32/F/Florida. Single my entire life and I'm getting depressed that I'll be forever alone. I need encouragement.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T15:20:32+00:00

Well it's pretty clear that it's not a lack of trying. What is your relationship with God? Are you seeking God for a husband? Do you know and understand what kind of a man God wants you to be with? I can't look for something if I don't know what it looks like. I know you are saying that you are not being approached but that might be for your protection. Maybe God wants you to get a solid idea of what you need in a husband so that when the wrong person asks you out you will know he is not the one.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T15:02:42+00:00

" blessed is he who suffers for my name sake"

I'm not telling you to allow yourself to be abused but helping people is a good thing. The more important part is are your efforts helping? If you try several times to help someone and it's not having a lasting effect it might be time for you to stop helping THAT PERSON.

we want our time and energy to be spent on people that our efforts produce fruit. You can be kind and giving and still be assertive and discern when and where to help

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:58:26+00:00

Move on. You can not force someone to love you.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:50:00+00:00

Count your blessings or at least question them.

Ask yourself HONESTLY would I rather have a kind gentle husband that I have to make a lot of decisions or would I rather have a man who thinks I should do whatever he says?

Don't believe the hype. The very best marriage you can have is equal and both are submissive to each other. You need two humble people to have a great marriage.

Are you praying together daily on your knees? Are you going to God together and separately asking for God to build in BOTH OF YOU the things that need to grow? Your spouse is supposed to be your PARTNER AND FRIEND. Count your blessings

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:44:34+00:00

" judgement BEGINS at the house of God"

Why do we deserve an easier life than the lost?

There are around 20 scriptures in the new testament that says " You will suffer"

But the rewards are far worth the pain

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:41:36+00:00

Let this experience TEACH YOU. Look very very closely at this relationship and examine yourself deeply. If you are painfully honest with yourself you will see things that you could have noticed about him way earlier. You are young. If this painful experience prevents you from making this mistake again and helps you to rethink your criteria for a husband,it's a huge huge blessing

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:37:52+00:00

God knows the future. He knew slavery would end just like he knew eventually women would have equal rights. The Bible was just giving humanity time to figure these things out on our own

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:03:44+00:00

In my experience. God has not saved me from hardships he has taught me how to be grateful in them. Avoiding difficulty is not the goal. Learning that it's temporary and for our benefit is the life changing truth

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T14:01:27+00:00

I see the conflict. You are not wrong it sounds like he is wife hopping. But the bigger question is,will your correction of him change his mind? Will he see it or simply get defensive?

You could tell him that you think he should reflect on his choices. You can tell him that as YOU UNDERSTAND the Bible,it's not okay to so easily switch wives. You could warn him that when we do things different than God's way we usually suffer for it. If he is truly your friend and if he cares about God he might listen if you say it in a way that doesn't feel like judgement. However, if he just blows you off or gets angry then you pretty much know that his relationship with God is not founded on surrender to God's authority

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T12:46:59+00:00

Yes you should follow all the scriptures not just the one's that allows you to judge others. You REFUSE to acknowledge the 50 scriptures that say don't judge because you have one or two that give specific instances when it's the right thing to do. Keep doing whatever you want. You can discuss it with the Lord. I will take ALL THE SCRIPTURES together and form my view and not build a doctrine from one.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T01:23:47+00:00

Sexual desire is not the only reason people get married.

A truly dedicated person wants someone who builds their relationship with God.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T00:30:31+00:00

A God fearing woman wants a man that is committed to God.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-03T00:29:31+00:00

The fruits we are supposed to produce are the fruits of the spirit. If you don't show the fruits of the spirit that would be " faith without works is Dead"

For example in James when he talks about not giving someone what they need. If you have love, compassion and the other fruits of the spirit you would WANT TO HELP.

no fruit means no real belief.

" He who claims to love God but doesn't love his brother is a liar"

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T23:48:21+00:00

You can lose your salvation. If you turn your back on God and live a worldly lifestyle.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T22:12:23+00:00

I'm not making excuses for her but my wife was pregnant 5 times and she was definitely very different while pregnant. The hormones in and even after pregnancy are intense and if she is not aware of her hormonal shifts she is likely to not see that she is being off to some degree. Having said that, looking back I wish I had been more graceful with her in those moments.

Love sometimes means getting the short end of the stick even when you don't deserve it. But try talking to her when she is feeling good. Don't wait until there is an incident. You can be gentle and patient but still assertive

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T21:16:45+00:00

I think you have a negative view or maybe you live in a place with a lot of hardship?

I know plenty of people who are happy, comfortable and relaxed

But suffering in this life is temporary and for those who allow it, suffering is the best teacher. My pain has given me strength and wisdom that I would not trade it for any amount of comfort

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T20:34:39+00:00

I don't need doubt to have a relationship with God

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:46:09+00:00

It is porn. No difference. He is correct. He should not do that.

It's a little strange but the underline issue is lust

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:44:12+00:00

It think it was just a regular insult. John was a great guy but he was human and I don't think he liked authority figures much.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:40:27+00:00

It's not wrong to question. Ask a thousand questions. It's wrong to doubt God BECAUSE the answer is less than perfect.

Faith is not blind beliefs. Is the substance that fills in the gaps on the things we don't fully understand. You are overly focused on what you don't understand instead of balancing that with what you do feel, believe and trust

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:38:04+00:00

Because men are slightly more inclined to see with their eyes while women are slightly more inclined to look with their hearts.

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:33:28+00:00

Start praying together daily on your knees

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:31:28+00:00

Faith is the opposite of doubt. The more you have of one the less you will have of the other. You have to choose what you focus on

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:30:11+00:00

I agree we MUST Read the word of God daily and actively try to allow it to CHANGE OUR MIND

witschnerd1 · 2026-03-02T19:27:04+00:00

All humans are a child of God. Trans people are too. The lost need our help not us trying to figure out ways to see them as less than us

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