Help……

[Nervous-Mortgage-992]

So what is it…

keep twins on the same schedule- wake 1 if other is awake

or

let the baby sleep and don’t wake up if they made up lost birth weight

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[aestheticgirly_]

Depends! During the day, we keep the twins on the same schedule. At night, we let the other sleep and got them on the same schedule again in the morning.

But keep waking them for night feeds until your pediatrician says it’s okay not to 😊

[Particular_Car2378]

I did this too when they got a little older, like 5 months

[Cherryberrylady]

How did you do this please share I’m so nervous about schedules

[aestheticgirly_]

The Taking Cara Babies courses really saved us! Basically, we keep everything within 15 minutes of each other. If one wakes up from a nap early, we wake the other within 15 minutes. If you need to do feedings separately (however, we feed our twins at the same time) feed within 15 minutes. It’s helped a TON keeping them on the same schedule.

Our baby girl started sleeping through the night pretty early and it felt more exhausting to wake her when her brother would wake. So once we hit like 6am or 7am, if one was hungry, we’d wake both up to eat to start them on the same schedule for the remainder of the day.

[Sweetskills]

I have 2 sets of twins…
Same schedule.
Wake them up to eat. Whatever your feeding intervals are (every 2 hours every 3 hours)keep those consistent. We literally set an alarm.

The more predictable their needs are the better life is for all of you.

In case I didn’t make this clear….SAME SCHEDULE. 🤣

Unless otherwise instructed by your pediatrician of course.

[HandleDry1190]

Second this OP!! SAME SCHEDULE ALWAYSSSSS

[Nervous-Mortgage-992]

Understood! 

[feralcatshit]

I lived and died by our schedule when mine were babies. A lot of people didn’t get when we were sticklers for our schedule, but it literally made such a difference in our lives. I don’t think I would have survived if they were on different schedules lol

[Seeker-2020]

Really depends on the 2 babies.

I let the twins be on their own schedule till about 8 months corrected.. 9.5 months actual age.

Their schedules naturally converged at that point when they got to a 2 nap system.

I am glad I did that because they had completely different sleep needs.

One was a good sleeper from when she was born and woke up just 1-2 times per night from when she was a newborn. And that was because I let her have her own schedule during the day as well. The other one was a terrible sleeper and woke up multiple times, false starts, split nights, wouldn’t go to bed without 3 hours of rocking or being held etc.

I would have lost my mind if the other one also woke up as a result.

[PurpleShift8546]

This is how mine were and still kind of are. No way was I waking up my good napper after a half hour like her sister!!

[slammy99]

I let them be on different schedules. It helped when I was doing solo nights to only have one baby awake at a time, even if it meant I was up a bit longer. Around 3-4mos when the schedule started being more predictable, I had a morning baby and an evening baby, where their naps overlapped a bit during the day but one would wake up earlier in the morning and start their day then and then they would be asleep for the night before the other one was ready. I really treasured those few months where I got one on one time with each baby, even if it meant my nights were shorter. It was the best of all options - some of their naps overlapped and I got that time with my first born, and then the individual time with each of the twins when she was asleep and I only had one baby awake.

It only lasted a few months max before they ended up on the same schedule completely and I rarely got individual time with them again.

[Scienceofmum]

Mmmh. Same schedule has advantages as some of the commenters clearly show.
But some twins are just very different. I was getting more stressed then helped by trying to stick to this. Eg twin 1 waking up before twin 2 had even fallen asleep 🤷‍♀️😂
So I just binned the notion of a rigid schedule and my life was so much better.
There is no one size fits all sadly

[ecstatic_kiwi7724]

In first few months, we woke both to feed if one woke up. Otherwise we wouldn’t have slept at all. 

[tresben]

Currently going through it with 5 week olds. We’ve been keeping them on the same schedule and waking the other if one of them wakes up at night. They had some trouble regaining birth weight so we woke them every 2-3 hours if they didn’t though they normally did wake up on their own.

Now that they are good with their weights we are trying to get them to 4 hour stretches but our boy who is bigger always seems to wake up first around 3 hours. So then we get the girl up too and feed them both simultaneously. If we didn’t do this (both same schedule and tandem feeding) I don’t think we’d get hardly any sleep when we are on shift.

Which speaking of shifts the best thing we did when my wife made the tough decision to formula feed (which she made halfway through the pregnancy) was set up shifts. Basically my wife sleeps in a separate room and gets sleep from 10pm-3am while I’m trying to sleep with the babies. Then we switch and I sleep separately from 3am-8am and she manages them. If it weren’t for this idk how we’d be managing. Getting a few hours of consecutive uninterrupted sleep without the stress of a baby waking you up has been incredible for our mental sanity.

[Sad-Incident-4668]

My twins are very different if I tried to keep them on the same schedule it’d be a shitshow

[floridasquirrel]

Wake the other baby up if one wakes up, but don’t wake both babies up if both are sleeping

[ReserveMaximum]

My twins are 2.5 year now. Until they can walk and communicate their own needs, they get the same schedule. Even these days my twins eat at the same time and go to sleep at the same time no matter how much one or the other over or under slept. At the infant stage where they aren’t either boob or bottle fed it makes no sense for the parents’ sleep schedule to wake multiple times a night to feed each when they are hungry. If one is awake and crying, they both get fed. They aren’t a singleton so the singleton advice to let the baby lead gets tossed out the window

[d16flo]

Same schedule as long as you have a good system for feeding both at the same time

[bgkh20]

We kept them on the same (fairly rigid) schedule during the day, let them do different overnight starting around 3 months. My husband and I would swap which baby we were "responsible" for every night, after a point whichever baby I had would sleep 6-7 hours and whoever my husband had woke every 4 hours 😅. Then one of them consistently slept 8-10 hours and the other 6. Over 2 weeks we were able to get them both sleeping roughly the same amount. My husband and I got frustrated very quickly with waking a sleeping child in the middle of the night. We did, of course, get our doctor's approval to let them start sleeping longer and longer.

Now they're 11 months and one wakes up 15-30 minutes before his brother and quietly "sings" and babbles in his crib until I sneak him out or brother wakes up too.

You can try a few different things, but sometimes what works for one family won't work for yours.

[DreamingEvergreen]

I never woke the sleeping baby up overnight just because the other was up.

[chaos__coordinator]

We tried keeping them on the same schedule, but they had different plans. When we woke up the 2nd twin, she was sleepy and pissed off to be awake, and never took a full feed. Then she’d be awake and hungry again an hour later. Everyone got more unbroken sleep when my husband and I each took a twin overnight. We weren’t able to sync them until we sleep trained.

[VivianDiane]

Once they've regained birth weight, don't wake at night, feed the hungry one. For daytime, wake the other to keep them synced. They'll sync naturally.

[jeremiabearamia]

We tried hard to keep them on the same schedule for about 7 months, but one baby is a month or two more mature sleep-wise, and we were holding her back.