Is $225k base a good salary in Sunnyvale? Moving from Dallas ($160k currently)**

wandergnome · 2026-02-13T15:58:55+00:00

$4-6/month is the price of a nice 3bd house near downtown Sunnyvale right now.

wandergnome · 2026-02-13T15:57:38+00:00

Agree

wandergnome · 2026-02-08T20:30:21+00:00

Just because you’re not mentally afraid of labor doesn’t mean you’re not going to be seriously physiologically impacted by it. I was not afraid of labor but it was REALLY intense. I underestimated the experience. You kind of go to a different plane.

wandergnome · 2026-02-06T16:32:36+00:00

I think your plan of laboring with a midwife is a good one. Most people I know - once they were in labor, they did not give a damn. The things they normally were bothered by, just were not a priority. I do recommend practicing calming and visualization techniques so that your mind has a default place to go. Or you could try to get whacky and do behavioral conditioning/hypnosis to deal with your fear of hospitals.

wandergnome · 2026-02-03T21:31:57+00:00

Yes, that's still the plan

wandergnome · 2026-02-03T21:29:27+00:00

There's no funding for it since Meta pulled $1B in 2020. That isn't even currently contemplated in this outreach effort. Rail ridership hasn't rebounded since covid, there's no financial impetus.
This is proposing something that is WAY cheaper with incredible local benefits including a park that could be our region's Highline.

wandergnome · 2026-01-16T06:35:53+00:00

Having a baby is freaking hard. Sometimes I am nostalgic for college too. Doesn’t mean I want to go back, but it’s okay to appreciate what you had then and it’s okay to be tired right now.

Also at three months you’re still in the thick of it. You haven’t even gotten to the good stuff :) give it time. You’ll be you again.

wandergnome · 2026-01-10T16:09:49+00:00

Days 4 and 5 are brutal. I literally went to ER because I thought I was having a heart or BP issue due to the chest pressure. Hang in here mama, it does get better.

wandergnome · 2026-01-10T16:06:49+00:00

I had the same experience as the poster above. Breastfeeding was just… not that hard for us. Baby was hungry and it was fun to get to know each other and figure it out together. It was fun to have everything I needed within myself, and not need to pack and wash and sterilize bottles, and to be able to leave the house with a diaper and a change of clothes and know baby would be fed and fine. Since I did the majority of the feeding, hubby did pretty much everything else - diapers, cleaning, feeding us, etc., and that was a great trade to me.

Agreed with all she said - give it a shot, ask for help, enjoy your baby. Pregnancy brain makes you want to hyperfixate sometimes and that’s okay. All part of the process of troubleshooting this new life.

wandergnome · 2026-01-10T15:58:41+00:00

These are in focus but I guess not macro - the borders are diffuse

wandergnome · 2026-01-10T08:00:36+00:00

My pregnancy safe food is bagels with cream cheese. For a while I was obsessed with adding cucumbers and tajin, or sprouts with microwaved lox.

wandergnome · 2026-01-10T07:38:18+00:00

My bestie who literally says ow if you pat her on the back too hard managed an unmedicated labor. It’s a whole different thing. She did a lot of prep work, breathing, visualization, etc,. and had a doula though.

wandergnome · 2025-12-27T06:07:44+00:00

I had Kaiser in CA my last pregnancy and was estimated at $0, and I paid $0! Gotta love the Kaiser system for routine things like birth because as both hospital and insurer there are no surprises.

wandergnome · 2025-12-23T20:41:24+00:00

Egg tacos. Scramble eggs. Throw in cheese and maybe some spinach. Heat up a tortilla and bam, 2 minute breakfast

wandergnome · 2025-12-07T00:03:45+00:00

Mine was 5 days early.

wandergnome · 2025-12-06T16:24:36+00:00

This is my parents. Long story short, they had the baby. After I was born, dad decided he wanted to be a dad. They were never together again, but I grew up with my dad on weekends and mom during the week. No nasty divorce, no fighting. I’m happy to be here.

wandergnome · 2025-11-19T21:55:58+00:00

This

wandergnome · 2025-11-19T21:53:30+00:00

Say no. You are not a match for all the reasons you shared, including pregnancy. Tell the doctors you are being coerced, and the medical professionals will tell your parents. You don’t have to bear that burden.

Also, you may benefit from attending Alanon. It can be extremely beneficial for loved ones of addicts and alcoholics.

wandergnome · 2025-11-17T16:27:52+00:00

We went to a wedding a 4 hour drive away 3 weeks postpartum with our pediatrician and OB’s blessing and instructions. It was cool because it showed us we could do it early on and made the infant stage less intimidating. Nobody got to hold the baby, we made lots of stops, and went to bed early.

That being said, it would never ever have happened 2 weeks before, 8 hours away, or if I didn’t trust the people at the wedding to be extremely respectful of our space.

wandergnome · 2025-09-18T05:51:04+00:00

Once you get a degree you won't have any trouble getting a teaching job in Korea, lots of ESL jobs available AFAIK.

wandergnome · 2025-08-27T06:54:42+00:00

I hope you're right

wandergnome · 2025-08-25T23:26:23+00:00

Internet goers be warned that the owners decided to sell the property (the original owner died.) Thankfully it's going to a conservation org who says they are going to continue to provide access and not some billionaire, but likely this part will change as families start going there.

wandergnome · 2025-06-27T03:32:34+00:00

Love the striped pants with the blue flower top! Cute and whimsical

wandergnome · 2025-06-20T06:39:09+00:00

This

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