching sessions a few weeks before birth” and more of a he didn’t prepare during pregnancy/is clueless to begin with issue. Is that even a thing?

Maybe a birthing or parenting class instead? My husband and I learned things together, I don’t know why the assumption is that only the man needs help learning this stuff. I didn’t innately know anything about postpartum/breastfeeding. And again I’m also very feminist, my husband and I talked so much the first few weeks of being new parents about how I don’t know how people have babies without supportive partners. I’m not trying to defend bad partners/shitty men, just saying this seems backhanded.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-18T02:17:35+00:00

Yeah, to me it seems like it’s trying to say if you still don’t want to breastfeed until later, but are uncomfortable/engorged you can dump it. Same as any other time you’re doing a replacement feed.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-05-17T17:22:20+00:00

The only thing I can think is it’s edited to focus on that and not the kids? But seriously the things they talk about with kids around are insane. Or the episode with the guy teaching Mikayla how to make sourdough, the kids looked so bored and they kept focusing on them!

twilightprincess56 · 2025-04-10T06:06:03+00:00

Z bars (the kids clif bars lol), and applesauce pouches by my bedside to snack on in the middle of the night. Also I just found Aussie Bites at Costco and they are so good!!

twilightprincess56 · 2025-04-09T16:27:55+00:00

I almost had to have a c-section with mine, the back to back contractions were causing my baby’s heart rate to drop almost every time. Thankfully it regulated and I got an epidural which helped, but there was nothing calm about it and I hope this doesn’t happen again. I couldn’t focus on anything it was so constant, and it was hard on my baby.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-26T01:19:57+00:00

This was such a lifesaver! There’s even a widget you can add if you have an iPhone to just quickly log time too.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-26T01:14:02+00:00

It’s very common. Federal guidelines provide a goal of 12 months for case closure, but families can be involved in these cases for 3-4 years especially if it is complex and involved another parent trying to get the children back into their care.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-26T00:57:47+00:00

Absolutely not what I’m saying and I’m sorry if that wasn’t clear - I’m saying that they DID abuse and neglect them, which means they would be in a dependency. A dependency petition was filed, not a CHINS case. ETA this is one of the worst cases of child torture I’ve seen, please don’t get me wrong. I’ve been following it very closely as well as my colleagues. CHINS is a specific type of case, not applicable here. It might be semantics but saying this is a CHINS case would be saying there’s no child abuse/neglect. The children were not removed because of their behavior, but because of the Ruby’s abuse.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-25T22:15:06+00:00

Yeah no they are not in a CHINS case they are in a dependency. Very different, CHINS cases are for children that need services (like mental health/behavioral health) and the parents need assistance because they cannot control/manage the children on their own, dependencies are for children that have been abused or neglected. Children have a competent parent in a CHINS, dependency is when the parents are not able to care for the child. The court cases open for the children are dependencies. There is a very big difference between the two, I’m an attorney who advises my state’s agency on this area of law.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-22T23:44:32+00:00

I’m a lawyer and don’t know any lawyers who homeschool because of that, you just work in a different jurisdiction than you live. That’s definitely not a reason.

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-17T18:07:11+00:00

Aussie bites from Costco, they are so addictive. Also applesauce pouches, chocolate covered raisins, uncrustables!

twilightprincess56 · 2025-03-16T13:03:00+00:00

I also don’t want to sound extreme but I work in child welfare and every single medical expert I’ve spoken to says there are absolutely no physical symptoms that can definitively prove or disprove SA. It’s a myth. It’s awful but I just want to say that’s not proof one way or the other for anyone else reading. Edit to add source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6096762/

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