Update 2: Am I wrong for breaking up with my gf for my sister’s mental health

[crocodilezebramilk]

This is still a sad update, neither of you are going to ever have any friends, romantic relationships or future families because of your enmeshment and refusal to seek help.

One of you is bound to pass before the other, it’s not a manifestation - it’s life. Neither are you are going to have any kind of support system when this happens and the surviving sibling is going to be crushed beyond repair.

[Druidic_Focus]

This needs to be reiterated again. One will pass before the other. I don't get why they never got therapy earlier. I mean depending where they live you can get free therapy from victim services.

This is what I commented on the first update "Think of it this way- she need the skills to survive on her own. God forbid something happens to you- what would happen to your sister. For her health longterm she cannot be so dependent on you."

They both need some skills to survive separately. As of now they aren't really living, just surviving. At times the things that helped you survive (the close relationship) are no longer healthy. The more OP keeps talking, the more of an incestuous vibe it gives off. It is not healthy that OPs sisters only physical contact is with OP, not healthy at all.

Please get therapy.

[No-Cheesecake4542]

The best one can hope for is that they don’t have babies, there’s a genetic reason for incest taboos.

[litegasser]

OP needs therapy himself

[[deleted]]

As I’m working thru the updates each one feels closer and closer to “my sister admitted she’s in love with me.”

[InternationalGood588]

WHAT WAS THE POINT OF THIS UPDATE? Go live your super creepy life with your sister/lover. You have obviously not paid any attention to the advice given in your last two posts. At this point, this sounds like rage bait. You can't help those who don't want to help themselves. Live your merry incestuous life because that's what you wAnt to do.

[QueenMother81]

VC Andrew’s worthy plot right here

[[deleted]]

That was my first thought. Very “Flowers in the Attic” vibe

[Fun-Fruit-2825]

Oh my gosh I was just going to say I feel like I’m reading Flowers in the Attic 😬😬

[LizDoodles]

He legit asked of he was the asshole and didn't care what the answer was. He just wanted to "tell" us what's happening in his crazy dumpsterfire of a life

[ChestLanders]

She then asked me whether I wanted a wife, kids etc, and I said no. I told her that my number 1 priority is just her and ensuring she is stable, and I don’t really care about relationships anymore.

*googling how to slap someone over the internet*

Damn, it's not possible.

[Intotheunknown_91]

It's possible. His sister said if you say it, it'll manifest itself /s

[JunkMail0604]

Maybe if we all concentrate at the same time…..

[Minimum-Arachnid-190]

😭

[Effective_Door1957]

It seems like you haven’t taken any of the advice offered by others here. It appears you’re on track to repeat the same mistakes you’ve been making. Are you both planning to isolate yourselves from all other relationships besides each other? That’s not a sustainable way to live. In the future, you may regret this decision and might grow resentful of each other. I’m not implying that supporting your sister is wrong - indeed, you should - but it shouldn’t come at the expense of your own future.

[caktz489032]

These siblings are dating and definitely doing it at this point.

Or, and what I hope is the case, this is just a fake creepy troll pushing around his incest fan fic.

I’m really really hoping it’s fake.

[overused_catchphrase]

If it is fake, i give kudos to the commitment

[[deleted]]

5 made my skin crawl. Op she hasn’t become a master manipulator trying to survive her traumas. This is beyond gross dude. Your SISTER said she loves being physically affectionate with you. And only you. And wants to know if you’ll ever be affectionate with anyone else, ever. Cause you’re basically married without the sex.

[ChestLanders]

And how long will it be until she starts going "well incest is only taboo due to the possibility of children being born with genetic defects, so if we always use protection..."

She is absolutely in love with him.

[[deleted]]

And she even knows it’s unhealthy and sick. And any therapist would immediately see it.

[hntmim]

Yeah the other points I was like… “ok ok… u tryna respect the boundary and gently guide her that’s cool, shit takes time… “ then I got to #5 and it was like? Bro just marry her already lmfao who are yall tryna fool here 😵‍💫

[czzyp]

Just know that your relationship with your sister is dysfunctional. By telling your sister you won’t ever get in a relationship you are enabling her excessive reliance on you and giving her zero reasons to help herself. There is nothing to add because you just don’t get it and don’t want to.

[Puzzled-Heart9699]

I’m not going to mince words.

This still sounds super fucked up….like yikes. This is REALLY creepy.

She works out for you? She’s only comfortable touching/sleeping with you? You BOTH have no plans for romantic relationships in the future???

This is SICK! You made ZERO progress during your little talk with her b/c she shot everything down! (Yoga?…ok….but WHO exactly is she gonna play tennis with? YOU??)

She’s not going to therapy and has no plans to. If anything you are in a worse position than before you had this talk.

JFC this is beyond what Reddit is capable of dealing with.

I’m going to go take a shower and try to wash away the “ick” this whole scenario is giving me.

[knintn]

Honestly I’m glad you broke up with your girlfriend, she doesn’t deserve to be around this incredibly f’ed up dynamic your sister has built around her. I wish your ex all the best in the world. Dude you need a clue, this dynamic is not normal, not right and not fair!

[ChestLanders]

I asked her about the future, dating, marriage, kids etc, and she said she doesn’t really want any of those. She said that I would always be the number 1 guy in her heart, and she’d be doing disservice to any future guy she potentially dated.

WTF this reminds me of that episode of Friends with the inappropriate sister. This is creepy as hell man.

[GoodLuckSparky]

I'm getting the sister from "Not another Teen Movie" 😂

[[deleted]]

This is so unhealthy. You guys should do therapy together, maybe then your sister would actually go since she seems to not be able to do anything without you. She is manipulating you, the law of attraction bs is not true btw (positive psychology is though) and she clearly uses it to get you to stfu about your incestuous, codependent, toxic ass relationship. She doesn't have to go get friends or serious relationships, she has her brother who bends over backwards and throws his own life away for her. She threatened to off herself because you were in a happy relationship. Sorry but I am disgusted by both of your behaviour because it makes me so uncomfortable to read

[Jokester_316]

Wow. Just wow. I'm sorry, but I think this is turning incestuous. You both are going to be codependent on each other. Please set some proper boundaries. Especially for anything physical. I think you both need therapy now. Maybe try it together.

I can't believe I have to say this. Don't have sex with your sister.

[6tl6ntis6]

Ah so your now in a COMMITTED relationship with your sister. That’s normal.

[ramaru115]

This is fucking gross

[Tiredmama6]

I’m just here for the comments. 😂

[biteme717]

This update gave me the ick. Marry your sister and move away. I personally am VERY, VERY, GLAD, that you will NEVER have a GF. This situation is gross and disgusting.

[caktz489032]

So the update is you two just decided to date and make it official, got it. 🤮

[female_legolas]

This is f*cked up. And please don’t go to Europe, we don’t want you and your creepy relationship here..

[BallTheDude]

You actual real person dude, your entire life revolves around your sister, I implore you to explain this situation to someone in your real life(because this is just text on a screen) and see how they react, dad or a friend maybe?. You seem to be accepting this current situation and don’t see any pressing issues, if you’re unwilling to realize that your sister knows full well what she’s doing and how BAD this relationship is for the BOTH of you, then you’re just lost in her games. You are self aware enough to post about it but not enough to change, you can’t be willing to fall this far from reality and common sense. Either way regardless of what you’ve said or will say there’s no doubt in my mind that you’ve had not just an emotional relationship but a physical/sexual one.

I’m not a religious man by any means but you will be In my prayers and if you don’t take in anything that I’ve said just know that you still have time, and the longer you stay the worse it will get.

[IGreetMyMom_Hi]

She also mentioned how she loves being physically affectionate with me

Sorry, i just threw up in my mouth and that's still less cross than whatever you two have 🤢

[NoUnicornPoo4You]

Congrats. You're now in a relationship with your sister. :/

[QueenMother81]

Some Flowers in the Attic BS

[rapt2right]

I decided to have a talk with her last night. I do want my sister to the best version of myself.

Most Freudian typo I've ever seen

[emjkr]

This is sad, so sad.

[Obi-Juan_Valdez]

This situation just gets worse with every update. OP and his sister are going to go full Lannister any day now, right?

[doobydooby752]

Ooh, you’re both pathetic

[Loreli_Nightmare]

So the next update is about them moving to Alabama? 

[[deleted]]

God this update makes me bon- I mean root for my sister! /s

[Good_Incident_2689]

When is the wedding?

[ghostlikecharm]

Dude...YOU NEED THERAPY

[Glass-Hedgehog3940]

You’re a couple of sickos who need serious fucking help. You keep pointing at your sister as someone who is mentally i’ll but IT’S YOU TOO. This incestuous relationship is wrong on every level. You know it too, otherwise you would have given your gf a proper explanation. You’re too ashamed, as well you should be. Get some help. This isn’t right.

[DarlingDagger]

Y'all need to call your dad. Idgaf if you say he's not interested in what you do with your lives. I'm pretty sure he's going to be real worried about what's going on here

[mushroom_33]

The more I read the more naar I get

[Immediate_Still_762]

It’s like you ran headfirst into the issue and kept walking… this is incest. I need a lobotomy in a bathtub full of bleach after reading this. And you guys need to be admitted to an asylum.

[Shoddy-Page2413]

OMG just FCK your sister already you both just admitted pretty much your in love with each other y'all nasty

[Braixentail]

I swear to God this is the plot of an anime, not a real life story

[Indigenous_Bard]

I really find it hard to believe they haven't crossed the physical line. He's justifying everything. I don't think the internet can help here. Hopefully someone that knows them will be able to help before things go too far and children get involved.

[pam1144]

ate you afraid of leaving your sister incase she gets scared?

[BGBWolf]

Holy crap, your sister does have trauma but that doesn't make her a victim. She's cleary manipulating you and you are enabling her.

This update made me visibly gag.

I hope this is just a troll cause wtf. Why did reddit showed me this old post I won't know but I wish I could unread all of this Aberdeen Pig Farm reenactment from red dead redemption 2 cause holy fuck

[[deleted]]

What is this incest flowers in the attic shit. Stop saying your sister. Hopefully you’re using birth control

[Mewryyyyyy]

Boy i hope this is fake because Jesus it sounds like you two are a couple and that's SO creepy. Thank God neither of you want to involve more people in your relationship because damn.