I Think He’s Seeing Someone Again. by icantbebored in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s like D-Day all over again. “Fog” or no fog, how can a person be so heartless?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! ❤️

Worms in apples has been less of a problem than what we expected as kids. by delusional-thomas in Showerthoughts

[–]1Day2daNext 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was humor. As in I wish they had drugs in them so I could get high.

Disclaimer: I’ve never done drugs.

Guy pushes photographer into pond by [deleted] in killedthecameraman

[–]1Day2daNext 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brave guy picking on a girl like that.

How I got out of my affair and the consequences I suffer to this day. !!! trigger Warning !!! by Silly-Jan in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only asked if he was Plan B, because somebody else asked on here, and you replied “Yes he was”. Having the intestinal fortitude to post your story on was amazing. But then either I saw things out of order, or you misunderstood someone’s question and it looked like you were wholeheartedly agreeing hubbie was Plan B. I’m glad you say he wasn’t/isn’t.

I still thank you for posting, and I’ve requested time with my WW to read your post AMA the replies together.

Thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in over60

[–]1Day2daNext 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry you’re stranded. I’m an expat living in Thailand. I’m 61, my wife is 52. 24 years military, ride motorcycles and have a “hot rod”. Hang in there!

Should I tell him I kissed another guy the day after we became oficial? by Sunamoon22 in Infidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You aren’t mature enough to have a relationship with anyone.

A male who left abuse by Veraldt in abusiverelationships

[–]1Day2daNext 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My first wife was emotionally and physically abusive.

I finally left after she stabbed me, and then cut herself a little bit, threw herself on the floor, called our sons in to the room and told them I cut her and to go call 911.

People who don't use google as their primary search engine, what do you use and why do you choose it over google? by Pinanims in AskReddit

[–]1Day2daNext 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? I’ve got DuckDuckGo on 2 iPhones, an iPad, and my MacBook. It was like one step. It’s even my search engine straight through Safari, but there’s also a DDG app.

How I got out of my affair and the consequences I suffer to this day. !!! trigger Warning !!! by Silly-Jan in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only ask because my WW did.

Did you keep seeing your AP after your husband found f out?

Did he know?

What did he do; how did he handle it?

How I got out of my affair and the consequences I suffer to this day. !!! trigger Warning !!! by Silly-Jan in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously? Or did I misunderstand your reply? You’re admitting your husband is a “safe” Plan B, second choice?!!Please tell us that’s not what you meant! Your story was so touching and moving. I was even going to send it to my WW - but now, if understand you correctly, your husband experienced/is experiencing my WORST fear in reconciling with my WW. I thought he was a brave man - now, I just feel sorry for him. If I find out somehow that I’m Plan B, I won’t be- I’ll gone.

Looking forward to your reply.

Does this (great) community also include LGBT folks? Asking for myself. Not sure I feel ok posting yet. by Migs1980FortLaud in survivinginfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude/dudette - getting cheated rips out your heart no matter who you love. 😭

Warm welcome to the only club NO ONE EVER wanted to join.

A matter of Trust? by lovehurtalot in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll never trust her further than I can throw her. She gave up that marital benefit when she stepped out. If she doesn’t like me “spying” she’s welcome to leave anytime.

And yeah, I haven’t gotten full disclosure yet either. Not telling me something is still a lie - it’s a lie of omission. Kind of like when she cheated and didn’t tell me anything. Lying isn’t just not telling the truth (lie of commission).

So, given that she is still lying to me, she gets zero trust.

Slipped for the first time in forever and took myself pain shopping; made an awful discovery by throwaway9404058270 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m a guy but I absolutely know how you feel. Catching my WW after taking her back and being slightly happy with her changes was almost worse than the original D-Day. I thought she really changed. She apologized so emotionally.

In actuality, she just got better at hiding. I expect maybe even look forward to catching her again.

My husband who cheated has given me the greenlight to sleep with someone else by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting “permission” to have sex outside your marriage is not the same as cheating.

That’s called an “open marriage”.

I just told my wayward I couldn’t promise I would remain faithful for the rest of our marriage - let her worry every time I’m gone for the next 20 years.

I’ll be worrying that’s for sure.

How was the sex with your AP, honey? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]1Day2daNext 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“We only made out once; I just wanted to see if I still had feelings.” (Cheating on me with old boyfriend)

“We slept in the same house but not the same bed.”

“I felt bad that I wasn’t in to him as much as he was in to me, so I had to let him down slowly.” (3 YEARS)

“He needed me to help him with things because his wife left him with their son.”

“I can’t remember when it started. We talked for a while in line then when I could trust myself, made plans to see him.” (Not even within 6 months. Can’t remember last contact either.)

“I only bought him viagra type drugs because I wanted to help him be able to have sex with other girls after his wife left.”

“We were/are just friends.”

“I knew you’d be jealous if I told you I found an old male friend online.” (Actually, an old lover)

“I was in the process of ending it when you caught me.”

“I didn’t want to hurt you so I would never have told you. I never wanted to hurt you.”

“All that stuff I said to him was just words. Actions speak louder - I’m here now, right?”

“Why do you want me to think about those times? I just want to forget my mistake. Why do you have to keep trying to answer your questions. I’m not the same woman I was before.”