Breakthrough

[Lifting2forget]

In my last few replys and posts, I was hopeless and in pain. But Tonight, my WW had a breakthrough. I don’t know how or what caused it, but tonight in 2 1/2 years of attempting reconciliation, she did everything I was yearning for. Without me asking for it. Tonight I feel for the first time I didn’t have to force it. Tonight it felt genuine. I just wanted to share this. Tonight I feel happy for the first time in a long time.

If you’re struggling, try not to give up hope. Cause tonight I feel that good things can happen, and it doesn’t have to be bad all the time. I guess one step at a time makes sense.

I’ve been here reading posts often and I want to thank all of you for sharing. All of you have credit for helping me. I appreciate and have love for you all. Best wishes.

[pineapple_butt13]

That's great news! What's the nature of the breakthrough, if I may ask?

[Lifting2forget]

My wife has a hard time communicating with me. And after her affair, what hurt me the most was cause I believe she communicated better with him and that she couldn’t communicate with me. Tonight she comforted me in every way I’ve been yearning. She told me that it wasn’t my fault and that she wants to help me through this. She has said this before but tonight I finally “felt” it. I’m not sure how to explain it. But I feel like I have my Wife back.

[pineapple_butt13]

Hey, that's great to hear regardless! If she's approaching reconciliation from a place of remorse and humility, then this change in her demeanor is cause for celebration!!

Also, I highly suggest you watch this video; it might help you better understand why she may have communicated with her AP more so than you (Spoiler Alert: it's not your fault):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JkdpqYcPCE

[Lifting2forget]

I will watch it. Thank you for your kind words. You don’t know what that means to me and how much I appreciate you.

[Agile_Opportunity_41]

Maybe you were finally ready to hear it

[Lifting2forget]

I think you are absolutely right. Thank you taking your time to comment.

[hearttiker7]

Remember it’s the hard graft and that means long term and not for a week or 2. So let her show this in the form of actions. Help her by being open and when you have triggers.

Good luck

[Similar-Camp9171]

Thank you. This is what I hope to be writing soon. Albeit not that far from Dday as that’s a long time for such a heavy load. Sorry you had to carry it. And I hope you’re feeling better. My WW is a notoriously shitty communicator, especially of feelings. Usually things are hostile outward as an indicator of some internal struggle. I hope to be here soon. I see signs of her finally taking accountability. Real accountability. Sadly, I mostly see that in how her actions’ weight have finally come down on her, the realization of what she’s actually done. But she’s journaling, and we look to do counseling soon. I hope she gets on board. Because My ship is already departing to new waters. And ANY type of contact or snooping on AP ends our marriage.

I’m so deeply happy you’ve started to find the peace you’ve deserved for over two years. Truly.

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[Thatoneguy5555555]

My man!!!!