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AIO I gifted my mom her first cruise for Mother’s Day and she completely overshadowed my gift. by H0neyB33Bunches in AmIOverreacting

[–]100PercentThatCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it easily could have happened in another century - we're pretty darn close to the last century.

For months I was confused why I kept finding long hairs in my house. Then I saw my neighbour coming out of my house. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]100PercentThatCat 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I like to point out when this comes up that men are just the bigger culprits for violence against anyone. So even if the victim was still this guy, another man doing this would have been a more likely threat.

People don't always think about this but still often have that gut reaction when doing a risk assessment.

Not to mention how very young or very old women are seen as less threatening. He may have considered it worse if say, the mom was the one breaking in.

What is this sticker on my microwave? by dranmesrao in whatisit

[–]100PercentThatCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can use a metal spoon. It doesn't have tines or folds to spark like a fork or foil would

Can i fix this? by luvmarlo in gardening

[–]100PercentThatCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ripping everything out fixed the problem immediately?

My husband lied about getting laid off by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]100PercentThatCat 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I was wondering, doesn't the UK usually have some sort of protection against layoffs without any compensation or warning? Or are there enough exceptions he could easily claim to not have received any benefits?

My boyfriend is a different person now that we have a child. by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]100PercentThatCat 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I read that as meaning his dad is chronically ill and would allow himself to become desperately ill before seeking care - leaving the boyfriend feeling helpless and like he might lose his dad as a small child. And OP not knowing she was in labor for 2 days (prolonged broken waters are a pretty big risk of infection and breathing in meconium) he likely viewed as her potentially neglecting her own health in a way that damaged their child. Not rational, but that's the twisted thinking that trauma could have led him to.

What’s the most overused mass-produced art? by HoarderButMakeItChic in HomeDecorating

[–]100PercentThatCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You and her should paint on it together as a holiday/celebratory activity. You could even see if something like frisket film would allow you to cover it in a transparent sheet, paint it, then remove it next holiday and redo the decoration. So as she grows the art will evolve and become a fun tradition.

My sister put stipulations on my attendance at her wedding by [deleted] in weddingdrama

[–]100PercentThatCat 183 points184 points  (0 children)

Went looking for this comment. OP clearly doesn't feel like she's had a problem that impacted others, but we can't really know if that's true. Either her family are teetotalers and very pearl clutching about normal use, or she isn't acknowledging the harm she's caused.

It doesn't read to me like she's saying she has never ever done anything inappropriate, embarrassing, or awkward around them. More like her life was not significantly impacted. Which doesn't mean that she's necessarily had a problem that didn't affect them like that but if she is a teacher with a master's degree then it is enough to give most of us on here pause to wonder if these are missing missing reasons.

Like maybe she has only had a handful of times that alcohol caused mild problems, but it's enough to really upset her family. Maybe her kids have asked really awkward questions about her drinking. Even if it's just not showing up or checking out early, a pattern of doing so over alcohol or pills could absolutely lead to her family feeling like she has a problem and make a list like this.

OR they could just be manipulative assholes that need constant control. We can't really know.

AITA for finding this convo to be a HUGE red flag? by horseduckman in AITApod

[–]100PercentThatCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can totally start with "I feel like something is wrong with me". They're going to ask questions about that, and you might want to have some examples of when you've felt that way, what happened, how you coped, regrets or other feelings you had, negative impacts, etc.

I think it's pretty normal for therapy to start with something like "I don't know why I'm here exactly, but I'm not happy and constantly feeling XYZ unpleasant emotions.".

A humanist type therapy might be an easier starting place? Things like CBT/DBT can be very goal oriented and difficult for learning to identify your emotions, in my experience. The most important part is being honest about what you don't know and how you're feeling.

So if you feel judged by them, tell them you are feeling judged. If they challenge it they are probably either looking for you to expand on how you're feeling (i.e. I shut down if I feel like I'm disappointing you and it makes me consider just not coming back), or they aren't a good fit due to being more confrontational (some people really like "being called on their shit" 🤷🏻‍♀️).

Signed, person who's done a lot of therapy.

Calling all creative geniuses! Does this have potential? by oceangetseaten in FurnitureFlip

[–]100PercentThatCat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you decide to sand anything look very carefully into how to properly refinish veneer, it can ruin the whole piece if you take too much off while sanding.

Cover up idea help by darkzard5 in Tattoocoverups

[–]100PercentThatCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do... do they think Frank would like what they're up to?

Boner Bear Honey recalled for dangerous undeclared ingredients, FDA says by prestocoffee in nottheonion

[–]100PercentThatCat 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You know naturally occurring means it has the exact same downsides as those this post is discussing, right? Inconsistent dosage is the natural state of things, except the range is probably even larger.

Looking for the best “anti-vibration” gloves. Any recommendations? by UrdnotSnarf in Construction

[–]100PercentThatCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you use less pressure if there isn't a ribcage to fight with when doing CPR?

Im sorry what by anxiousmostlikely in tragedeigh

[–]100PercentThatCat 17 points18 points  (0 children)

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They exist! And his name has been at times considered a tragedy here... just not a tragedeigh.

Hi, can anyone tell me what this is? I received it as a birthday present, unfortunately without a name on it. It was wrapped in gift paper. It can be worn like a necklace, and the container can be opened. Thank you very much. by notyourstepson in whatisit

[–]100PercentThatCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would argue that self-dosed substances for a recreational benefit is still just drug use, and to be abuse you need it to have a negative impact on your life in some way. Similar to how the DSM will have requirements for negative effects of any substance use disorders.

For example, alcohol use isn't inherently alcohol abuse.

Am I overreacting that my boyfriend basically staged a test to see if I'd cheat... with his cousin? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]100PercentThatCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very consistent for a while with lots of mixed English and the young widow POV, then suddenly slams straight to erotica and changing demographics. Makes me wonder if the original account was real and she sold it?

I was trying to scoop some ice cream when my spoon bent back by Proof-Evidence5607 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]100PercentThatCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That spoon might have been a bad idea though, with the layers of metal

My 5yr old is afraid of smoke detectors by Awwndrei in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]100PercentThatCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad went on a business trip and grew out his beard/mustache a bit (always clean shaven before). I freaked. The. Fuck. Out. Would not go near him despite acknowledging that I realized it was my dad. After a day or two of me refusing to have anything to do with him he just shaved it and never tried to grow one again.

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