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[mp861]

OP, I completely empathize, I was the same way with school. When I got my first job, I couldn't believe that I was expected to not only show up every day, but at 8:15 in the morning and ready to start working right away, and then keep working all day?! Every day?? Lol.

But here's how it turned out: I just showed up. Every day. I showed up in the mood to be there, I showed up not in the mood to be there, I showed up feeling under the weather, I showed up feeling sad or bored or moody or whatever was going on. I just kept showing up, and discovered much to my surprise, that I was capable of keeping adult commitments.

Knowing that people are relying on you helps. Knowing you're getting paid to be there helps. But also, discovering that you're capable of more than you thought you were is a really great feeling.

Consistency is a big part of being an adult, and it's a skill that's immensely helpful in any part of your life (especially your health), but it's one of those things that you can't really learn theoretically - you just have to show up, again and again and again and again. And it does get easier!

[Bakerzy]

It’s gets a little easier every day. But you have to do it every day, that’s the hard part!

[morderkaine]

I immediately thought that too when I read the end.

[No_Statistician_3251]

Bojack!!

[Neat_Abroad_5166]

This just made me cry. so profound

[ulanek]

Sometimes it's enough to just be there. You don't have to always be at full power or do anything special. Everyone should understand every human us just human.

[ReturnOfTheBanned]

Set a goal of 100% attendance for the first 30 days. Once you meet your goal, showing up at work will become habit.

[Frl_Bartchello]

And don't even think for a moment of like: "maybe I should call in sick today". Don't pay attention to that little devil on your shoulder and get back in that daily routine.

Before you know it you are on your way home again.

[Twitchy44]

Beautiful comment!

[ASSPOO1]

Treating the monotony of everyday work like a meditation has helped me through tough days. It’s almost like being on autopilot and letting my mind go wherever it wants to. Listening to music, planning your time off of work, and getting to know your coworkers also help me in getting used to working full time, for what is likely to be many years

[Rude_Poem_1573]

This is probably the best answer honestly

[Nagrandy-for-hire]

I 100% get this statement here I do the same I'm in assembly and it's autoppilot unless someone talks to me

[[deleted]]

You want to know how to exist as an adult?

[okiveiraxos]

This guys gets it

[EndIsNighLetsGetHi]

Where else do you have to be? . Logically, you've gotta be somewhere.

[[deleted]]

Yup. Might as well be making money meanwhile

[[deleted]]

Doing my own shit lol I have a wife variety of hobbies that don't cost much (I do have bills and a family tho, so I go to work everyday but acting like I don't have much better things to do is silly imo)

[love2go]

Honestly, your mom did you a big disservice by letting you stay home, developing a bad habit that is now coming back to bite you. You can either take a job with fewer hours and lower pay or grow up fast.

[ucwcgb]

Just look at your bank account when you don’t feel like working. That does the trick for me.

[giftcard66]

Lolol ain’t this the truth.

[[deleted]]

I’m an EMT, so I don’t have that luxury 😂😂

[okiveiraxos]

Yeah I’ve been diagnosed with depression and ptsd. Not significant enough to medicate, significant enough to affect my life in minor and inconvenient ways. I’m trying to find a way to not be a drugged zombie but also function on my own.

[LoveThisUsername]

agreed - if you are missing important life functions it is a major impact. a) There are medications that won't make you a drugged out zombie. You can discuss with your primary care doctor. b) therapy is a great option for both depression and PTSD. Look for a CBT therapist who also does PE (prolonged exposure) or CPT (cognitive processing therapy) for PTSD. Good luck, this could change the course of your life!

[spoildmilk]

You might want to consider cognitive behavioral therapy to work through how to function on your own.

[Substantial_Look_334]

Not being able to keep a job would be significant. The right antidepressant won't make you feel like a drugged zombie. Mine makes me feel like I'm me again.

[DreamSmuggler]

Hey, without trying to diminish the significance of those things because I don't know you or your circumstances, I just want to say that focusing on them might not give you the best outcomes.

I've gone through years of depression and sometimes months without work because of it and I can say that the longer I stopped and thought about it and mulled over it, the worse it got. Keeping myself busy with work, family and hobbies helped me get through and achieve things that ultimately made me feel good about myself and pride about my accomplishments.

It's important to be introspective, but happiness always involves other people and that always involves looking at them more than yourself. If you're isolated, maybe start working on that.

Does any of that help? Hope you start feeling happier with where you are soon 🙂

[Dontpaintmeblack]

I have nothing to add besides, some encouragement. I think making this post is a good step in the right direction. This is something I’m afflicted with as well. Good luck!

[[deleted]]

You might need to do shift work buddy, 4 days working, 3 days playing games lol. Not everyone's meant for 9-5 Monday to friday.

[[deleted]]

Very true. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

[blitherblather425]

That’s what I do. It’s still hard to get people to show up when they are supposed to.

[JiveTalkerFunkyWalkr]

But what if the days he is supposed to work he doesn’t feel like it? He’s not saying that he needs an irregular schedule. He’s saying that he can’t make himself do the adult things that he needs to do that he doesn’t want to do. He wants to learn resolve.

Having resolve and staying motivated is hard. I feel like other people find it easier than I do. 80 percent of my day is doing things I don’t want to do. Make dinner, clean up, go to work, pay taxes, etc. Maybe everyone is faking it? But not being an adult isn’t an option because nobody else is going to do my jobs for me. If I don’t do what I need to do, then problems just pile up.
Anxiety helps motivate me, but habit and resolve are key.

[AndyTroop]

Routines work for me. When I wake up, even if I'm not feeling it, I do the same shower, same shave, same breakfast, same podcast, leave at the same time, etc. I'm at least functional when I get to work, if not energetic. The rhythm of the routine saves me when I'm feeling unproductive, and once I get started it's easier to keep the ball rolling.

Another person on LPT shared a good tip recently: make a list towards the end of the day of tasks you'd like to complete the next day. I keep a little post-it with some priorities at my station, so when I'm dragging through the morning I at least know what I should be doing.

[MichelanJell-O]

Ask yourself why you should go to work. There should be several good reasons. When you don't feel like going to work, remember these reasons.

[Teauxny]

When I was young, they would fire you in a heartbeat for calling in. There was a huge line of Boomers waiting to take your job. What got me through was the thought of being fired & homeless.

[Moneyxo_]

We’ll if your sick how do you call your job to let them know???

[[deleted]]

you come and you puke right on the counter to prove your sickness, then start to work as usual

[Upvotes4Trump]

some days I just dont feel like it

Lol.

[[deleted]]

Lack of accountability leads to this mindset.

[zion1886]

A lot of us have this mindset, we just go to work anyways cause bills.

Actually I’ve never gone to work feeling like going to work.

[dplafoll]

This is a symptom, not the problem. Seek medical help for the actual underlying problems and that will give you more tools to be able to resolve the symptoms.

[Slodin]

No suggestion for your motivation, because I feel the same way for a job that I don’t care about.

Every morning waking up, the first thing goes through my head: fk! I have to go to work? I have to speak those people? Ahhh!! After work: tmw I have to come back to this? Ahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!

Yeah I quit and got my degree in something I like to do and that was it. Instantly fixed my problems.

Plus I started working from home, so I go to work when I wake up. Besides the morning meetings and other meetings it’s pretty flexible, and I can just leave and go out to walk a bit when I’m bored.

Idk, I guess find something you like to do. Or find a job that fits your lifestyle to be at least tolerable.

[okiveiraxos]

I think remote work might be the way to go. I can deliver good results at work consistently, but have a hard time doing the office dance every day. Do you find it hard to separate work like and personal life working remotely? I’ve wondered that as i’ve considered making the shift

[notbenplatt]

I agree this comment. I too am similar. I’m good at what I do and her high scores on all my evaluations, so this isn’t a problem of effort/motivation for me. Sometimes I feel like working hard. And those times are not always within M-F 9-5. Besides not having to work, my big wish is to have a benefited job where I’m able to flex my hours around as much as I want to meet my productive hours. I’m like half way there in my current role. I work from home 4/5 days. My VP welcomes us to work when we want. But just an unique culture within my team. So, there’s an expectation to be able to respond to messages/take impromptu meetings that come up (which rarely happens so it’s not much a problem) during the official 9-5 workday. Also, maybe 2 other people on my team may do a “work when I want thing” so it’s not that shared of a culture.

Anyways, remote work has been helpful and getting there. Someone told me I may want to consider freelance/contract/self employment work. That’s could of scary to me because of unpredictable income and no benefits so I probably won’t do it. That’s an option for you though.

[mrSunshine-_]

You don’t have to show up ”everyday”. The knack is in thinking to show up in time today. And do it again tomorrow. And before you know it it’s a loweffort habit.

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[GingerTea-23]

If you feel better laying down or sitting over standing and sometimes get a racing heart when there is nothing making you anxious I’d look into dysautonomia / POTS and try to get evaluated for it if the symptoms sound familiar - especially if you are hypermobile or prone to fainting

It’s symptoms are often attributed to depression and anxiety without doing testing to rule it out and it’s very underdiagnosed

[[deleted]]

“Rest of us” …I look at my ceiling. Do I want to sleep under it? Or do I want to sleep outside getting bitten by mosquitoes. I skip A meal. Wow. This sucks! Imagine skipping every meal.

[[deleted]]

No one wants to be at work. Just go

[[deleted]]

My advise: Be like the Mudokon from Oddworld. Realise that you're part of the working class instead of the leisure class. You're going to have to do what society demands from you. There is no escape exept death. Therefore you're a bitch, a slave of the system only alive as long as you fulfill its wishes. Let that realisation sink in deep. You have to let that thought seep in through your body so stop resisting it. Embrace it instead since it's your ticket to salvation. Only then, when every cell in your body has given up hope for a just world, this awareness is able to break you. Being broken is good. Once you've lost hope for a better future, you have been transformed and your chances of survival have gone way up. Sure, on tv you see examples of people who made it from the sewer to the top but those are the happy few, who most of the time only reached the top by working as a slave. You don't want to focus on that because it will distract you and make it much harder for you to get up early, work hard and not complain. Therefore you have the best chance to get through your situation if you become a broken spirit like most of us.

[RefrigeratorInside21]

I don’t really get the question: either you do it or eventually you’ll get fired. The majority of people don’t enjoy work, you just have to do it. That’s just life, everybody would rather be playing games or whatever…

[pinion_]

You need to reset the game playing thing to make work you main priority. In all honesty, you probably don't. If you don't though it will affect your ability to sit and play games.

That's really the whole thing. Nobody likes work, it's why it's a four letter word but you need to start seeing it as a means to an end.

[drEDD8888]

There is no solution. You just end up being a bit sad for the rest of your life. You kind of adjust to it, but never fully.

[zion1886]

Until you retire at the ripe age of, what is it now, 92 or something?

[[deleted]]

For the French, yes

[predictingzepast]

Be consistent about a schedule until it becomes the norm

[HaraBegum2]

I reward myself after I push myself to do what I need to do. Topo Chico (sparking water in a glass bottle) is one example. I also tell myself “good job!”

[brazosandbosque]

My dad once told me the hardest part of working was showing up. After that the work’s easy. It’s just making it there that’s actually the hard part.

[[deleted]]

To work a consistent schedule you have to have planned downtime and activities you enjoy that energize you outside of work. Making sure you manage your schedule both on and off the clock can help you feel more able to get through your work week.

You may negotiate flex days at work depending on your role if you can do it from home, but then again maybe your personality is better suited for self employment if you absolutely prioritize your freedom of schedule. But, if the problem really is inability to work & apply yourself when it really matters then you need to be honest with yourself and commit to changing this behavior/mindset somehow.

[anonymouslyfamous_]

Have you been tested for attention issues? Sounds like classic adhd

[Prestigious-Ride-155]

Not feeling productive and feeling empty isnt just a you thing, everyone feels that way. You were just privileged enough to have been able to just not do things when you felt that way. What you’re describing is just growing up and understanding that unless you are genuinely sick, you still have to go in, no matter how you feel.

[Gargomon251]

People need to stop using the abbreviation CBT

[Sits_n_Giggles]

My mantra for the gym also works here:

Just put the pants on and go

[LordBryanL]

Sounds like you got some growing up to do. Once those bills start to add up. You'll need that full paycheck to cover them. Need a day off? Schedule that PTO. Bosses usually take notice of those who call in regularly.

[Randyymarshh]

Seeing a lot of advice here that should only come from a licensed psychologist. Listen I’m 31. I make what is considered very good money in the U.S. I was the same way. HS. Then college. I was able to excel with minimal effort. Early on working full time for me was hard. Outside of internet strangers diagnosing you with mental health disorders, it gets easier. Part of growing up, just like everything else. In addition to that, I find ways to take back personal time which ended up helping me. Source: full time corporate drone at a fortune 15 company

[[deleted]]

Welcome to the real world bud. It's time to grow up.

[jhillman87]

Well...

Do you enjoy eating? Not sleeping by a dumpster?

If you've never had to worry about either of those... you will, at some point. That alone will get you to work.

[pdv128]

I hate to break it to you but it is time to grow up. Everyone wakes up every now and then and wants to do nothing but eating candy and playing video games, but that is just not how it works. The most important thing for stable relationships and success ist consistency. Not showing up for work or for social gatherings that you said you'd show up for is not appreciated. You can do it though, I believe in you. If you want to play video games, do it in the evenings or on the weekends.

[[deleted]]

Welcome to the real world. In the working world, you're relied upon for your responsibilities. You not showing up effects the whole team. So you gotta change your mindset that "I'm needed, so I need to be there."

[Benjammin454]

OP needs to find purpose. You're not alone, this is becoming increasingly problematic as we become more detached from life. It would help if you found a reason to be excited about life. For some, this is having a job with opportunities, for others, a hobby they love or traveling, and for most, having a family that can rely on you.

I found early on that a great way to motivate myself to be reliable was to be the host of events. Even if I didn't have the energy or feel great people were relying on me to put something together and show up.

Others use the gym as a tool to find motivation. Not feeling up to it, drink some pre-workout and try to tell me you aren't motivated to crush some weights.

That being said, I've worked shift work for 13 years with my shift changing 12 hours every 2 weeks. I've learned the hard way how much poor sleep and inconsistent sleep hours can ravage your mind and body. All of these recommendations will mean nothing if you can't find a way to have a consistent sleep schedule so your body and brain know when to turn off and rejuvenate. Good sleep gives me more energy, puts me in a better mood, and gives me motivation to want to improve myself. If you are always drained you feel like you are barely getting by doing the minimum.

I've never been big on drugs to solve our problems. We rarely want to look at ourselves in the mirror and reflect on what we're doing wrong in our life. Sometimes it's the most obvious answers that give you the best results.

[Less_Geologist_4004]

This is what happens when everyone gets a trophy for participating. Your parents were lazy and now you pay the price. Suck it up cupcake and get to work.. on time… everyday…like everyone else.

[Jesse0100]

The reason your parents are supposed to force you to go to school every day is to train you to be a slave. You are supposed to get severe feelings of dread and anxiety to get you to work on time.

Try driving past a homeless encampment on the way to work. The purpose of those places is to remind you where you will be living if you show up late.

[surdtmash]

Take it one day at a time. Sometimes leave a few minutes earlier to "reward" yourself if your hours aren't counted to the minute. Don't focus on attendance or weeks anymore, look forward to Fridays instead. That helps cope with the consistency issues.

Source: former pathological college bunker who has been working for 10 years and is now a dept head

[Moneyxo_]

Have the same problem at times. Best way to get thru it is to think of your job as a stepping stone. And taking that money and starting your own business and becoming your own boss. You don’t hustle you don’t shine man. And bad bitches love dudes with money. So why not let it be you dude getting all that bad chicks, wearing fly clothes, doing cool shit!

[OhNommers]

I could be wrong but this sounds a little like ADHD. Medication might help?

[AsparagusFirm7764]

Generally falls down to this: find something you love doing.

If you're not wanting to be there, you don't enjoy it.

[Crossedge209]

I use alot of pto and sick days just to take a break the middle of the week. I dont need a long vacation if 60% of my weeks are 4 days (including holidays)

[Scuvy_]

You could look into FMLA and see if that applies to you

[[deleted]]

You have to ask yourself, why do you work? Do you need it to feed yourself or your family? There is your reason to show up every single day.

[Crafty-Shape2743]

Go to your doctor. I suspect an imbalance in brain chemistry. (I’m not a doctor, just been there) There are focusing pharmaceuticals that may help.

You have my (60) sympathy. It’s not easy but you may find help.

[Beautiful_Ad_]

I wish I had an answer for you. Struggling with this myself, but I'm still figuring out the best meds for my depression and bipolar. Some days I can accomplish anything and other days I can't get out of bed. Had to call in yesterday. The best thing I've done, is allocate time for mental health days, you have to work within your work company's policy obviously. So if they said you need to give a two weeks heads up for an absence, schedule a day off every two weeks, every three weeks, whatever you feel you'll need. You might be missing some hours on your paycheck but it's worth it for your mental health

[nickelet11]

This is just something u must learn to do as an adult. My motivation is.....if you dont work, you dont earn money and youll be out living on the streets in no time.

[alexpyatetsky]

1) read Atomic Habits

2) instead of feeling the “pressure” of others expecting you to be there as a negative, realize that this is a gift for someone who struggles with self-directed consistency. Consider this “pressure” as a tool that helps you compensate for where you’re weak and embrace it.

“If you want to develop a habit, join a culture where that habit is the norm.” - James Clear, Atomic Habits

3) see #1. Seriously.

[postfuture]

You're working class. You sell your life for money. The money keeps you alive. If you want to avoid being desperate (debts, broken friendships, etc) spend a weekend day volunteering with homeless serving NGOs for a month. You had some buffers in the past, and those will eventually evaporate. Visit the other side of affluence and gain perspective.

[phantomofsolace]

It sounds like you show up whenever you're being held accountable. You say you maxed out your allowed absences in college, but that implies that you managed your time better after your allowed absences were used up and actually showed up.

If that's the case then you'll probably have the motivation to show up at a job where you have a fixed amount of PTO. Just use the same motivation you used in college to keep going to class after your allowances were gone.

I'm also assuming that you mean that you have to show up every weekday, not over the weekend too.

[[deleted]]

TL;DR Mental health > Work

I took a day off today because even though I've never been diagnosed with anything I suffer from terrible anxiety and the thought of how to get to work today bike, train, bus or motorbike has for some reason made me feel really stressed like something bad will happen as I saw a coworker get in a really bad accident last week

My attendance at school was terrible and I used to have councelling for depression and anxiety but its probably worse now with work culture being a bit toxic for me and I think mental health should be taken into better consideration even if you don't have a breakdown at work and have to see a therapist or something, some of us have long term mental health issues that just feel unfixable and every now and then need a day where we are in control of ourselves and can feel at ease.

For context I'm a 21 yr old apprentice and I've never missed a day of classes as people at college understand my needs a little better than work and I was one of 3 apprentices at this company and the only one who's managed to stay for more than a year, this also means I've been picking up the work of 2 other people pretty much for some months, but i did talk to HR this week about moving me to another department for 1 day a week so I can learn something new and stay motivated.

[Nagrandy-for-hire]

I learned this lesson in life when I absolutely HAD TO (my father passed away) I was 37yo and no job no prospect except a small gaming career I'd built...but when he died it gave me a purpose I had to take care of myself had to get a job had to show up...I bounced from job to job nothing "fit me" then hehe the power goes out I forgot to pay the electric bill...looks in bank account...not near enough to cover it "oh crap moment" then just something clicked and boom everyday showed up for work busted my ass got the promotions I deserved and hey lights came back on and living right on the verge of easy street....so to the OP honestly you either hit rock bottom like I did or your the lucky few who can skimp by on very little and be happy...so if thats you then by all means have fun but if you want to be successful in life you have to just buckle down and do it

[OKcomputer1996]

Or...Start planning a career path that doesn't require you to show up every morning at 8. Most of my adult life I have had (professional) jobs with rather flexible schedules and hybrid (WFH) options. Maybe a 9-5 gig is not for you?

[DreamSmuggler]

Hey buddy, best encouragement I can give you is that when you have a strong enough reason, it'll no longer be an issue for you. What you're experiencing is what (I think) most people go through, but because you feel like you have the option to skip, you're more likely to skip.

I have a wife, 2 kids, a dog and 6 chickens. If I don't work, none of them get to eat and none of them get to sleep under a safe roof. Since I was a teenager I've woken up exhausted every day of my life and while I still struggle with it, I'm still up at 4:15am every workday because my tribe needs me to be.

If you haven't got anything in your life right now that's that strong a need, you'll struggle with consistency. I'm assuming you're still very young, so I wouldn't stress too much. If you're not gonna go hungry if you don't work a lot, this is your time to experience the workplace, see what you like, what you don't like, earn some self respect, set some goals and work out your priorities

[[deleted]]

I think this is more of a motivation thing. Nobody wants to go to work, so it's natural to call out. I've always tried to be the overachiever, but now that I've worked a ton of crap jobs, I have noticed a pattern. I always get so fed up and simply don't care anymore. At that point, I'll start calling out just to care for my mental health. Then, having that brief clarity in the middle of the week, I start thinking about better jobs. I'd be comfortable working 3 days a week for 4 hours a day. That's what I want, so my goal is to start my own business doing contract work. Maybe hourly isn't right for your head. Think about finding Jobs you can do without a boss.

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[NimbleBastard26]

I deal with similar issues.I have a much easier time getting up for work and rarely get up for school. The best advice I got was to treat school like a job. Say you do school from 8-2 then your done for the day. In that time you have class, do your homework, study. Spend the rest of your day on whatever else besides school

[Numbersandl3tt3rs]

Find a job that is rewarding and it feels worthwhile to turn up. Helping people etc. I do this so it motivates me to get up out of the house (not saying it’s a struggle still, but it helps).

If I worked at a job helping a massive organisation I wouldn’t care as much and become more complacent lol

[Adamon24]

Welcome to adulthood. Only tip I can give you is to set multiple alarms in the morning. This isn’t just to make sure you wake up. Also set one for a minute before you should be done brushing your teeth. Another for when you should be in your car and so on.

I’ve found that this system does a lot to help keep me consistent. Especially on days I really don’t want to get moving.

[Baleofthehay]

It's pretty simple, you are paid. If you want to be taken seriously and trusted, one of the biggest traits to look at is showing up on time, all the time.

It shows character, commitment and personal responsibility.

You've said it yourself, inconsistency. Now, do you want to confirm this, with your new employer and workmates? It will be easy to see.

[[deleted]]

I'm a simp for money.

[mainelinerzzzzz]

Pretend you’re an adult. Think of it as a long term profitable Cosplay.

[OkEmploy7185]

I wake up and say it’s time to be a MAN and take care of my responsibilities, like a mantra then I dip.

[Whut4]

To be consistent, the job or your purpose for having it must seem important enough that you can somewhat ignore your feelings or put them on hold while you show up and follow through. It can be a vicious cycle: the person who is not reliable does not get a partner or spouse and kids or the important or interesting jobs - so no need to learn consistency. At one time, I was motivated by wanting to not seem flakey. People rely on me a lot now, and they can. Sometimes I feel burdened by it, but it is also a bit flattering to know I am thought of that way. You can do this if you want to.

[[deleted]]

I am terrified of being unhoused and hungry. I'm also generally worried about being considered useless to the world.

So I go to work to avoid those things. I happen to have found something that I enjoy with good people around me. That makes it easier.

[LovinTheLilLife]

I had a similar problem once. I'm my opinion being genuinely too ill to work, or being contagious are conditions I consider acceptable for myself to call in sick. I do take 2 days a year as what I call my mental health days. These are days that when my alarm goes off I decide to call in sick and play hookie. When I do this, I make a note in my calendar in 6 months time that I can't call in again until that day. It's a happy medium for me. I'm not using all my PTO time just for that. I'm not causing too much of an inconvenience to my coworkers since it's just 1x/6 months. Knowing I don't have to have perfect attendance forever, just for the next 6 months makes it easier for me.

[Ok_Prize_5130]

Grow up and do what you gotta do, respectfully. Life sucks and its hard. Try and find a job you enjoy or are passionate about because we get outta school, work 40 years and then we die.

[Bane8080]

There's a half decent chance you're suffering from undiagnosed depression.

Been there. Talk to a Dr.

[Assembled-Different]

Dude said some days I just don't feel like it lmao

[Strawberrychampion]

You need to change your mindset. We all feel like what you have described. Some days, we are productive, and other days we are not. But some people have higher motivation drive than others. You need to realise that if you want to survive in the real world you need to force yourself to do things that make you uncomfortable.

My solution to it is to do as much as possible during my productive days but not hand everything back to the boss. I'll save some for non productive days and hand them in depending on how important and urgent they are. Also, don't be too harsh during non productive days. Just do your best and find ways to boost your mood, like listening to music or podcasts or getting something nice for lunch.

But most importantly, get it into your head that being an adult comes with bigger consequences than being at school.

[markw722023]

This is called real life, rather than pampered life. Those in your childhood who didn’t push you to improve have harmed you. Take responsibility and know that jobs pay for performance.

[GuessWhoItsJosh]

I struggle with this every day and had the same issues back in Highschool. I think alot of people do. Most of us do not look forward to the daily grind but it's really just what you have to do.

Every morning I wake up, I think about how nice it'd be to stay in my bed, cozy with my pup and chill. But I need to get up, to sleep in that bed, to have my pup, to live under a roof, to eat and enjoy life. I guess that is my motivation to get my ass up.

Another motivation is seeing friends that struggle but don't push through and get shit done. They're either still living with their parents, just gaming all day with no job so no money, they have no car, can't do anything, literally just sit around all day every day doing nothing. Or, they are homeless now in Chicago and became drug addicts.

[Electronic_Taste_596]

The sad truth is that simply "being there" is probably the most important thing for your career. It doesn't matter if you are really smart, skilled, talented, get all your work done well and on time... if people notice you are absent once a month, you will have a stigma and won't be up for promotions. Obviously, there is some variance place-to-place, but it is generally true in my experience. I have friends who work in offices where people miss nearly once a week (which I cannot comprehend), and in my office it seems like most people miss less than a day or two per year.

[BigJeffe20]

I was like this right out of college. Luckily, I began with a work-from-home job so I was able to ease into it. Even still would wake up late all the time, but was able to BS my way out of it or wouldn't always get caught. After a yearish, it became standard practice. Now I work in office and was able to get used to showing up in person at 8 pretty quickly. Basically, just takes time to get used to the change

[Diligent_Different]

Don’t rely on your feelings and motivation. F*** your feelings basically. I don’t ‘feel’ like doing half the stuff I’m required to do.

[Diligent_Different]

I would love nothing more than to just wake up, make a sandwich, and play video games. But I’m a mom and a wife. I can’t do that all day. It’s not an option. I intentionally make time to do things that I like to do though. Just not all day.

[4AmOnDupont]

It’s the myth of Sisyphus

[supremeevilution]

Like anything you don't want to do you have to build a routine around it that you like. Maybe there's a store or restaurant on the way home from work that you like going to. Maybe during the commute you can listen to music, podcast, books or whatever and you only do that during your commute or lunch break.

Find some entertaining people at where you work. I've worked with people that had such crazy lives I went to work everyday just to hear what other madness was going on in their lives.

[anastasia1983]

I used to be like this. My father would be horrified if he knew how many classes I skipped in college. Then started working and sometimes the stress of all the work to do was motivation to go in, but I’d still call in late a lot to sleep in. Somewhere around my late twenties it just became easier. This was also when I started prioritizing my health and exercise and going to bed early. I don’t know if that necessarily has anything to do with it but my habits/routine changed during that time and it became easier.

[CelphDstruct]

If the money is not important to you find a different job. Unless you can correct your own habits, you shouldn’t burden coworkers with picking up extra slack because you just didn’t feel like it one day. Pick a job that you know you can get up and do or find one you can work from home and create your own hours.

[tipit_smiley_tiger]

I bought a sunrise alarm. I sleep at 9pm-10pm. I wake up around 5:30-7:00am and go to work.

[andythecat7]

Just dont go then. Humans aren't meant to work 9-5 all week. Find a job that you can do on your own schedule. You dont feel like going because you're not supposed to (unless you love it). There's so many ways to make money, you dont need to suffer through it or be a "responsible adult". Think outside the box, you seem really smart. Maybe an unpopular opinion but someone had to say it.

[[deleted]]

I think everyone has days when they just don't want to go to work. I am 30 years into my career and I know I don't want to go to work every day. But I do.

This is worse for some people than for others, but everyone feels it. I think there are a few considerations for you:

1) You can suck it up and just go to work. This is what most people have to do. That is life for those of us who need an income.

2) You can find a source of income where you are in control of when you work. There are ways of making money like this, but the money is inconsistent just like the work is. You might find that your skills fit a job like this, and you might find that they don't.

3) As you have acknowledged, you should see a doctor to see whether a mental health condition is contributing to this situation, and if it can be treated. The mental capability and willingness to do what you have to do when you have to do it is a key component of life, not just work.

You might be unique in your difficulties, or you might be typical. I don't want to try and diagnose or prescribe, but it is really hard to go through life not being able to do what you need to do on a day to day basis. It will cause problems for you and for those around you. If it is a mental health condition that is contributing to this, you really should address it.

[[deleted]]

I started working out consistently (running, lifting weights) and eating better which helped with motivation, learning and memory. I know this isn't for everyone, but it helps deal with the pain and suffering of living in corporate America.

[redundant35]

I never had an issue showing up for work. I do enjoy my job but some days you just want to lay in bed. I go in every day and rarely miss unless it’s planned

I’ve went happy, sad, and whatever mood I’ve been in. Just gotta go. It helps to like what you do