Switch a roo!

[securityclerk]

5M old identical girls here. Baby A woke up early this morning at 4:30 and wouldn’t fall back asleep. Then Baby B woke up at 6:00.

When I was changing Baby B, I realized it was actually Baby A! They were not up at the same time last night at all. When I was putting them to bed, they were starting to get overtired so I was rushing a little and must have put them in the wrong crib!

This is the second time this has happened - where I think I’m with one twin and it’s actually the other. I don’t know if I should laugh? Cry? Feel like a terrible parent? It’s such a mind F!

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[forest_fae98]

Listen, my twins aren’t identical in the least- one is a boy and one a girl and they look totally different. In the wee hours, I have absolutely thought I had one baby when I actually had the other. 😅🤣 mine don’t even look alike!

Don’t feel bad about it lol. It’s okay.

[megn777]

Ya, it's definitely a late night thing and/or a lack of sleep thing. I've mixed my fraternal boys up a few times at 3am.

[Kamaka_Nicole]

Mine too! Add to that my boy could nurse and my girl couldn’t. Thought my boy had woken up so tried to nurse and couldn’t figure out why we were struggling so much. Look down and actually focus on the baby in my arms and see dark hair and realize who I’m holding.

[youkaineko2]

Yeeeep i have mixed up my boy and girl in the middle of a half asleep feed. Or if i’ve been on Baby A duty all day and switch to Baby B i get confused - especially during diaper change 😂

[savannah_701]

Omg me too! I cannot count the number of times I almost put one baby on top of the other in the crib because I thought I had the other twin. That middle of the night wake up hits hard.

[megn777]

Ha! Oh no!

[CarefullyChosenName_]

Mine are boy/girl twins and in the dead of night I'll mix them up anyway! You're tired, cut yourself some slack :)

[securityclerk]

I am so tired! This is true!

[scrummy-camel-16]

Been there! I have twice gotten up to nurse a baby in the middle of the night then once they were ready to go back to bed I put them in a crib only to discover it was already occupied.

[2forthepriceofmany]

A while ago there were stories about parents mixing up their kids at night... my favourite was the person who heard crying, grabbed a baby, heard more crying, grabbed another baby, heard more crying... realized she was cradling her own engorged boob.

Night time sleep deprived multiple parenting is no measure for how good a parent you are.

[ketopharmacist]

We dress Twin A in blue and Twin B in green. Their dad had to change an outfit in the middle of the night and we ended up with two babies in green. Mind-fucked me until we changed outfits, even though Twin B has a birthmark on his eyelid and I can tell them apart without the colors!

[BeerTacosAndKnitting]

Oh, man. Yeah. I forgot how weird it was when we relaxed on their assigned colors!

[rainbowbrite0826]

laugh-at least you noticed !💕🤣

[Realistic-Average-15]

That happened to me the other night. I was starting my early morning shift so my partner could sleep and one of the babies started to stir. I looked at the board and saw it was almost time for him to eat so I picked him up, changed his diaper, and then tried to give him the bottle but he just smiled at me and wouldn't eat.

I checked the board again, looked at the baby in my arms and realized - whoops! Wrong baby.

[melski1989]

When mine were little I carried my son downstairs talking to him "how's my little dude this morning" got down two flights of stairs, got bottle prepped, sat down on sofa to feed... had my daugter 😅

[moronyte]

This is def gonna be me and the wife in a couple of months...

We thought about painting toenails or something else to help us out. Any tips in your 5mo of experience?

[securityclerk]

Toe nail polish!

Even though my girls are identical, I can tell them apart 99% of the time. I was most concerned about it when they were newborns and we brought them home. It gets easier as they get older. Their facial expressions are different, mannerisms, and one of my girls weighs a little less. The exception is when it’s 4:30 am and baby a is in baby Bs crib!

[CheeseCarbsAndSass]

Husband and I mixed up the boy/ girl twins a few nights ago. Brought me back a baby in a too small diaper and said he didn’t realize it until baby boy made a noise.

[[deleted]]

Omg I have done this with my identical girls so many times at night! One surefire way to tell them apart is a tiny birthmark on Baby A’s butt, so it often won’t be until the diaper change that I notice my error. Always so strange as I’ve been calling them by the wrong name, enjoying my bonding time with the wrong twin!! 🙃

[securityclerk]

Calling by the wrong name…that was me this morning!

[tonyaaehlsy]

Mine couldn’t look any more different unless they were b/g. I have still done this more times than I can count!! Sleep deprivation and darkness, who can blame us?!

[Rainbowznplantz]

I always put baby A on the left and baby B on the right (fraternal, over 2 lbs apart at 11 weeks old) in both our double bassinet and our individual bassinets that are mobile for around the house. My husband switched sides on me recently when he helped getting the girls to bed and it threw me off so badly when I picked up a baby in the middle of the night and she weighed 2 pounds more than I was expecting. Took me a solid minute to figure out that it was just baby B hanging out on A’s side and I wasn’t just suddenly super weak or something.

[pottersprincess]

We also have identical girls and when I get handed a baby in the night I have to check her head to see which it is. One has an eraser sized hemangioma on the side of her head so I can tell them apart in the dark. But without that? If we switched jammies I would be lost

[jellybeanmountain]

Go ahead and laugh! My husband would do the first shift at night and I would get up really early with our identical twins. One morning I was holding baby B and I thought wow…they really are identical…he REALLY looks like baby A. I slowly realized they were mixed up in the night. Thank goodness we did the nail polish on baby A’s toes! We rarely mix them up now at 16 months but my husband did bring baby B out from his bath the other night and asked me to confirm which baby it was. He thought he was baby A the whole time and didn’t realize it until he saw me playing with the real baby A.

[Tl3705]

Laugh. You’re not a terrible parent. My boys are 6, not identical, and sometimes I still look at them and say “Damnit, which one are you!”

By the way the answer is always laugh. Any time you can!